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[Rdkng07Participant 32]

Hello, new member here. I’m glad I found this site, and I found it researching women’s behaviors. You see, I have been married for 30 years, and cancer recently took my wife away from me. I see there is allot of animosity here about having wives, but she was a very good woman. Yes there were of course s~~~ tests on occasion, but for the most part she was old school and really had my back.

So here I am, trying to find out about today’s women. Holy s~~~, I must have been walking around with my eyes closed. I’m talking to a woman online, and its one big s~~~ test and game after another. After she says in her profile, no games, let’s be real. Really?
I am inclined to say to women in general just go ahead and f~~~ right off. I mean, I feel like sometime in the future I am going to want a woman at least around sometimes. Has it really gotten to the point where I am s~~~ out of luck?

I am thinking about myself, hitting the gym and perfecting everything about my life. But what do I do about women? I like them around me, and I need to at least throw on a crown once in a while and bang away. No problem with women coming around, I’m just not liking the idea of a one night stand.

How can I follow this lifestyle that is calling me and still take advantage of the one thing these current women have that I still want? I am f~~~ed, women ruined everything.

[Truthseeker82Participant 6406]

Welcome! First my sincere sympathies about losing your loved one. I just lost my Dad (he was 95 lived a long healthy life for the most part) and lost my mom over 20 years ago. Losing someone you love, no matter what the gender, is always painful. I will offer my own personal observations – for what its worth. Women are biologically programmed to behave a certain way – just as men. Many of the stories on this forum reflect negative behavior – and this, in my opinion, is a combination of their biological programming to secure a powerful mate and reproduce healthy offspring – and an increasingly gynocentric society. However, I keep in mind my Aunts (now 91) marriage to my Uncle (passed nearly 10 years ago). It lasted over 50 years. They truly supported each other. Perfect? No – nothing is. But my Aunt was raised in a different generation that valued commitment and respect. Those values are largely missing from western society today. And its influence, I fear, is creeping east to places like Asia and Eastern Europe due to the internet and media. I have been with a woman for over a year who was born in Central Asia and raised in Russia. Yes, I have had my share of s~~~ – who has not in a relationship – but she has very much supported me in almost every aspect. She demands very little financially from me and is a good mother to her teenage daughter. The problem is we live in the United States and the culture here is rampant with Misandry and Gynocentrism.
So I would say – don’t get married again – in the legal sense. Keep working on your own goals – whether that be improving physical shape, financial, hobbies – whatever. And avoid spoiled princesses. Yes you are looking then for a unicorn and unicorn’s do not exist in their purist sense. But you may find someone with some of those unicorn like qualities. Just protect yourself. Again, welcome to MGTOW and condolences on the loss of your loved one.

[John Woods 13Participant 2855]

Welcome!
I’m sorry for your loss.
I would say more, but today I’m in a bad mood so I’ll just say this for now: 30 years was enough. Forget about women and go your own way. It is just not worth it. You got lucky once, which was highly unlikely as it is, don’t push your luck!

The answer is NO. “I could but I won’t”. Memini murum!

[Anonymous 18]

Welcome…

Rdkng07 wrote:

After she says in her profile, no games, let’s be real.

Online isn’t ideal to look for someone sane. They are mostly crazy and mostly promiscuous and less often but still statistically significant carriers of some STDs.
Provided you are not looking for one night stands avoid online dating. Go out, make a new hobby. Wanting a woman is normal thing but so is washing your hands for 12th time for an OCD. See it as side effects of 30-years of asymptomatic wife love but you won’t be finding her kind in online dating world. And they bring plenty symptoms/baggage for themselves and for you to have. (Assuming your primary interest is in 2nd or 3rd hand used up and restored vagina mid-30s and up).

Rdkng07 wrote:

I am f~~~ed, women ruined everything.

Sure if women are your everything.

[UntamedParticipant]

Hello, Rdkng07. Thanks for the intro.
Condolences.

I’m afraid the answer to your question is NO.
NO you’re not dreaming. I imagine trying to get back into dating after 30yrs would be like jumping out of the plane without the chute and make no mistake it can happen. All you have to do is a little research on the eventual horrors of “dating” or “shacking” up – better – surf THIS site!
As soon as you allow yourself to care deeply about her it’s done, you’re screwed! You’d be better off crushing your left nut and feed it to the crows.

But yes, there are solutions for “this lifestyle” that’s calling you, thoughts patterns left over from a life that, sadly, isn’t there anymore. You reinvent yourself, find what you care about most (beside her) and go into it with your every waking moment.
It’s time to think about YOU. Seeking to start another marriage negates any other possibilities and pleasant turns your life may take. Why limit yourself?
Go your own way do your own things and see the chicks gravitate around you, every single one of them perched over your wallet like a vulture on a lone desert tree.
That is today’s sad reality for the most part. You might meet a NAWALT or Unicorn who’ll bring it all like you yearn it when you laugh alone at the screen in the living room and there’s still a small part of me that wants to believe otherwise but in the final analysis, women generally own Marriage and the State will be there behind her should you forget who’s boss.
That’s why Going Your Own Way is a must, MGTOW is the only way.
Welcome.

Don't let them Blame, Shame or Tame you!
Give 'em NOTHING, not even an answer!
#GenderSegragationNow!

[Anonymous 42]

30 years! Count your blessings! That’s about 30 lifetimes (30 marriages) by Hollywood standards! They change wives faster than a woman can make a baby! I call it the Marry’go”round, twin cousin to the C~~~ Carousel! Good luck! As for me, I don’t go to the amusement from hell!
But hey, you’re free to burn, I mean learn!

[HitmanParticipant]

welcome sir ! pull up a seat and enjoy , i’m glad you found the place where the truth is !

[Frank V.Participant 2445]

Rdkng07 wrote:

Hello, new member here. I’m glad I found this site, and I found it researching women’s behaviors. You see, I have been married for 30 years, and cancer recently took my wife away from me. I see there is allot of animosity here about having wives, but she was a very good woman. Yes there were of course s~~~ tests on occasion, but for the most part she was old school and really had my back.

So here I am, trying to find out about today’s women. Holy s~~~, I must have been walking around with my eyes closed. I’m talking to a woman online, and its one big s~~~ test and game after another. After she says in her profile, no games, let’s be real. Really?
I am inclined to say to women in general just go ahead and f~~~ right off. I mean, I feel like sometime in the future I am going to want a woman at least around sometimes. Has it really gotten to the point where I am s~~~ out of luck?

I am thinking about myself, hitting the gym and perfecting everything about my life. But what do I do about women? I like them around me, and I need to at least throw on a crown once in a while and bang away. No problem with women coming around, I’m just not liking the idea of a one night stand.

How can I follow this lifestyle that is calling me and still take advantage of the one thing these current women have that I still want? I am f~~~ed, women ruined everything.

First thing: Welcome !

Second: Let me express my sorrow for your loss. I can come across as cold sometimes, but it comes from my lines of work. I work as an Annalist and a Consultant, so having to put emotions aside after taking a step back to look at the full picture is something I have to do not only for myself, but to help clients do as well.

Third: Some thoughts

“…So here I am, trying to find out about today’s women. Holy s~~~, I must have been walking around with my eyes closed…”

Let’s treat this like a business, and you like an asset (life is priceless). Very often, people or companies returning to markets or jobs they left years before are shocked at the changes. And, “dating” has changed no less than anything else in 1/4 or 1/3 of a century. You are a step ahead of many, seeing the changes. But not only has dating changed, but so has your place within it. Even 30 years ago, you would have been in a far different position that you started in.

Why ?

“… I mean, I feel like sometime in the future I am going to want a woman at least around sometimes. Has it really gotten to the point where I am s~~~ out of luck?…”

Some would have you believe that. The truth is, quite the opposite. Take a look around, a lot of commentary made here about the raft of articles about the “Marriage Crisis’, the “Marriage Strike” and how “there are no good men”. Indeed, many Traditionalists are crying about a shortage of men like you.

You, are a walking, living breathing asset. Unlike when you where far younger, when women in their 20’s to early 30’s seem to have “the pick of the litter” to chose from, the situation changes as people age. For a man in his 40’s and 50’s, it is a totally different ball game and that is even more the case today than it was 30 years ago.

You, sir, are in short supply and high demand. You don’t need to “chase women”, just be out there and they will come to you and you can pick and chose as you wish. Yes, be a picky bastard- you are worth it !

And these days, as you will learn well from listening and watching others, Traditional Marriage is simply a very bad risk. Your marriage was one of the exceptions, it certainly is not the rule and has not been for a very long time.

“…I am thinking about myself, hitting the gym and perfecting everything about my life…”

Considering the big change you are going through (becoming a widower), that is a smart thing to do. Not just improving your body, but giving yourself time to learn about your new situation and the current environment. Another sign that you are headed in the right direction.

Don’t rush- you write this timetable, and no one else !

“..But what do I do about women? I like them around me, and I need to at least throw on a crown once in a while and bang away. No problem with women coming around, …”

As you are learning, and it will take some getting used to, you don’t even have to “find women”, just get seen and they will come to you. I think in the coming months, you might be happily surprised that this will not be a repeat of your youth. You are in demand ! You are in the driver’s seat !

“…I’m just not liking the idea of a one night stand…”

Then back to what I said before. Taking the time to “clear out the cobwebs” and to reorient yourself is smart. Take all the time in the world to figure out what you want. The situation is new, as are the choices it presents to you. Like going to a new restaurant, take your time to look over the menu, see what appeals to you and sort out what you want !

And online dating is not the first choice I would suggest to anyone. iLearn and others covered the reasons. I also see it as unnecessary, there are plenty of women already around you. You don’t have to put up with s~~~ tests and games, and those tend to be worse with internet dating.

Some Exceptions apply, your outcome can vary- but keep an open mind to new possibilities.

Frank V.

PS: Remember- YOU are in demand YOU get to chose and YOU own your own life. If any woman has a problem with that, dump her now and save yourself the trouble.

[RoyDalParticipant]

Rdkng07 wrote:

Hello, new member here. I’m glad I found this site, and I found it researching women’s behaviors.

Greetings and welcome! I too am glad you found this site.

W,r,t, incurable STDs and STIs, be mindful of the fact that 1/3 of the human population is infected with the same. Choose your course in life with this in mind.

Society asks MGTOWs: Why are you not making more tax-slaves?

[RennieParticipant]

Welcome.

[WallyParticipant]

Welcome, sounds like you were fortunate. A fellow said to me right before I took the red pill, if they have your back its the best thing in the world, of course he was married three times and none of them ever had his back.

"what a waste of a life, to marry, give up your freedom, just for the hope of not dying alone. Don't get married Son."

[LonerBonerParticipant 358]

Welcome!

Check out BadPapa on youtube, he has some good tips on women.

Keep clam i'm dyslexic.

[Rdkng07Participant 32]

Thank you for all the responses. What I’m digging the most about the MGTOW community so far is the wisdom that is free flowing like water.

Such a rare commodity and it’s here in abundance. It’s as if 1 out of every 10 men truly have wisdom, and they come here to comment and share.

Awesome website too.

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