Greetings

[JtheTruckerParticipant 5]

I have only just discovered MGTOW in the past week. It started with a video about Norah Vincent, the lesbian feminist writer, and her 18 month experience living as a man. From there I moved from vid to vid and now I have ended up here. So now here it goes.

I was in a long term relationship for 16 years and she was the one that ended it last September.  I was on the road and she sent a lengthy text doing so. That may seem like a bad way to do it but we both hated talking on the phone and often comunicated by text or social media.

When I read the text I was shocked but not heartbroken. In fact I felt relief that it was over and have had a feeling of freedom aftewards. I knew that day was coming and maybe I didn’t have the courage to finally do it myself but was glad it was done. We were not married so there is no legal s~~~ to go through and was a clean split.

I have been more relaxed about life and my job since then.  I would stress out about getting home when it was time and it would continue at home know I was heading back out on the road soon. Trying to keep her happy when I was there and spending enough time with her. Now I head out when I am ready and get home when I can and just relax and enjoy the time with myself. And my attitude has changed for the better.

Looking back I see how she would manipulate and hurt me during arguments. She would bring up things from the past and I would often just end up leaving and get a hotel room for the night. We would make up the next day and continue on. The final straw I think was when she got into the bottle of whiskey I had last year. She had stopped drinking for a while because even she knew how she was when she drank, all or nothing. She got really confrontational and violent. I ended up calling 911 and she spent the night in jail. That was it for me. She had to pay the fine, because I wouldn’t, and go to anger management classes. I just didn’t give a s~~~ anymore about the relationship.

I do not regret the time we had together to much because we did have some good times. Now it is just time for me and I think I will keep it that way.

 

[…Spectator 1165]

Greeting to you as well JtheTrucker. ListenUp! here.

I just finished reading your intro. you fared better than many, so congrats to you! She would bring up things from the past? Yup, we all know that one. Funny how they don’t remember a single great thing you ever did (they expect that s~~~) but there is a running scorekeeper app inside their heads more accurate than Sports Center’s statistics team keeping track of every time you f~~~ed up for future use against you. Then, when you nail them on their s~~~ its “oooohhhhh,,,,that’s different.” F~~~ that s~~~. Congrats you had the b~~~~ to put her in jail, and on behalf of me and my friends here (guys, do I have any friends here?) we f~~~ing salute you man.

Quick story: for years I traveled on the road with bands and I had imported this amazing looking girl to live with me from out of state. We had a great two weeks together, then I had to go on tour for three months. I stayed in touch as best I could, but in those days we didn’t have cell phones, only answering machines. So about a week after I left, my dad leaves a message and says “we are getting concerned seeing all these different guys going in and out of your house. Do you know what’s going on?” Nope, I was young and I had no idea. Upon my return home, she had moved out. She had left a huge stack of newspapers next to the trash in the kitchen. When I moved all the papers, under them were all the bills she was supposed to have paid with the money I gave her before I left. F~~~ing bitch! oh well…welcome to MGTOW man!

[BrainPilotParticipant 7645]

Greetings J,
Welcome to mgtow. The description of the girl you wrote in your post is a classic set of symptoms for alcoholism. That is a form of insanity well known for extending itself into what would have been the otherwise sane minds of people in relationships with the alcoholic, and making them insane as well. However depressing it may seem at the moment, you have dodged an enormous bullet by escaping from that relationship. There are few things out there more mentally toxic for a man than being in a relationship with an alcoholic woman.

Having her jailed was the best thing you could have done. It stopped her from possibly killing you, which women have done and then walked away with almost no consequences after claiming self defense (which you cannot refute because you are dead). It also creates a public record that she has a problem that even the state now recognizes. This can be useful if stalker issues arise later, although I can’t imagine anything more hopeless than trying to stalk a trucker… And finally, it creates some consequences for her for HER drinking problem.

Most alcoholics will not see drinking as a problem until it causes them some problems. And reformed alcoholics will acknowledge that the negative impact of their drinking on people around them is not what inspires them to get help and stop. Usually, they are drinking to escape some emotional discomfort, and they don’t stop until their drinking brings them more pain than it takes away. By then, it has usually brought enormous pain to everyone around them.

You’ll miss out on all of that by getting out when you did…

Look, it's not my fault that tornado dropped a house on your sister. Now get back on your broom and get your ass out of here... and take your monkeys with you

[…Spectator 1165]

AT NEAR 1 am in the morning, BrainPilot continued expressing his genius for free here when he said the following:

“Having her jailed was the best thing you could have done. It stopped her from possibly killing you, which women have done and then walked away with almost no consequences after claiming self defense (which you cannot refute because you are dead).” let that sink in for a minute. YOU CANNOT refute anything when you are dead. Yup. Think about it.

[Anonymous 42]

@jthetrucker, You made the right choice! It’s typical that a woman will TEXT, hide behind, hide under, and lob grenades like gorilla warfare, always hiding, NEVER to your face! That’s the difference between MEN,///// WOMEN, and MANJINA.\\\\\\ Real MEN stand in the face of controversy and take it head on, without flinching. You’re in the right place. Welcome!

[Ned TrentParticipant 4894]

Hi there JtheTrucker and welcome. I’ve not only heard of Norah Vincent but I also read the book she wrote about her first hand experiences disguised as a man and about the following nervous breakdown that she suffered from at the end of her experimental stunt. I found it was making a very good and almost vindicating read for MGTOWs and (despite her being a lesbian) I personally saluted her courage to pull this thing through in the first place back in 2006 I believe it was… Therefore I am actually considering opening a new extra thread about her collecting most of the relevant links for background information concerning this whole case so all of you guys may check it out…

Ned T.

I'd rather die a natual death with a clear MGTOW conscience somewhere off the grid than one within "modern" civilisation with a big stress mark on my forehead and a couple of dozen tubes plugged into my body. Back to the plantation..? Me..? Hey, literally: I won't ever fucking kid myself...YZERLMNTSIC

[davParticipant 422]

Hi JtheTrucker!

Welcome! I have been through similar to what you describe, except I was married. Didn’t know she was an alcoholic until later on of course. Jesus… what a wild ride that was. Yes there were some good times..but I think I would rather volunteer for mine clearance duty than go through that again. The feeling of relief and freedom you describe is amazing isn’t it?

It’s your time now. MGTOW time.

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