I was in a relationship about 3 years ago. (before I knew what MGTOW was) And as always for the first while it seemed things were good. Or so I thought. This relationship lasted a year. After 5 months is where things started to go down hill. I first noticed it with her family as I felt they were very dysfunctional. Especially her mother, who would order both of us around to do stuff for her. Later on she would start complaining to me about small things, and it eventually led to everything what I was doing was wrong. But it was ok if she did it. When I would complain my voice would either be ignored or she would switch the subject. Things would just get worst after that.
One weekend she had to move and I had to help. So I got a couple of my friends together, got a truck and loaded up all of her stuff. When we finally got to her new place, guess what? She didn’t even get the keys from her landlord yet. All this work for nothing. She even phoned her landlord to try get the keys last minute and the landlord couldn’t come. Very frustrating. We went back to her old place and unloaded everything. My buddy who had the truck only got paid $5.00, I had to pay the rest for her mistake. Feeling angry, I went home to sleep it off. The next morning I got a text from her saying she finally got the keys. But my buddies couldn’t make it so it was just me and her. What a nightmare! She had so much junk that it took 12 hours to move everything. I didn’t even get a thank you from her. Let alone her mom was also ordering me around.
After a couple months, my friends and her family started hanging out. I just got laid off from my job and had low funds. One night her brother wanted me to drive her mom home, but I couldn’t because of lack of funds and was low on gas. So they offered, but I found out later on that behind my back I was told that he called me selfish and so fourth. And she even took his side too after all the stuff I done for. If I had the funds I would’ve done it, but things were tight. And they couldn’t even help me either when I asked them that. I started losing hope for this relationship when this happened.
We went out for dinner one night and she was holding my cigarettes. When we were done, we went outside and I asked if I could have a cigarette. She went looking through her purse and she had lost them. I let out a sigh of frustration (I held it in the previous episodes) and she got all mad at me saying that I hate everybody and everything. I wanted to ask her how do you lose a pack of smokes, but I just kept quiet the whole night till I dropped her off. It was nothing but silence the whole night. She hung around me like a leech not saying a word. I dropped her off and that was it.
The icing on the cake, when I finally had enough, was when I was having a bad day at a career seminar (I was unemployed and was taking a free course about careers) she texted me asking me how it was going and I said it could be better. She then asked if I was going to pick her up on the weekend and I said I couldn’t. After about 5 min of silence I get a lot of these texts saying that I should get a job already, I should be helping her out (she was broke as well). Finally I texted back saying its over, we are done, have a nice life. I heard nothing after that. I found out after a couple days she moved on and found a new bf. I just chuckled and was relieved it was over.
After a couple months, she started texting me again, but I mostly ignored her. The odd time I would answer though if I was bored. But I guess she was trying to get back with me. She finally told me this after being broken up for 3 weeks with her new bf. I told her its better off we never see each other again and that was that. After all my gut was telling me to stay away. I kept thinking if I stayed with her I would be forced into slavery. I didn’t even feel sad or heart broken once I broke up with her. I felt free and peace.
To this day I been doing my own thing, and mostly been working. As funny as it sounds I don’t miss her at all. If anything I think to myself why the hell did I waste a year of my life with somebody like that? Relationships aren’t worth it these days. You are better off alone than with a woman.
What people call "love" is just a chemical reaction that compels animals to breed. It hits hard, then it slowly fades, leaving you stranded in a failing marriage. Your parents are gonna do it. Break the cycle. Rise above. Focus on science.
DJ26 3 years, 5 months ago.
