Great Day to be Free!

[SpleeferParticipant 958]

My conversion to Red Pill started 7 years ago. Blue pilled and “happy”. 15 years of marriage, 2 kids, 2 dogs, great job, House, involved in church ect. One day my parents called me and said their marriage was over 45 years. The next day my wife came to me with the “I’m not happy” speech. I was shocked by this, we just finished being leaders at a 15 week marriage class at church. For 15 weeks my wife and I sat down and went over the workbook with prayer and love. Each week my wife had nothing major to say, each week the mirage continued.
So being totally blue pilled, I figured it must be something I’m doing. The blue pill mentality got worse, slowly but surely, she picked me apart, using shame and guilt to get her way. New teeth, new cars, trips for her to unwind, paid by me, she was in school so everything I did was to support her life.
My life got worse each week, mentality I was a shell of what I used to be, physically worn out, spiritually I never quit. I kept going to church without her, she didn’t like church anymore. I focused on my side of the street.
She continued school and I worked on us and my stuff. Everything that actually had to do with helping our relationship, it was only me. She didn’t do anything to work on us. Counselor gave us a Journal to write into share. I found this journal years later, I wrote in it 22 times. She wrote in it once. Always remember actions speak louder than words.
3 years of this routine, playing nice, playing the fool, praying to God, ect . Well she graduated nursing school and was looking for a great job. Maybe my patience and prayers worked, maybe my work I did on my character defects worked.
My mom had a major stroke, she is lucky to be alive. I’m driving back and forth to hospital every day for a month. I get home and my wife says she is moving out next week. She already told the kids, she starts her great job and that our bank account is empty. I get my pension, no child support. Split custody. Divorce papers done.
Church says nothing, friends say nothing, I’m left with delusions about my faith in God and in women.
I consider this to be a great deal for me, also I was able to buy her off the deed to the house. I’m very fortunate. Those three years were hell, but I did actually work on myself. I can honestly say I did everything I could, that does matter to me. She moved on and has remarried. I wish I could say I found mgtow then but no I went in for a second beat down.

This one I’m really p~~~ed at myself for being stupid. I should have known better. 4 kids from 3 different guys,
Alcoholic for sure,
But the sex was crazy good. Aaaa the blue pill mind.

We were engaged and then she started to show stripes. She was a professional chameleon. One night she was drunk and started saying scenarios about how she was going to call the cops on me and that I was gonna go down. I did the first smart thing in my life, I looked up her court records and found restraining orders she has filed. Like what she said she was going to do to me. That was it, I ended it. The breakup took 4 min and I haven’t seen them since. Fortunate once again.

Last year I just went down a path of destruction. Women, booze, and parties. The women lie lie lie lie, I was honest with every one of them. Last October I sat down with a pastor at my new church. I told him I would give him 30 days no women. It’s been 7 months. I haven’t been happier in my life. My bank account is way up! My stress is wayyy down! Church life is absolutely great! Drinking has been pretty much eliminated! Health wise I’m doing great! 43 years old and avoid women like the plague. Fishing, concerts, traveling, spending quality time with my kids with no restriction on how I want to lead them. Each week I get at least one offer to sleep with someone, I just look at them in disgust. The more you ignore these c~~~s the more they get in your way.

So glad I found this forum, It has given me the courage to be a single Christian man without having to be married. I’m free to hear the call of God and go anywhere I want. I can speak the truth about these Heffers and nobody can defend them using the Bible. I can live free and now I believe God got me out of that marriage yes I said it. God did not want me to support someone who wasn’t honest and had motives that were her own. He still doesn’t. The monk lifestyle seems to be best for me, no prostitution, no fwb, no dates. It’s amazing to me the difference in my thinking once I took sex off the table. Not to mention I am not harming anybody now. There is always consequences to the pump and dump lifestyle. It’s great I don’t have any of that on my mind. Less stress. The disciplines on this forum have really encouraged my walk. Focusing on a estrogen free diet now. Who knew? Anyway thanks for letting me share my story, and for helping me de program my formerly blue pill mind.

Peace out! Spleefer

Galatians 5:1 (KJV) Stand fast therefore in the liberty wherewith Christ hath made us free, and be not entangled again with the yoke of bondage.

[Anonymous 7]

welcome home.
Steal virtual soda from May 7 2020 cooler and relax.

[CarnageParticipant 22113]

My advice DUMP GOD TOO, or in one year or Soo the priest and congregation will try to hook you up with some single mother from hell.

The priest probably knew about your wife plans and probably she was banging someone.

You welcome

To those following me, be careful, I just farted. Men those beans are killers.

[CarnageParticipant 22113]

By the way welcome to MGTOW, this is the last oasis in hell.

To those following me, be careful, I just farted. Men those beans are killers.

[GargamelSpectator 29101]

Welcome to MGTOW, Spleefer!

Great intro. Glad to hear you dodged so many bullets and made it through.

I am looking forward to your posts in the future.

And we will be here for many years to come. No c~~~ to poison our food or call the cops on us.

Spleefer wrote:

I can speak the truth about these Heffers and nobody can defend them using the Bible.

Hell, so many parts of the Bible sound like MGTOW…

Defending c~~~s with Solomon’s Proverbs?

LOL.

“It’s better to dwell in the wilderness than to live with a feminist c~~~ in a wide house owned by the bank”… (Update 2018)

In July of 2018, this honey pot forum was sold out to an unidentified NPC sock puppet and troll organization. Most independent thinkers and writers migrated to other MGTOW forums as a result of the never-ending infighting and deliberate trouble starting caused by members who were given "carte blanche" by the admin to do whatever they want. Before my departure, I only left a few thousand cat pics here to comfort and ridicule the feminist owners who now run this place. Their background agenda is to make MGTOW look like a club of losers the public eye. And during the course of 2019, they actually managed to destroy almost all other MGTOW venues as well. Here is the truth about "theindependentman.org" aka "TIM" which was created as an extended workbench to further divide the community. When you register, they install a spyware Zombie cookie on your browser that does all kinds of things the user does not know of: http://www.filedropper.com/essay-on-the-removal-of-malware-cookies-used-by-tim

[TheSpiceParticipant 2644]

Welcome, Spleefer.

A ll
W omen
A re
L ike
T hat

Never forget. Glad to have you onboard.

"I've been thinking about what it would be like if we got back together."
"You know it's too late for that."

[Handsome VicParticipant 1613]

Hi Spleefer. Great intro. Welcome. No doubt you’ve got a lot of insights from these experiences to pass on.

Well done at reading the signs and getting out the second time around before she called the police. What a s~~~show you would have found yourself in if you followed through with marrying her.

Keep on living free & enjoying life!

I'm going my own way. Maybe I'll see you there.

[Secret Agent MGTOWParticipant 22510]

Carnage and some others here do not realize God is the ultimate MGTOW.

Women want everything, but want responsibility and accountability for nothing.

[SpleeferParticipant 958]

Carnage wrote:

My advice DUMP GOD TOO, or in one year or Soo the priest and congregation will try to hook you up with some single mother from hell.

The priest probably knew about your wife plans and probably she was banging someone.

You welcome

No doubt about it Carnage. The single mom trap is always one step away, like a poisonous snake. Thanks for the reminder. Im not a white knight or charity anymore for wayward women.

Galatians 5:1 (KJV) Stand fast therefore in the liberty wherewith Christ hath made us free, and be not entangled again with the yoke of bondage.

[SpleeferParticipant 958]

Secret Agent MGTOW wrote:

Carnage and some others here do not realize God is the ultimate MGTOW.

I’m just realizing this as well, reading the bible as a convert to red pill is so much better. Im encourage to be single and to do whatever I want to do for my best interests. If the Lord says go! I could actually go. Pretty cool position to be in right now.

Galatians 5:1 (KJV) Stand fast therefore in the liberty wherewith Christ hath made us free, and be not entangled again with the yoke of bondage.

[HitmanParticipant]

welcome brother.
i am a Jesus freak.
and a sinner.
so,
i went my own way and stopped putting women on a pedestal.
the thrill of the chase is gone for me.
no more drama.
it’s AMAZING.
the only solution i found is MGTOW.
glad you found us here!!!

[hmskl’dParticipant 6406]

Greetings.

[iMickey503Participant 12465]

MGTOW. FINALLY the bible makes some sense.

Welcome to MGTOW.com!

You are all alone. If you have been falsely accused of RAPE, DV, PLEASE let all men know about the people who did this. http://register-her.net/web/guest/home

[AttonParticipant]

Welcome to the site hope to see you around.

A MGTOW is a man who is not a woman's bitch!

[MoreSkyParticipant 4865]

Welcome Spleefer.
Thanks for sharing your story.

Monk mode, in my opinion, is the best way to be free (16 months and counting for me).

"...reinvent your life because you must; it is your life and its history and the present belong only to you.” It is Your Life, Charles Bukowski.

[TaxGuyParticipant]

Welcome home! Your marriage sounds pretty similar to mine. It’s all my fault, do better, never enough…. Ugh. But you’re here now and seem to have your priorities in order.

Enjoy your time with your kids. You will probably be labeled a “Disneyland Dad” at some point. I’ve come to discover that most dads are happy hanging out with their kids and value experiences over stuff. Thus the DD label. It’s just how men are without a woman around. And it p~~~es women off, so they have to label you. Wear it proudly!

Order the good wine

[WPLParticipant 2390]

Welcome!

You’ve learned the same hard lesson I did: when she says, “I’m not happy”, it’s already over. You’ll try to do whatever you can try to “restore” her happiness because that’s what you think you SHOULD do, but the truth is she’s made up her mind to be unhappy and she’ll use that to justify doing whatever she wants. But, they won’t leave immediately if they think Husbank can provide them with some cash and prizes before the divorce circus begins. I bought my (now ex-) wife a nice used SUV… less than two months later, she was using that SUV to move into Chad’s house. I should have kept the money and bought MYSELF a car that’s not 20+ years old. Or one hell of a stereo.

The Monk lifestyle has many benefits — but the chief one is peace.

[Anonymous 12]

Well you danced in a Minefield twice, and have wised up.
Did God give you the intuition, or was no God involved?
That answer shall remain unanswered for me.

It does not matter though.
You looked up her records after she was dumb enough to start talking s~~~ and show her cards.

So yea. You used that Brain that was given to you to protect yourself.
You observed some s~~~ and were smart enough to investigate in the right direction.
That, and only that, is what matters to me.
Keep doing it.

Welcome, Spleefer.
*hold up beer*

[SpleeferParticipant 958]

TaxGuy wrote:

Welcome home! Your marriage sounds pretty similar to mine. It’s all my fault, do better, never enough…. Ugh. But you’re here now and seem to have your priorities in order.

Enjoy your time with your kids. You will probably be labeled a “Disneyland Dad” at some point. I’ve come to discover that most dads are happy hanging out with their kids and value experiences over stuff. Thus the DD label. It’s just how men are without a woman around. And it p~~~es women off, so they have to label you. Wear it proudly!

Ive been labeled a lot of things, that one has been thrown my way. Not by my ex, we never talk and its great. But by other people, Its funny how when people see you are doing well in life how they want to label you and put you down. They point out flaws in your kids or you, they are just jealous because I get to go to Disneyland with my kids and have a great drama free, care free day, laughing and teaching them how to have fun. No running here for this or that, no running to the car for a sweater, no quiting early for a headache, no silent treatment in the lines.

WPL wrote:

Welcome!

You’ve learned the same hard lesson I did: when she says, “I’m not happy”, it’s already over. You’ll try to do whatever you can try to “restore” her happiness because that’s what you think you SHOULD do, but the truth is she’s made up her mind to be unhappy and she’ll use that to justify doing whatever she wants. But, they won’t leave immediately if they think Husbank can provide them with some cash and prizes before the divorce circus begins. I bought my (now ex-) wife a nice used SUV… less than two months later, she was using that SUV to move into Chad’s house. I should have kept the money and bought MYSELF a car that’s not 20+ years old. Or one hell of a stereo.

The Monk lifestyle has many benefits — but the chief one is peace.

Yep, That lesson is only one learns after the carnage. I had one friend tell me it was over then and that I should prepare for divorce, he also said there was probably a Chad in the wings. Of course I didn’t hear his warning. He is one of my best friends now. Why? because he told me the truth. And still does.

Anonymous wrote:

Well you danced in a Minefield twice, and have wised up.
Did God give you the intuition, or was no God involved?
That answer shall remain unanswered for me.

Keep doing it.

Welcome, Spleefer.
*hold up beer*

Yes/No: God didn’t want me to be in the relationship to begin with, If I would have never slept with her I would have never been serious with her to begin with. My decision to have Sex trapped me in a bad situation. guilt was driving my decisions. This is why taking sex off the table has really cleared up my thinking. There isn’t any need for a woman in my life. I don’t need sex, I don’t need help with my house, I don’t need money, I don’t need help raising my kids.
The night that happened God was telling me loud and clear its ok to RUN!!!!

Galatians 5:1 (KJV) Stand fast therefore in the liberty wherewith Christ hath made us free, and be not entangled again with the yoke of bondage.

[Anonymous 12]

Then Listen to your Guy in the Sky.

XD

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