Great weekend

[AllenParticipant 146]

I had an absolutely awesome weekend with my son… we made every meal from scratch, watched a few races together, and went to the woods and did some shooting for a few hours. My relationship is so much better with him now that his mother is no longer a part of my life, except as a co-parent.

He’s in his early teens now, and he’s just starting to notice the s~~~-show mess his mother really is. He’s starting to prefer being with me and it’s kind of p~~~ing his mother off. I make every effort not to sway his opinion one way or another by not saying anything negative about her or our time together in front of him. It is highly gratifying that he’s making these conclusions on his own and hopefully he’s exceptionally careful about girls when his time comes to play the game or opt out of it. I try not to sway his opinion one way or another on that front as well, but I’m brutally honest about how I feel when he asks anything along those lines.

No real purpose to this post, other than to share how good a parental relationship can be when the war that is marriage is terminated. Do EVERYTHING you can to keep your kids in your life after divorce, or she will go out of her way to poison their minds against you. The only way to fight that is to show the kids through interaction how wrong she is.

Woman - I picture a man, then take away reason and accountability. - Melvin Udall

[Anonymous 42]

Modern women are truly miserable creatures. Beast to avoid them altogether…

[JVBParticipant]

Happy for you bro. I wish you both the best.

Peace is > piece.

[AwakenedParticipant 35201]

My kids also can see what a disaster their mother IS. She is such a BITCH to Everyone around her.

The kids are growing quickly, and they grow AWAY from her daily.

The day shall come when they are adults living their own lives, and if she doesn’t change her ways, good luck with that, they’ll each probably choose to deal with her as little as possible.

I’m guessing she’s the kind of parent that adult children kind of forget about in the nursing home.

She’s a very opinionated, judgmental, miserable middle aged women that will become an even more miserable Old hag that is best avoided.

In a World of Justin Beibers Be a Johnny Cash

[TaxGuyParticipant]

Good for you brother.

I think it’s funny that women refer to “Disneyland Dads”. Yeah, when we have our kids we have fun. Imagine that. It couldn’t be that once the wet blanket is removed from the equation life is much more fun. It must be dad overcompensating because otherwise they would have to admit that they aren’t any fun to be around.

When I have my girls I like to go out and do something. Try a new restaurant, go hang out in a part of town they never hang out in. Show them the world, hell even their out city, is bigger than their neighborhood. Mom never liked going anywhere.

Order the good wine

[DocParticipant]

It’s a good post Allen. That’s what we are hear for.
You appreciate your son and you want to share it. No harm in that.
My son is 5 and daughter 4. Can’t wait to be able to teach them about the world.

I make no apologies – they will be told the reality of the world we live in. I want to give them a head start.

In tribal times boys followed the men into the lands to hunt. The sons learned they way of the world.

My kids will do the same.

The object of life is not to be on the side of the majority, but to escape, finding oneself in the ranks of the insane. Marcus Aurelius

[GregB0Participant]

Allen wrote:

I make every effort not to sway his opinion one way or another by not saying anything negative about her or our time together in front of him

Congratulations and wise counsel for your son and others.

When you have a moment, post your introduction so that we have a point of context for this post, as well as others. You can find examples (good and bad) under the introduction Forum category.

​"​My father didn't tell me how to live; he lived, and let me watch him do it.​" - Clarence Buddinton Kelland

[AllenParticipant 146]

Doc wrote:

In tribal times boys followed the men into the lands to hunt. The sons learned they way of the world.

My kids will do the same.

I think this is even more important in today’s world, particularly with families that are split like mine. I don’t want him to learn the ways of the world according to an insane ex-wife or from his buddies at school who have dads that are too wrapped up in work or miserable marriages to do any good for their kids. IT might not be out there hunting for food, but navigating today’s world is just as much of a struggle in different ways.

Woman - I picture a man, then take away reason and accountability. - Melvin Udall

[DocParticipant]

Allen wrote:

DocDJ wrote:

In tribal times boys followed the men into the lands to hunt. The sons learned they way of the world.

My kids will do the same.

I think this is even more important in today’s world, particularly with families that are split like mine. I don’t want him to learn the ways of the world according to an insane ex-wife or from his buddies at school who have dads that are too wrapped up in work or miserable marriages to do any good for their kids. IT might not be out there hunting for food, but navigating today’s world is just as much of a struggle in different ways.

Precisely. The mindset our children will need will be similar to navigating the tribal men’s hunting ground.

The object of life is not to be on the side of the majority, but to escape, finding oneself in the ranks of the insane. Marcus Aurelius

[TrailbossParticipant 1844]

Good deal with the son! I have the same with mine now. He’s 22 and in college. I give him a steady diet of MGTOW videos, via text messages. I hope that some of the philosophy will sink deep and keep him from making the mistakes I did.

An educated, armed populace cannot be enslaved.

[revistaParticipant 232]

Glad your doing well with your son.i have 2 sons(10 and 7).we have great relationship.if it wasnt for me working shifts they would live with me full time now.they appreciate it being drama free over mine.they have loads of drama with there mom(men coming and going etc).we do simple fun things.i take them to footy(soccer) training,we go watch our local team,go park,bowling,cinema etc.but they enjoy just being with me.just watching a movie under a duvet.she does nothing with them.the weekend i dont have them they spend most of there time in there rooms playing video games so she can be with her fella.just do what you do with him,kids know whos got there best interests at heart.all the best brother.

[BeerParticipant 11832]

Awakened wrote:

The day shall come when they are adults living their own lives, and if she doesn’t change her ways, good luck with that, they’ll each probably choose to deal with her as little as possible.

Haha welcome to my mom’s life. I swear when I lived at home my mom went out of her way to try to make my life as miserable as possible. After I moved out she called me up to give me s~~~ about something retarded like she loved doing when I lived at home, so I just hung up on her and didn’t talk to her for a couple months. She’s been nothing but nice to me ever since…it was like she realized “Oh s~~~…I don’t hold any power over him anymore.”

Of course…I also haven’t forgotten how she acted when she had authority over me, so just because she’s willing to play nice now doesn’t mean I desire a close relationship with her. The way I look at it, if I see her once a month and get along with her that’s enough for me…I’d rather than than see her more often and talk to her daily and have to deal with bulls~~~ from her.

I think that is the future of your ex…once you and the kids are in a position where they don’t have to deal with her bulls~~~ at all…she’s going to find herself living a lonely existence when people just don’t want anything to do with her, and she’s going to find out many years of bulls~~~ don’t get erased from ones memory so easily even if you can act like you have changed your ways for a while. I’ve no doubt that with my mom, if I let my guard down, and let her get a little more involved in my life again, it would be a decision I’d quickly come to regret.

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