going through the motions

[komatteruParticipant 1]

I’m 44 with 2 kids, 8 and 5 years old. Kids are great, but wife’s a cranky bitch. She’s always tired, sleepy, too cold in the winter, and too hot in the summer. There’s always something deterring her from sex: period, stomachache, fatigue. Fortunately, she doesn’t shop and spend like a lot of women I hear about in these forums. Her focus is on the kids and part-time work, so there’s nothing left over for me. I’m an afterthought. By the time we get the kids to bed, she’s lights out too. I’m still wide awake, so I catch up on TV and movies. I don’t know what to do. I can’t slap her around. Should I give up on her? Tell her that I’m moving out?

I had given up hanging out with friends and playing sports. Maybe I’ll start doing that again just to keep my sanity.

[Anonymous 42]

komatteru wrote:

Her focus is on the kids and part-time work, so there’s nothing left over for me.

YOU ARE LEFTOVERS! Women love sex, just not with their “leftover” husbands. Dude, I’m not married, that plan sucks! She’s obviously controlling you with rejection, it’s f~~~ed up the way they think, the most important thing in any family (the man) they neglect, treat him like s~~~, and she’s a bitch, I FEEL SORRY FOR YOU………..It’s your life too, you’re not on the pedestal, the pinnacle, she’s mastered you………

[RoyDalParticipant]

@komatteru, your questions answer themselves.

Society asks MGTOWs: Why are you not making more tax-slaves?

[harpo-my-“SON”Participant 2410]

komatteru wrote; Should I give up on her? Tell her that I’m moving out?

Your the only one with enough knowledge of your situation to answer those questions and decide what action to take..I can only point out what I gather from the limited information you have given..youngest child 5. that means at least 13 years paying support if you go… Something would have to change if I were in your shoes. I would find a way to be happy.

I was bound to be misunderstood, and I laugh at those who misunderstand me. Kind mockery at the well intentioned, but unfettered cruelty towards those would be prison guards of my creative possibilities. This so as to learn as much from misunderstanding as from understanding. Taking pleasure in worthy opponents and making language fluid and flowing like a river yet pointed and precise as a dagger. Contradicts the socialistic purpose of language and makes for a wonderful linguistic dance, A verbal martial art with constant parries that hone the weapon that is the two edged sword of my mouth.

[MGTOWmonkey aka No More Fucks To GiveParticipant 6635]

Get a divorce if she doesnt change,plus if she’s at a certain age depending on her pass she has been slutted already so her faze on that is done. Thats why its very important for men to know what a women past is,right now she used you to get kids and commitment which is most womens end all to life thats why they spoil like milk. Dude your in your 40’s with a fading life span because your married dont let those stupid stats fool you Married men die early,so if I were in your shoes “shape up or ship out”.

Never lose sight of what brought you here.

[komatteruParticipant 1]

Thanks for the replies.

<span style=”font-family: ‘Open Sans’, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 20px;”>..youngest child 5. that means at least 13 years paying support if you go…</span>

It would be so hard to be away from the kids. I don’t fight with the wife. We just occupy the same dwelling. She does annoy me with her constant F-ups…letting food spoil, leaving the heat or stove on, losing s~~~, forgetting a kid’s after-school practice. It gets more annoying with each passing day of non-sex. She wants me to cook more, but the kitchen’s a disgusting mess that I don’t want to touch. She complains about being cold all the time while I think, “get off your ass, and do some jumping jacks or something!”

[Smitty the Great OneParticipant 1535]

well, you need to figure out a new option sir. You’re kind of stuck with her at the moment.

Find a way to develop a natural space from her. The less you’re actually around, the less she can nag. Energy late at night, start s small exercise regimen. You are in prison sir, your parole date is 13 years and counting, good luck. Start preparing for the worst, and hope for the best.

Life is too long to play by someone elses rules....

[Cipher HighwindParticipant 1144]

I’d suggest a consultation with a family law attorney.  Wouldn’t it be funny if, at the time of the divorce, you didn’t have a job and wound up getting alimony from the wife?

[komatteruParticipant 1]

Taking the kids to our cabin for a week. I told wife to stay home and “rest” since she’s always tired and cranky. She protested at first, but somewhat surprisingly, she agreed. We’ll see how it goes. I wonder if she’ll be better when we get back. If not, I’m going to rent an apt and move out. Anyone have similar experiences?

[MadScientistParticipant 131]

Cipher Highwind wrote:

I’d suggest a consultation with a family law attorney. Wouldn’t it be funny if, at the time of the divorce, you didn’t have a job and wound up getting alimony from the wife?

Welcome to MGTOW, brother!

So, the above is exactly what I did. I intentionally went broke and stayed jobless (making myself depressed on purpose) for just the right amount of time so I could (a) short sell my old house so I wouldn’t owe anything and (b) there would be no question of alimony, even with the other cards in my hands. I was lucky, as the recession had hit so the lack of jobs was not a stretch, and honestly, in 6 interviews, I didn’t get any bites. I DID immediately get picked up once I started looking in the right job market, but that was after the divorce.

Man that was rough. I am only just now recovering from the whole thing (5 years ago). It’s not easy getting back up, but you do. And you keep walking. Because you are a Man.

I didn’t have kids in my equation, so yours is entirely different. Anyway you cut it, it will be difficult, but these guys (and I) are here to help you out, man. Good luck, and I hope you are able to work this out!

[Chuck WowParticipant 141]

Your situation sounds similar to mine…my advice is to be the best dad you can and then focus on making yourself happy. I felt a sense of freedom when I stopped caring about my wife’s feelings and trying to “fix” every problem she has. Definitely re-connect with your friends and spend time on your hobbies/sports. Also you should stashing some cash to protect yourself. Best of luck!

[Anonymous 5]

Hiya Komatteru, welcome to the forums.
Batcave is a poster in here who specializes in dealing with your situation. He’s turned his lemon into lemonade with a series of moves that makes me almost want to get married to a fat lazy entitled bitch who you don’t have sex with.
Look up his posts in his profile and start winning and enjoying life again.

[NeversaydieParticipant 51]

Just f~~~ someone else. She will smell it on you, but as long as she cant prove it who cares. Love your kids. The wife is an adult… its not your job to make her happy… you are obviously not her concern.

[komatteruParticipant 1]

Thanks for the replies. Same old cyclical s~~~ (as my first post). Hot sex one or two nights. Then, a week or two goes by. That becomes three or four weeks. It’s just depressing… The banner ad at the bottom looks nice: “10000 single asian women’s profiles”… Should I try it? Maybe Ashley Madison?

[Anonymous 0]

Welcome Brother,

All good advice from the brothers

She’s s~~~ testing you and may be gaming you. Does she have some other guy lined up? Why is she so happy to see you and the kids disappear? Does she wants you to put her in her p[ace and stop being so nice?

Let me add this. You don’t have to divorce her and go to debtor’s prison for 13 plus years or have an affair which will also lead to the same place. All you need to do is make sure she “finds out” that some other woman may be sniffing around. Women hate it another women shows an interest in her man even if she treats him like s~~~.

Spend even more time away with the kids. If she doesn’t have another guy in the wings. she will get real lonely real fast.

Start getting fit. Go to the gym. Start staying out late so you won’t be importuning “princess” for affection. (said with sarcasm) In short, make it “appear” as if you are looking around. Pick up some free mags on rental apartments and leave them laying around. (Oh, I picked those up for a “friend” at work who remains anonymous. And make no mistake, if you walk out she will become sweet as pie with all the offers of sex you can imagine because she has nothing to offer except her vagina.

If you keep pussy begging, you inflate her self esteem. Try pussy rejecting and see where that leads.

I don’t usually write so harshly but some of what you say I experienced in my first marriage

You’re too nice she’s taking advantage of you. Start “playing” her back

And again Welcome Brother. Only you can decide what your own will be.

[Anonymous 29]

komatteru wrote:

I’m 44 with 2 kids, 8 and 5 years old. Kids are great, but wife’s a cranky bitch. She’s always tired, sleepy, too cold in the winter, and too hot in the summer. There’s always something deterring her from sex: period, stomachache, fatigue. Fortunately, she doesn’t shop and spend like a lot of women I hear about in these forums. Her focus is on the kids and part-time work, so there’s nothing left over for me. I’m an afterthought. By the time we get the kids to bed, she’s lights out too. I’m still wide awake, so I catch up on TV and movies. I don’t know what to do. I can’t slap her around. Should I give up on her? Tell her that I’m moving out?

I had given up hanging out with friends and playing sports. Maybe I’ll start doing that again just to keep my sanity.

You sir are between a rock and a hard place.
To be entirely honest, no amount of advice will satisfy questions you ask. Simply because MGTOW is for young men and those that have been hurt or broken by the current gynocentric system.

MGTOW is a way of life for single men who live as they like. F~~~ anyone they like but no marrige, no kids.
You however are married and have kids. To tell you, to divorce your wife is not for us to do, but there are alternative solutions that over time can help you out of the situation.

Set money aside for a rainy day for yourself.
Expand your practical knowledge as much as you can, ( you will need it).
Strengthen you bond with the kids.
Bone up on legal knowledge on divorces, . . . . just in case, and stay on top of it as they can and do change annually.

Welcome to MGTOW. . . . . hopefully you may find some answers you seek.

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