Greetings

[Northern SoulParticipant 186]

Hello.

I am pleased to have found you all. I have been MGTOW for a long while. During my marriage years I was fairly naïve and had hoped that the ex-wife would actually accept my opinions or individuality but of course that was wishful thinking. She kept saying she wanted a second child and on most occasions I just kicked it into the long grass. Life is about the choices you make and I didn’t want a second so I eventually said how I felt. She gave me an ultimatum – a second child or divorce.

I opted for the latter as I was not prepared to be bullied into a decision. So she threw me out of the property we co-own, when I returned to collect my personal belongings she refused me entry. She then promptly filed a restraining order against me based on false allegations of abusive and threatening behaviour in order to gain full occupancy to the property. I then had to defend myself in court and spent 5k clearing my name – the injunction was dropped but I still had to give an undertaking not to return to the property we jointly own.

Her and her family continue to wage a smear campaign against me based on other false allegations and with no evidence but the justice system just seems to take it as gospel.

My property rights have been removed based on a total fabrication of deceit and on paper the damage has been done. Despite the injunction being dismissed it is constantly used against me to cast doubt and prevent me from seeing my son. The authorities have swallowed her lies hook and line and consider me a risk to my child (having never met me, having never my wider family, having not seen my accommodation, having not seen me with my child). Suffice to say I am locked in a court battle to get access to my son but it’s going to be long hard road as they seem to have already made up their minds.

She has my son, the house, free legal advice (a friend she uses) and refuses the sign the divorce papers to prevent me from getting a financial settlement. I am unable to afford or find suitable accommodation, have to pay her child maintenance and spousal maintenance and pay top whack to my lawyer. These are dark days for me but I will literally do everything I can to get access to my son. I just look forward to the day when the divorce is concluded and I can truly reclaim my freedom, my son and the MGTOW way.

I shall look forward to our future exchanges.

[Tiga KParticipant 1693]

Welcome. Unfortunately there are a lot of guys here that share a similar experience. As a young guy, I have to thank you for sharing your story because it helps remind us young guys why we have to go our own way.

[Blue SkiesParticipant 15665]

Northern Soul wrote:

She has my son, the house, free legal advice (a friend she uses) and refuses the sign the divorce papers to prevent me from getting a financial settlement. I am unable to afford or find suitable accommodation, have to pay her child maintenance and spousal maintenance and pay top whack to my lawyer. These are dark days for me but I will literally do everything I can to get access to my son. I just look forward to the day when the divorce is concluded and I can truly reclaim my freedom, my son and the MGTOW way.

welcome pal…
sorry for your loss

thanks for sharing your story. Enjoy the website and the forums.
Cheers.

MGTOW is not a movement, it is a way of life.

[Anonymous 42]

Northern Soul wrote:

So she threw me out of the property we co-own, when I returned to collect my personal belongings she refused me entry. She then promptly filed a restraining order against me based on false allegations of abusive and threatening behaviour in order to gain full occupancy to the property.

And we’re the assholes for recommending a man to s~~~can marriage. You younger guys should read KJO’s pose twice!

Northern Soul wrote:

My property rights have been removed based on a total fabrication of deceit

You were DISPOSED of, it happens on a womans call 70% of the time. Good odds to stay away from!

Northern Soul wrote:

I am unable to afford or find suitable accommodation, have to pay her child maintenance and spousal maintenance and pay top whack to my lawyer.

Harnessed like mule to the gynocentric man eating just’us system!

KJO, you could be our poster child! The guys here will give you all the support, direction, and wisdom of a thousand years combined! You’re in the right place if you feel betrayed by justice, neglected by society, and utterly used and abused by a women, welcome to MGTOW, your new beginning, a restart to a much better life!
You’ll make it!

[Anonymous 0]

Welcome KJO,
Sorry to hear it.
You have friends here. Lots of the guys can help you “steer clear of the rocks” as you go thru the system.

[Northern SoulParticipant 186]

Thanks all for your comments and encouraging words. Support and advice is most definitely welcome.

This stuff really does turn your life upside down and sometimes it is hard to see the end. It is a relentless battle through the courts (I have 3 separate cases with her) and I am at a massive disadvantage by virtue of being male which is just not right. I feel let down by pretty much everyone (except my parents). I have never had a criminal record, I hold down a good job and I am just a pretty ordinary guy. However because of her actions, the authorities now think I am an alcoholic, abusive/aggressive individual and that I pose a risk to my child and that my alleged actions have caused him mental problems. Some friends have backed off as they now think I am a DV abuser and all of this because she told a pack of lies without a shred of evidence. The seed of doubt has been sowed in peoples minds and the damage to my reputation is immeasurable. Just a total nightmare.

I am in my 30’s and was married 10 years so I have plenty of living to do post divorce.

[HitmanParticipant]

welcome . those handcuffs hurt when they got put on me..felt great when they came off .
the f~~~ing wedding ring , i sold that for lawyer fees’… i feel you brother .
your’e in the right place .

[The Manipulated ManParticipant 1856]

Welcome KJO.

What you are going through is more rampant than you may realize.

Many of us have been there and you are not alone. Thanks for your introduction.

I hope you will feel free to write more and ask for support in the Forums.

What happens when a man finally comprehends the cold and calculating thoughts that are going through a woman's mind, while her eyes are brimming with tears?

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