Have you ever seen a divorce decree?

[narwhalParticipant]

I’m just curious, for those of you have never been divorced, either because you are currently married or have never married, I’ve you ever read through a typical divorce decree?  I think most people have a general idea of what happens in divorce, but it is very much different to read through one.   Most churches these days have marriage prep classes…I wonder why they don’t make divorce decrees required reading.

Just a thought, but it might be a nice feature for this site if they’re was some sample decrees available for reading.  It might also be helpful to have a ‘calculate your child support payments feature’, similar to the way banking websites have loan payment calculators.    Perhaps some sort of calculator that projects your income as a single vs married, married with 1 child, etc.

Speaking for myself, I was very naive when I got married.  I didn’t let myself think about possibly divorcing.  If you don’t go into something like that focusing on the possibility of failure.  I was confident in myself that I could make it work regardless of the potential troubles, that I would never quit.  I was right about that, I just didn’t consider that she had no where near the resolve I had.

The words “for better for worse, richer for poorer, sickness and in health, till death due us part”….not binding.

 

Ok. Then do it.

[RusskyParticipant 13503]

I have prepared all the paperwork via online questionnaire on icanefile.org (which state of MN supports), brought them for review of court worker, we both signed them and filed, showed up in court to finalize it. There were no lawyers involved. The whole thing costed 400, a half of which I had my ex wife pay. I have to tell you I was impressed and I keep thanking the Lord everything turned out so smoothly.
I was expecting to be raped sideways, but none of that happened. I am guessing that’s because I already went bankrupt and worked a job paying 12/hr before the divorce. The online thing is not perfect but did its job and had all the information I needed to do this on my own. There was also a child support calculator on the site – here’s the link

http://childsupportcalculator.dhs.state.mn.us/Calculator.aspx

proud carrier of the 'why?' chromosome

[RoyDalParticipant]

What a great topic! Thanks for thinking of it scubasteve, and thanks, RusskyKGB, for the MN link. You got me curious, and wouldn’t ya know, the same site that has the how to catch a man article also has a raft of how to divorce ones: http://www.wikihow.com/Category:Divorce

Full disclosure: Never married, therefore never divorced, all we had to do was divvy up the books and CDs. Whew!

Society asks MGTOWs: Why are you not making more tax-slaves?

[BeerParticipant 11832]

Haha…just messed around with a calculator for my state.  If I had an ex making about 30k a year it’d cost me a little over 1000 a month for child support and to add the kid to my insurance.  I wouldn’t think that too outrageous to budget 1000 bucks a month for a kid…between food, clothes, activities, and healthcare…I mean I could do it cheaper if I had to but this amount didn’t seem obscene.

But the issue is what the f~~~ is the ex wife paying?  If she matched what I was providing, because women want equality so bad…I don’t think I could spend 2000 a month for a kid without spoiling the living s~~~ out of them to the point where it would f~~~ up their work ethic for life…plus, considering the overwhelming chance she had primary custody, she would get also get the tax benefits.

Its funny when I tell people I don’t want to get married but I’d love to have kids.  They always look at me like an idiot.  Only the men seem to understand when I tell them if things didn’t work out with the kid’s mom…at least not being married I’d only get hit for child support, and not child support, the house, half of all other assets, and probably stuck with some of her pre-existing debt.

[USMC0331Participant 40]

Yeah when I actually read through my divorce papers I was floored and the level of detail in which they seem to think that they can control your life. Money is only the start of it. Back in the 90’s a court tried to order me to pay 400$ a month for one kid when I was barely making 25k a year and already had a kid to support. I could have gotten that kid his own apartment for that almost. I did the math and figured out I didn’t even spend half that on the kid I was raising. The idea that child support is for the child is laughable when they calculate it on a percentage of your income. I’m  told in some countries they just calculate the average cost of having a kid then order you to pay half of that. Anything else is at your discretion, which is much better than the US system, but still gives the mother all the control of the situation. Most single moms spend their child support at the hair salon or the nail salon or clothing stores. How else do you think these fat ugly bitches afford all of that when most of them work at KFC, if they even bother to work at all. Women like to throw out daycare as a major cost but to be honest if your plan is to let a daycare center raise your kid for you then you may as well just give the kid up for adoption and call it a day.  You would be better off having your kid raised by wolves than one of those places.

[experiencedParticipant]

REF ScubaSteve’s, “Most churches these days have marriage prep classes…I wonder why they don’t make divorce decrees required reading.”  IMO it is lying by omission. Like the painting of the sword of Damocles with sword removed.

All interested please attend the, “Marriage apex seminar drama meeting class crisis partner counseling social salvage conference outreach group”  AKA “would someone please watch my kids while I hook another sucker?”

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