Going Through A Rough Patch.

[The_YoungParticipant 1073]

This past week has been very difficult for me, especially the past few days… I’m getting confused. Today I had a serious emotional breakdown, and started hating myself. I was wishing that I was “normal” and more attractive, and at the same time wishing I had never learned about MGTOW. I feel better now, but it’s just been difficult to stay on top of things.

But worst of all, I can’t stop thinking about my ex. Even though I have a massive list of reason I broke up with her I’ve personally written down in my phone, it’s like it means nothing and I can only think of whatever little positive aspects there might have been.

I’m not looking for attention or pity. I just want help and to feel heard.

Brother, we need to stick together.

[Jan SobieskiParticipant 28791]

I am a MAN that you have never met.

I care about you.

Tell us what is going on.

We are MGTOW. we don’t do pity.

Love is just alimony waiting to happen. Visit mgtow.com.

[EyeswideopenParticipant 2930]

Firstly, you are heard my friend.

Being lonely, and going through withdraw is hard. Lack of sex, and the chemicals when you feel “in love” is like kicking heroin. It takes time. I am two years post divorce and I still find it hard some days. Especially, when stress increases at work, or I make a mistake in my personal/professional life.

Going your own way is a tough road to hoe. You won’t get the constant cheer-leading and reinforcement that mainstream sheeple get. But MGTOW is just a response to an extremely screwed up, morally bankrupt society. I truly wish things were more balanced and fair for the modern man; but it’s not.

I am still learning to have no f~~~s to give, make myself happy without being dependent of public appeal, and live for me and those I love (blood family). Give it time – life is a journey not a destination as Aerosmith would say.

- Marriage is described as an institution. You would have to be crazy to be commited to it. -"If you want to live a happy life, tie it to a goal. Not people or things" Albert Einstein

[MgtowWaveParticipant 4352]

What we call “Love” or emotional bonding is actually an addiction caused by brain chemicals like phenylethylamine ,dopeamine, norepinephine and otyticin.

Like any real addiction the chemicals flowing around in your brain are similiar and when you step away from your addiction it takes time.

Herion addicts dont just one day say “Well im done,just not going to stick a needle in my arm any more.Or crack heads or alcholics.

Just gotta realize wow i have some heavy s~~~ to get over and its going to take time.

Hard ass exercise is a real good help.
I think some of the anti depressents help too.

I been there brother.

Something i realized is that i had cognative dissonance about a few of the women i have been with.
Eberything was telling me that what or who i believed she was was not in fact who she really was.

You will get better.
You will be wiser for having been thru this.

frankly my dear i don't give a damn

[The_YoungParticipant 1073]

I am a MAN that you have never met.

I care about you.

Tell us what is going on.

We are MGTOW. we don’t do pity.

Thanks Jan, you’re one of MGTOW’s greatest and I’m always looking for your posts. I’ve been having a lot of mixed thoughts and s~~~…that anything I do is for nothing, that there’s no sense in just living for myself for the rest of my life, yet at the same time I know I’ll be even more miserable if I’m not alone. I’m different than most other men in that I’m super uncomfortable in most social situations, and some days I feel super confident about being different, and other days I don’t at all. And then I just question the whole idea in the first place.

I’ve been smoking a lot of weed too to relax from work, and I’m hating being sober. I always look forward to getting stoned, because it makes me feel happy and relaxed. But I end up being lazy and get nothing done..and eating like a motherf~~~er, and because I’ve stopped working out, I’m gaining some weight and lost my six pack. But if I start working out again, I’ll be too tired for work because its already physically demanding as f~~~.

It’s just a bigass wacky balancing act and I’m having a very difficult time finding a good balance.

Brother, we need to stick together.

[The_YoungParticipant 1073]

Going your own way is a tough road to hoe. You won’t get the constant cheer-leading and reinforcement that mainstream sheeple get. But MGTOW is just a response to an extremely screwed up, morally bankrupt society. I truly wish things were more balanced and fair for the modern man; but it’s not.

Thanks. It’s a good reminder that living free of the approval of others is a better way to live if you can learn to handle it.

Just gotta realize wow i have some heavy s~~~ to get over and its going to take time.

You’re right…I’ll get over this eventually.

Brother, we need to stick together.

[DanceMyOwnWayParticipant 2097]

Just give yourself time. I’ve been through enough breakups to know that they are all the same. AWALT. Invest in yourself. Pursue or find new hobbies or interests. Learn to enjoy solitude. Read, play videogames, take long walks, spend time with good male friends or family, study, travel. One pussy is much the same as another. I’ve sweated and antagonized like so many others over some ex who was “different”. They’re not. Learn to not give a s~~~ and they will come. It’s 100% true. Trust the wisdom of the men here who have learned this.

If you fall down 7 times, get up 8

[anonymousyamParticipant 4605]

The_Young wrote:

This past week has been very difficult for me, especially the past few days… I’m getting confused. Today I had a serious emotional breakdown, and started hating myself. I was wishing that I was “normal” and more attractive, and at the same time wishing I had never learned about MGTOW. I feel better now, but it’s just been difficult to stay on top of things.

Okay then tell me the specific problem so i can tell you ways to solve the problem? is it a mental illness of some type? are you fat and ugly? do you have autism or do have 2 pairs of chromosome 21? what is the problem?

The_Young wrote:

But worst of all, I can’t stop thinking about my ex. Even though I have a massive list of reason I broke up with her I’ve personally written down in my phone, it’s like it means nothing and I can only think of whatever little positive aspects there might have been.

This one is tough man but you have to get over here and move onto other chicks now. If you break up with a chick then don’t under any circumstance get back with her and certainly don’t marry her whatever you do. Its a simple rule one chance per chick per lifetime. The moment you see the red flags ringing in your head you have to dump her and move on.

Just an east coast asshole who likes to curse, If you get offended by words like fuck, cunt, shit, piss, bitch or any racial slurs then you just scroll down.

[xlrsnbrgParticipant 1786]

The_Young wrote:

Today I had a serious emotional breakdown, and started hating myself. I was wishing that I was “normal”

You are normal. The rest of the world has gone crazy.

The_Young wrote:

at the same time wishing I had never learned about MGTOW

Ah, plugging back into the matrix. I sometimes think about it too. Not the crazy ex but maybe the other nicer girl who got away…

Then I workout and “clean the pipes”, problem solved.

A man shouldn't make his life's objective to be on the side of the majority, but to avoid finding himself in the ranks of the insane. (Marcus Aurelius)

[Anonymous 1]

This will pass, sir.

Start lifting, exercise. Get the endorphins flowing

[Anonymous 1]

anonymousyam wrote:

Okay then tell me the specific problem so i can tell you ways to solve the problem? is it a mental illness of some type? are you fat and ugly? do you have autism or do have 2 pairs of chromosome 21? what is the problem?

Haha i’m not sure I should find this as funny as I do. Fella don’t f~~~ about.

Refreshing.

[xlrsnbrgParticipant 1786]

The_Young wrote:

I’ve been smoking a lot of weed too to relax from work, and I’m hating being sober. I always look forward to getting stoned, because it makes me feel happy and relaxed. But I end up being lazy and get nothing done..and eating like a motherf~~~er, and because I’ve stopped working out,

Maybe you don’t realize it, but it’s a good thing that you hate being lazy. Think about it, who likes slothing around doing nothing? Most women… But you’re not like that, you feel the need to improve and be useful, you desire a purpose. That’s not a bad state to be in, even if it doesn’t feel that way.

If I were you I’d drop the weed. Find something to do. Start a project.

A man shouldn't make his life's objective to be on the side of the majority, but to avoid finding himself in the ranks of the insane. (Marcus Aurelius)

[The_YoungParticipant 1073]

Okay then tell me the specific problem so i can tell you ways to solve the problem? is it a mental illness of some type? are you fat and ugly? do you have autism or do have 2 pairs of chromosome 21? what is the problem?

LMFAO. Um

Getting slightly fat, sometimes feel ugly. Don’t feel bad about it if I’m able to stay full redpill. I sometimes think I’m slightly autistic because I’m a social retard, but I’m not a doctor.

For some reason your post is uplifting

Brother, we need to stick together.

[TuneoutParticipant]

MgtowWave wrote:

What we call “Love” or emotional bonding is actually an addiction caused by brain chemicals like phenylethylamine ,dopeamine, norepinephine and otyticin.

They say it’s as strong an addiction as Heroin

MgtowWave wrote:

I think some of the anti depressents help too.

They can mess you up even more

Anonymous wrote:

This will pass, sir.

Start lifting, exercise. Get the endorphins flowing

This along with a good diet,proper rest and concentrating on work so pretty soon your
mood will improve along with the body.

Lifes a bitch,but you don't have to marry one!

[anonymousyamParticipant 4605]

The_Young wrote:

LMFAO. Um

Getting slightly fat, sometimes feel ugly. Don’t feel bad about it if I’m able to stay full redpill. I sometimes think I’m slightly autistic because I’m a social retard, but I’m not a doctor.

For some reason your post is uplifting

Simple then start lifting weights to get more test in you and turn the fat into muscle.

If you think you have a problem (like autism) then get a doctor to diagnose you to make sure its actually a problem or is it just social awkwardness.

Just an east coast asshole who likes to curse, If you get offended by words like fuck, cunt, shit, piss, bitch or any racial slurs then you just scroll down.

[Deadly RaverParticipant]

Hey Yo. You got a MP3 Player yet? If not, go get one and load it up with music. After that, find something to do while the music is playing…………Like exercise, art, reading, videogames, etc. There’s plenty more that you can do, but that’s just to get you started.

Learn from the past, Control the present, and you will know the Future.

[TicParticipant 4329]

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The_Young wrote:

I am a MAN that you have never met.

I care about you.

Tell us what is going on.

We are MGTOW. we don’t do pity.

Thanks Jan, you’re one of MGTOW’s greatest and I’m always looking for your posts. I’ve been having a lot of mixed thoughts and s~~~…that anything I do is for nothing, that there’s no sense in just living for myself for the rest of my life, yet at the same time I know I’ll be even more miserable if I’m not alone. I’m different than most other men in that I’m super uncomfortable in most social situations, and some days I feel super confident about being different, and other days I don’t at all. And then I just question the whole idea in the first place.

I’ve been smoking a lot of weed too to relax from work, and I’m hating being sober. I always look forward to getting stoned, because it makes me feel happy and relaxed. But I end up being lazy and get nothing done..and eating like a motherf~~~er, and because I’ve stopped working out, I’m gaining some weight and lost my six pack. But if I start working out again, I’ll be too tired for work because its already physically demanding as f~~~.

It’s just a bigass wacky balancing act and I’m having a very difficult time finding a good balance.

Let me just say that I completely understand where you are coming from and have lived in your shoes. Leaving the security of a relationship is extremely difficult. I still have my days where I feel down. but, let me tell you what doesn’t help. Drowning yourself with weed is only going to put a bandaid on the problem. I’m not saying don’t smoke weed. I’m saying, it sounds like you are doing it everyday to escape reality. You are not facing the pain.

Please don’t use your work schedule as excuse for not working out. You have no idea to what extend I’ve gone to keep going at my routine. I’m talking about getting up at 4 in the morning to workout. If you want it bad enough, it can be done. Make a huge 1500 calorie shake of protein, milk and some oat powder (on amazon) , peanut butter, and sip that slowly while you workout. This prevents muscle breakdown in the early morning. You’ll feel like a million bucks afterwards and you don’t have to worry about working out when you come home at night. That leaves your nights for whatever f~~~ you want to do.

Pain is good for you. Five years from now you will look back and know you are a stronger man for having gone through this. It’s through pain that the mind toughens up. Think of the millions of people who have suffered terrible ordeals, terrible injustices, have lost families, friends, wealth to circumstance or evil. You’re still very young and have the power to change your life for the better.

When you are depressed, it’s like staring up from a deep hole. Nothing is like a broken spirit. But, you can make it. I don’t have the answers for you, just know that it you want to be a better man, this is what it takes. Pain.

God bless peace and freedom.

[Blue SkiesParticipant 15665]

stay strong brotha… The truth hurts, but men learn, evolve, and adapt. I’m sure you’ll do the same.

MGTOW is not a movement, it is a way of life.

[Jan SobieskiParticipant 28791]

1. No, I am not worthy. I am just a man. A Samurai practices humility.

2. Your pain is real. Feel it. Revel in it. It tells you are still alive. Only the dead have peace. Cry about it. Go in private and scream about it. There is no shame in crying. You have tear ducts. Let your pain out. Let your rage out.

3. Your drug use concerns me. Are you the master of your drug use or do the drugs master you? Why did you give up slavery to females only to become a slave to drug, alcohol, etc???

4. I want you to not use any substance in the next month. No drugs, alcohol, nothing. Nothing. You said you respect me, then do what I say.

5. As Brother Joller said, Your pain is temporary. It will pass. It will hurt, but it will pass.

6. Let it go. Every time you get angry, say to yourself, let it go.

7. We are here for you. When has anyone ever said that to you?

Love is just alimony waiting to happen. Visit mgtow.com.

[LightBringerParticipant 440]

OP, most everyone here has gone through the ringer so we sympathize FAR MORE than any other people might. That being said, getting over an ex is always hard, its far more of a drug/addiction than we think. You need to delete ALL contact with her, and in about a month it will be better, trust me. I have been suicidal before so I ‘get it’.

2nd, have you looked into existential philsophy? Its all about creating your own purpose/value.

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