Have You Been Cheated On? Who Was It?

[StargazerParticipant 12505]

I’m curious, gentlemen… have you been cheated on? Has a female you were having sex with in an exclusive relationship gone “off the reservation” to get some action and you found out about it? If so, who was it with and how did she meet him/her?

Here’s my story:

The last time a female cheated on me was about 14 years ago… the last time I actually cared about a female, I’d have to say. She had a friend who was a hot young stripper and the two of us went to see this chick and got a three way lap dance with my female in the middle. After that, she talked a lot about wanting to bring the stripper home for something more and I was all on board with it. A few weeks later I went out of town (to Japan to get laid… a lot… so sue me!) and while I was gone, I left her the keys to my place so she could take care of my cat. She didn’t know it, but I’d also given a key to a colleague so they could come use my scanner (a nice large format flatbed for cartoon animation). Well, my colleague went to my place and busted my female and the stripper… and the stripper’s boyfriend… f~~~ing on my couch.

When I got back, I ended things. I wasn’t so upset that she’d gotten laid… we had a pretty open deal… but that she’d f~~~ed the stripper with HER boyfriend rather than with me. At least she showed me the pictures they took.

In the other situation, I was the other guy and got together with a married chick that I met at a local Starbucks. We totally hit it off and started seeing each other and I got her back to my place and naked as quickly as I could… she hadn’t been wearing a ring but after we’d been at it a few weeks, she told me she was married. As if that wasn’t bad enough, she wanted me to meet her husband and befriend him so that she and I could spend more time together. She brought him along to dinner one night and the two of them sat across from me and he chatted with me like nothing was up while his wife toed my b~~~~ under the table. I played along until I’d had enough of the deception then ended it.

I want to hear your stories… the girlfriend who f~~~ed your best friend, who hooked up with your boss or your brother (or dad!) or who snuck around on you with her friends or the guy at the coffee shop or whoever. Let’s hear it. I want to know the depths that these creatures will sink to. Go!

[KeymasterKeymaster]

I’m curious, gentlemen… have you been cheated on?

Is a frog’s ass watertight?

Getting a woman to cheat is not like getting her to go the gym. All you gotta do is throw it in front of her face.

I was a dirty dog a hand full of time times in my life but not when I had a “girlfriend”. What’s the point of having a girlfriend if you’re gonna wolf around? But women don’t think like that. One met a guy online, and I found out about it while finding her emails. Ever since I saw the line in Mission Impossible II, I knew “women are like monkeys. they don’t let go of one branch until they have a good grip on the next”.

Plus, as a part-time bartender in my early 20s, I knew women were SALLLLUTTTTTTTTSSS.
So i was never surprised by it. Certainly not “devastated”.

Never walked in on them in my bed or anything.
But if I had married any of them, I would be P~~~ED. So thank f~~~ it didn’t work out that way.

If you keep doing what you've always done... you're gonna keep getting what you always got.

[Anonymous 42]

 

Wow KeyMaster, I call it swinging from dick to dick, Tarzan built the tree house; what they didn’t tell us is that Jane could swing from dick to dick faster than Tarzan could catch her!
I myself never caught them in the act. I just knew by preponderance of evidence! My older brother I found trembling in a closet with his mind blown after finding his 1st wife f~~~ing some dick-stick! My friend SMELLED another man on his woman, he’s not the kind of guy you want to mess with. I watched him punch the f~~~ out of his dash board till it was gone, with his hands bleeding he started crying, yea I seen a lot of s~~~!
Another friend told me my girl striped in front of him and wanted it! He declined, and told me or the incident. As I would Him!

This is just the tip of the iceberg, the “got caught” to “got away with it” ratio is: 88% got away with it vs. 12% got caught, and when they got caught they manipulated the ratio to 98% no convictions, 2% busted, and they make no apology, their attitude is “f~~~ them” “who cares”?

[TheNinjaUWannaH8Participant 386]

True Not-Hollywood Story.

During my Punk Muthaf~~~a Blue Pill Mangina days in college….I dated a girl named “Anne”.  When she was a high school senior and I was a College Freshman, I took her to her prom and met her Mom and Step-Dad.  Her Mom seemed to like me.

Nonetheless, I suspected she was a bit too experienced for me and had HOE in her.  Unfortunately, I was inexperienced back then and my game was F~~~Shiet.

Anyhoot, during my Sophmore year and her Freshman year….One Day, I went over to visit a buddy of mine named “Frank” who I thought was a good friend and who I was planning to pledge a fraternity with.  As I knocked on Frank’s dorm door, I heard him f~~~in’ my Girl….bed squeaking and Anne making grunting cumming noises and shiet.

Of course, I was hurt.  Obviously, I did not want anything to do with them.  They started to date seriously.   I bumped into them a few times on campus holding hands and I would simply walk off like a Punk Bitch.

Ironically, several weeks later, a mutual buddy of ours named “Aaron” came over to my dorm room and told me that Frank went off campus to visit a guy named “Hamilton”.  Hamilton roomed with a guy named “Evander.”

Hamilton was acting real nervous and trying to get Frank and him to leave and grab a beer somewhere.

Well…apparently Frank started to hear his girl “Anne’s” cumming noises coming from Evander’s room.  She was getting drilled and cumming really hard with Evander.

Heard Frank was real hurt.   HaHa Muthaf~~~a!  Chickens coming HOmE to Roost.

I Never pledged with that Muthaf~~~a Frank.  Plus he did not ever get the grades to pledge.  I pledged another frat and started to get New Pussy.

Anne is a Physician now…and still a HOE.  A Gynecologist. How Funny!

Moral of the Story:  Hoes ain’t Shiet.  And Watch who you call your Buddy.

 

[GoneGaltParticipant 361]

Yeah, I’ve explained elsewhere my stories of being cheated on (2) – random guys I never knew.

On this subject, here’s a funny story of a guy’s Facebook breakup with a girl he’d lived with for 3 years and had just found out she cheated on him for 2 of those years …

http://www.playboy.com/articles/guy-response-to-cheating-ex

[Smitty the Great OneParticipant 1535]

I have probably been cheated on more than even I know, and I know enough to know I want to know no more.As far as I can tell 98% of women are completely skeevy trash bag hoes.The 2% that ain’t are already locked with with a decent guy, those lucky few, and even then there is STILL a chance she might.

Life is too long to play by someone elses rules....

[Anonymous 42]

Smitty the Great One wrote:

there is STILL a chance she might.

2% NO!   The percentage is .0001%, and even then, SHE WILL!

[StargazerParticipant 12505]

You can’t be “cheated” if you don’t ask them for a commitment. That’s why I never offer an exclusive relationship. Even in my darkest blue pill days I knew this and never told a female that I was exclusive to her nor asked one to be exclusive to me.

Now, when she brings another dude and his girlfriend over to my place for a three way while I’m out of town, that’s f~~~ed… but only because it’s a violation of my space, not because she’s f~~~ing someone else. I was f~~~ing plenty of someone elses the whole time myself.

No one can rob you of what you do not possess.

[Governor Megachris%Participant 3584]

All the way since my first relationship, I definitely have been.

(2 left me because I wasn’t “gangster enough” apparently, 3 left me because she was a lesbian hoping I’d make her straight.  Neither were technically cheating here, but I figured I’d explain the number skips)

Girlfriend 1: Said she was “performing” on another guy so she’d practice for me later, and “didn’t know it was cheating.”

Girlfriend 4: Left me because I wanted to spend time with her and it made her angry because she wanted to spend so much time with her “best guy friend.”  I think everyone probably knows what that would equate to in some way or another.

Girlfriend 5: Told me she wasn’t a big fan of sexual activity unless I pretended I was raping her (that was her fantasy, not mine though)…however, at the same time, she was speaking to another guy and getting her enjoyments off of him online (which had nothing to do with the “rape fantasy”).  Ended up leaving me for him.

Girlfriend 6: Was taking pictures of herself for other men and very happily receiving some, then was upset when she didn’t know I found out (yet) and was purposefully ignoring her.

Girlfriend 7: Was talking to men online and telling them she’d like to meet up with them (her pictures were very “come hither” on her social media pages as well, which drew attention from literally hundreds of men).  I turned her off because I was telling her I caught what she was doing.

Girlfriend 8: was starting to sell herself to drugs, and there was a high chance she was giving men some action to get said drugs sometimes.

Girlfriend 9 was one of the only ones that was good to me.  I’ll admit to possibly screwing that one up, because other women were talking to me and I couldn’t control myself at that time, and for obvious reasons, she was hurt by it.  I wasn’t the greatest person in that timeframe (all of 2010, to be exact).

Girlfriend 10: Left me for a controlling and manipulative woman, claiming that *I* was the abusive, controlling, manipulative one…despite her lying to me about anything happening between her and this girl.  It’s why after that relationship, I was going to even question any future girlfriends’ relationships with women, friends or not.

Girlfriend 11: Cheated on me with men online in the first month.  Being an idiot, I forgave her.  She then did it again twice more.  This is the one (if anyone’s seen my previous posts) that also abused me, beating me because she thought I was cheating on her with a friend of mine.  I think I gave her a little too much grace, seeing how I let her cheat on me and then let her beat me after for her false assumption that I was cheating on her.  I couldn’t do it because I didn’t want to become my dad (he forgave my mother many, many times when she cheated on him).

[Smitty the Great OneParticipant 1535]

Chris, you have had way too much time to think about that s~~~. Now I’m gonna guess you’re still in your 20’s. So just giving up on women at this point in your life is not a reasonable option. Your testosterone levels won’t be dropping anytime soon, so I’ll help you out. It’s good that you can autopsy all those relationships, and give an honest appraisal of the COD each time. Now that you’ve seen learned, and been burned here’s what you do.

Remember these 3 things and you’ll never go wrong

1. Women do not love you, they love what you do for them or how you make them feel, but NOT YOU.

2. Women are by far the best liars on the planet because they create truth by consensus and not fact.

3. Women have no loyalty to anyone other than themselves because their nature is HYPERGAMY !

Now, interact however you deem best with the female of the species.

Life is too long to play by someone elses rules....

[KeymasterKeymaster]

Stargazer wrote:

You can’t be “cheated” if you don’t ask them for a commitment. That’s why I never offer an exclusive relationship. Even in my darkest blue pill days I knew this and never told a female that I was exclusive to her nor asked one to be exclusive to me.

That’s a far more unique perspective than you might give yourself credit for. Ive heard very few men say that out loud. It’s a HUGE topic and needs to be brought out where everyone can see it. We’ve prepared a big piece on “cheating” and the bulls~~~ that even 13/15 year old girls perpetuate with their “boyfriends”.

HE CHEATED!!!!! HE LIKED HER PHOTO ON FACEBOOK!!! THAT”S EMOTIONAL INFIDELITY!!!!

… and other such nonsense. Like this kind of s~~~:

••••

That is the most pathetic s~~~ I have seen.
if I saw that guy in a shopping mall, I would walk right up to him and ask him what the f~~~ he thinks he’s doing.

It took me until my 30s before I would be able to articulate it, but the way women accuse UNMARRIED Men of “cheating” just p~~~es me off. When any chick tried that with me (or in my presence), she would be told “HONEY, NO UNMARRIED MAN IS REQUIRED TO BE FAITHFUL TO YOU. THAT’S WHY HE”S NOT MARRIED. SO HE DOESN”T HAVE TO F~~~ING EXPLAIN HIMSELF TO SOME BITCH OR APOLOGIZE. You want a man to be faithful to you? START SUCKING AND F~~~ING better than anybody else, because unless you do, shut the f~~~ up about “cheating”.

The reality about “cheating” is not what we think it is.
It’s not the “cheating” she hates. She only hates the fact that she couldn’t cheat him OUT of it.

A vastly different concept altogether.

Women want men who other women want! They just want that man with options to not act on those options. And then they want to get away with controlling those options and deciding where he arcs his glob. NO. Unless she is never allowing him to leave the house with a drop of semen in his b~~~~, women will shut the f~~~ about about “cheating”. Men don’t *OWE* it to women to be faithful. It’s a compliment to her and a privilege – only. It’s not an expected requirement. And the sooner men get hip to this s~~~, the sooner women can shut the f~~~ up about it.

If you keep doing what you've always done... you're gonna keep getting what you always got.

[StargazerParticipant 12505]

Thanks, KeyMaster. And good to see your response.

As far back as I can remember (at least once I started having sex at 19, late bloomer for where I was raised!) I knew that I was not going to be able to commit to any one female nor was I going to be able to look one in the face and lie to her about exclusivity just to be able to keep having sex with her.

So if the topic never came up, I never brought it up and just let her believe whatever she wanted to believe. Then if she “caught” me and tried to make a big deal of it, I would just say “We never talked about it and I never agreed to anything. You can stop seeing me if that’s what you want to do.”

In cases where a female would mention exclusivity or say that she was exclusive to me as if that bound me to do the same for her, I would say “I am not going to ask you what you are doing when you’re not with me and I’m not going to tell you what I’m doing when I’m not with you. All I ask is that if something happens that prevents you from seeing me any more, you tell me… and I will do the same for you.”

On the rare occasion that a female would come correct and actually propose an exclusive relationship, I would decline. “I am happy with our relationship the way it is. If that’s not enough for you then maybe you should find someone else.”

The bottom line is that I never did (and never believed I would) find anyone who was good enough that I would not ever want to flirt with or have sex with another female so there was no incentive for me to agree to bind myself to any one female. The most I ever did was tell females that they needed to be free to see me if they were going to see me. That meant not being married and not being in any relationship with someone else who believed it was exclusive. That last part is key… I don’t want you all to myself, but you’ve got to not have anyone else in your life who believes he has you all to himself.

That’s all I ever asked for and all I was ever willing to offer because I live in a world of plenty where there is always a new female right around the corner. I may not turn those corners as often as I used to, but I know they’re still there and until (not likely!) a female comes along who is so spectacular that I can not imagine my life going on without her in it, I will keep thinking and feeling this way.

p.s. For the sake of full disclosure, I did actually propose marriage to a female once for reasons that you’ll have to buy me a beer to hear more about, but that only lasted three weeks and I wasn’t even true to her in my heart during that time… so I’m going to mark that down as more of an experiment (like sniffing a fart just to see how bad it smells) than an actual commitment.

[KeymasterKeymaster]

So if the topic never came up, I never brought it up and just let her believe whatever she wanted to believe. Then if she “caught” me and tried to make a big deal of it, I would just say “We never talked about it and I never agreed to anything. You can stop seeing me if that’s what you want to do.”

Kindred spirits. On all of it – but especially that ^^.

Its the perfect out. Just telling her right off the bat “NO GODDAM RELATIONSHIP”. We can have fun and f~~~ and go to movies and whatever but i am S~~~ at relationships. Of course the female then thinks she’s can “fix” you… (“Oh I’ll show HIM”)… and then you don’t call one day, or you go out with another chick you can tell her YOU WERE HONEST FROM THE BEGINNING and she doesn’t get to lecture you on jack diddly.

NO “relationship” means no possibility of a “break up”, no awkward drama, and nobody can call you a “cheater”.

It puts an end to ALL of that s~~~.

When I buy you that beer in Vegas, I want to hear all about that proposal.

If you keep doing what you've always done... you're gonna keep getting what you always got.

[StargazerParticipant 12505]

NO “relationship” means no possibility of a “break up”, no awkward drama, and nobody can call you a “cheater”.

Exactly! No break ups. No guilt. No leverage. No female has the power to tell me how to behave, withhold sex from me or threaten me with being alone. All I have to say is “I enjoy the things we do together and could probably continue to do so for a long time to come but if it’s not working for you any more and you want to end it, I will understand and we can call simply call it quits.” And they can take it or leave it.

The last female I was involved with… we saw each other twice a week for almost a year. I was with her when I was (except for when I needed to think about someone else to f~~~ her, it happens) and by myself or with someone else when I wasn’t. In the end, she told me she couldn’t continue to see me if we weren’t exclusive and I told her I was happy with things the way they were and wasn’t interested in an exclusive relationship. Then it was up to her to make the call. She’s out there right now looking for someone as good as me who is willing to commit to her (good luck!) and I’m hanging out with a 21 year old model who loves video games and costume play and wants to be my sidekick.

As Gilbert Godfried once said “I’m like Jesus… accept me or go to hell.”

[CPT ObviousParticipant 2760]

Yes, the male PTO president at the school my wife worked at.  Turns out he had done it before.  He and his wife recently moved into our town after she caught him cheating in Tucson.  Now he was spending a lot of time at the school, the male president of all-female Parent Teacher Organization along with lots of young female teachers.

I had lots of signs that something was going on but I chose to ignore them.  Surely my wife wouldn’t do that.  This was her first year teaching in a middle school.  She had been a stay at home mom before.  Not necessarily a good one, but I accepted the notion that it would be better to have a parent raise the kids when they were young.

Once our kids started school, I paid to put my ex through college to get her teaching degree because she felt that would make her happy.  $25K later she had her degree and was teaching grade school.  I thought things were going well with our marriage.

However, I started getting frustrated with her late night working and not being able to get a hold of her at times.  She conveniently seemed to forget her cell phone a lot, or didn’t have service or the battery was dead.

There was one time we were having sex and out of the blue (I s~~~ you not), I heard a voice in my head that said, “She is having an affair.”  I was a little surprised and wondered where the hell that random thought came from and dismissed it.  Another time she got home from “work” and we had sex and I pretty much just fell into her vagina, which I thought was strange because normally it takes a little work and often lube to take the plunge.

I was still in denial, but a little voice in the back of my head started nagging me.

Eventually it was my 8 year-old daughter that popped the cork on the bottle of lies.  She and her sister were signed up for an after-school art class that day.  My ex texted me saying that she was going to take our daughters the art class and run a couple errands and might be a little late.  I made dinner, and we were all sitting around the table talking about our day.  I asked about the art class and my ex talked about how great it was and what they did that day.

Later that night I was tucking in my daughter for bed.  She said, “Mommy is silly.”

I asked, “Why is that?”

“We didn’t go to the art class today.”

Me, surprised, “Oh really?  Where did you go?”

“We went to Michael’s house.” (I knew who Michael was and that my ex worked with him at the school).

I asked a few important questions like whether his wife was there, what did Mommy and Michael do, what did you do?

As suspected, Michael’s wife was not there, and he and my ex went to one room while my girls were put in another room to play with that cat.

Went downstairs and the s~~~ hit the fan.  At first there was denials but as I caught her in more lies, the truth starting coming out.  Even more details came out in the following weeks.

Sad thing is I kicked her out and said we were done.  She got a lawyer, but we got counseling and I was talked into sticking it out and making it work.  (Terrible advice, we ended up getting divorced a few years later).  Once something like happens, try as you may, that s~~~ don’t flush.  The kids were now teens during the divorce (bad time to split) and I had a lot more assets to lose.

"You don't know a woman till you have met her in divorce court."

[Anonymous 42]

Hey CPT Obvious, the first time that thought entered your mind? you said “(I s~~~ you not), I heard a voice in my head that said, “She is having an affair.”“… I had a friend that caught his girl cheating, by the scent of another man, (I s~~~ you not), maybe that rung your bell, endorphins are powerful primeval alarms. It only takes one or two, I witnessed what they can do…

[CPT ObviousParticipant 2760]

Anonymous wrote:

Hey CPT Obvious, the first time that thought entered your mind? you said “(I s~~~ you not), I heard a voice in my head that said, “She is having an affair.”“… I had a friend that caught his girl cheating, by the scent of another man, (I s~~~ you not), maybe that rung your bell, endorphins are powerful primeval alarms. It only takes one or two, I witnessed what they can do…

Yes, you are correct.  The subconscious picks up the signs, even if the blue pill is clouding your conscious mind.  Looking back, it seems so obvious (part of the reason for my screen name).

"You don't know a woman till you have met her in divorce court."

[Governor Megachris%Participant 3584]

@Smitty – You’re dead-on right!  I’m 26 now, going on 27 in May.  I don’t think too much about it until someone asks if I’ve ever been cheated on, and (my favorite question) “what did I do to make them cheat on me?”  Then, I give the stories, because I find them quite interesting…they’ve lead me to the thought process I have now.  I don’t mind spending time around women, but I’ve noticed (as your 3 points made) that none of them really loved me, they just loved using me and my resources overall.

[ngghowParticipant 6]

Yes and I didn’t know the bloke. I suspect I have been cheated on by other women and these days I would rather trust my gut feeling over her word any day.

Anyway, here’s a nice video I remember from years ago, fond memories of me and a few mates just loving this. Enjoy 🙂

[StargazerParticipant 12505]

Good one.

Any time a female says “he’s just a friend” you can bet your ass that she’s either f~~~ing him or that she used to f~~~ him and he’s trying to get back in. You can definitely be sure that even if she hasn’t f~~~ed him, she is FULLY AWARE that he is trying to f~~~ her and she’s getting something out of the deal.

If your female wants to visit with a guy friend, make sure you are there the whole time. In fact, if you walk away from your female in the presense of another man (ANY other man) you should be prepared to have her spooked just as sure as if you were a pimp and she was a C Team hoe you left out on the corner too long.

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