Going Silent on posting Til I am Confident Again

[PhantomParticipant 3328]

I, being new here, am now doubting myself.

When I found this site, I came to life inside. I felt that I had found a type of “brotherhood of man” or “Brothers In Arms” (Dire Straits song) in the war of the sexes we are caught up in. It seemed that we had a unity of us all going our way, that I thought meant, our way, together, AWAY from women, because of “the tricked deck” against us, etc.

My confidence is now unsure, as it seems, my perception of us being a community, was premature and my assumption. If I understand it now, it just means we are all here with only the word No (in regards to women) and Own (as in each of us going our own separate ways) as the base and foundation of MGTOW. I am even doubting whether or not if I have that straight now. As I understand it, we are not a community. If I have that clear, then our unity is based only on NO?

This brings me back to just being isolated and an island in and of myself. Even with this thread, I keep doubting myself, on whether or not I should create it. I have read some men’s post, and have expressed and opened myself up a lot, and it’s like I didn’t even say anything most of the time.

I realize nobody owes me a reply, but it kinda kills the fire inside me, after spending almost an hr, at times, really thinking about what a man said. How I felt, when I had to live through it, and try to reach out and say, yeah, you are not alone. I can relate. This s~~~ I am about to say may be of some benefit.

I have already spent damn near all my life with this being a running theme (The second guessing myself BS). Being abused as a child, and all the stuff many of us have been through as adults, in regards to marriage/divorce, etc. Seeing how high the stakes are, some men have already killed themselves, I have no desire out of my ignorance, to misrepresent.

So, I am thinking I need to continue to do what I have been doing most my life, and just keep silent, continue reading all the threads on this site, until I truly have a firm grasp and my confidence again.

So, I am going my OWN WAY, and learning what I can from everyone here. I hope that the posts I have already done at least helped somebody, and I look forward to having my s~~~ down pat, so I can be confident in posting in the future. This is extremely important to me.

Seeing that I have my handle being MGTOW Age, it seems the proper course of action for me to take. Get myself up to speed, and be crystal clear on what it means being here.

If you read all this, thank you for taking the time.

Silent Stealth MGTOW til I get on track and get my confidence in check.

Disclaimer: I don’t know if I will get any replies, or if I will respond. Just gonna do my own thing for awhile, but I am still here.

Thank you again Gentlemen

[StandUpGuyParticipant 334]

Not sure what you looking for from this forum. I find it great to read others perspectives, stories and knowing that there is a growing flat out rejection of the mainstay of blue-pill mania; really that is where the “NO” comes into play. Moreover, by going our own way we do not need to define in exact terms what that is exactly but simply do it.

[ILiveAgainParticipant]

Here is a reply ☺

I’m here …. I always listen. Most of the time it’s just my 2 cents. Most of the time we chew the fat and discuss anything and everything.

Someone said mgtow.com is like a rest stop on a vast highway. Men pull in, rest, talk to others about the journey ahead and if they want it … advice.

That is one aspect ….. the other more serious side is dealing with guys that are lost, damaged, worn down and in some cases …. myself included …… wanting out.

We are all going our own way but we will stop for a brother. Pick him up, care for him. Build him up so he regains strength in his soul. We will help him back on his feet so he can start his journey.

It’s more a case of ask not what mgtow can do for you … but what you can do for mgtow ☺

I was feeling like you do now. It took a long time to understand that I wasn’t an isolated empty jelly …. but an independent rock.

I’m king of my world. I make the laws. I decide the direction. I have complete control over my kingdom.

I would not swap that for anything. Do I question my decision? EVERY DAY

Do I feel lonely? SOMETIMES

Do I feel loved? ABSOLUTELY

Life is not easy by any means but we can steer ourselves on the best course ….. that’s all we can do.

I am here for YOU …… as I suspect we all are.

Will I hold your hand? No … not unless you travel and visit.

But I will talk with you. Give you my 2 cents. I will think of you & how you feel during my day.

I will ask on the forum how your doing ….. and when your s~~~ fed up of me …. I will travel on my way.

We are not in each others pockets but we have room in our thoughts and hearts …. for a brother that is down.

[UntamedParticipant]

I found this site by accident. I was on one of those dating forums, wasting my time, when a guy started a thread about “What is MGTOW and do you agree” ( as if there was something to agree or disagree with “NO”) and when I read the About page I thought “Holy mother of… the guys who created this site have it figured out” same s~~~ I figured out all those years ago about what the Gender War meant for us men.

So we all find each other on here and try to augment our awareness of how toxic weemins really are and what we represent to them. I see there is also help here for those who need advice or find a lawyer who hasn’t sold his soul to the Feminazi deity. There is a kind of brotherhood here and there should be if we want to protect ourselves from the machinations of the opposite sex, but it’s not a community in the sense that there are rules to follow or some meeting to attend… We go our own way, and if that way happens to enrich or save some poor sap from a lifetime of servitude, so much the better.

Don't let them Blame, Shame or Tame you!
Give 'em NOTHING, not even an answer!
#GenderSegragationNow!

[KeymasterKeymaster]

This is very unsettling. And I hope you didn’t misinterpret what I meant earlier when I was merely pointing out “inaction” as the “action”.

It seemed that we had a unity of us all going our way, that I thought meant, our way, together, AWAY from women, because of “the tricked deck” against us, etc.

….. As I understand it, we are not a community. If I have that clear, then our unity is based only on NO?

Isn’t that a blatant contradiction?

Careful of over-thinking it. This is VERY CLEARLY a brotherhood of men who understand each other. Every second introduction is a practical delight how they have found their way here to exchange with like-minded men. I will never forget the THRILL of seeing my first MGTOW videos and reading threads by MANY who were so clearly able to articulate thoughts I was previously unable to put into words.

It was an amazing discovery.

Second-guessing and questioning EVERYTHING is fully encouraged. Sometimes this leads to us throwing flaming arrows at each other for no apparent reason. But that’s how the next great ideas are created! ONE man says “this scientific concept creates that scientific concept” and another takes that idea and creates the NEXT great scientific concept. We see this here all the time. You yourself have been blown away (and said so) about thoughts you hadn’t even considered.

MGTOW is a touchstone. That pebble in your pocket that you can feel. It doesn’t “love” you. But it’s THERE.

You’ve been socialized to second guess yourself and feel insecure. The system is DESIGNED to make you feel that way, and a man will be more likely to enslave himself (than release himself) just to create some order out of the chaos. “well I may be married and miserable, but at least I know what I have to do every dy for the next 40 years”. That’s hardly a life. When a prisoner is released, it’s been said he’s been so institutionalized, the first thing he will do is commit a crime just to going back to what he KNOWS.

Maybe you need a break. If it doesn’t bring you JOY or provide enlightenment or some kind of happiness to know that YOU ARE NOT ALONE , then by all means return when it does again. But men keep coming back to the Manosphere – as hard as the red pill is to swallow – because the truth is addictive.

I have really enjoyed having you around and I was very sorry to read this when you were just recently so elated! Try not to overthink it too much. An analytical mind is good. But it can also have you running around in circles if you don’t empty your head once in a while.

I watched 4 hours of mindless and STUPID television the other day at a friends house. JUST to clear my head. A form of outstanding therapy. And I won’t need to do it again for a while. But because I didn’t do it in so long, it was actually good for me. It was just something ELSE.

Try doing something “ELSE” for a bit and I would be thrilled to see you back soon.

If you keep doing what you've always done... you're gonna keep getting what you always got.

[Anonymous 42]

Hey MGTOW age, I found more comrades here than anywhere on my path of life, others that have truly walked a mile in my shoes, as I have theirs. Truth be told, yes this is a community, but not in the sense of communist, rather comrades in truth! Feminist can label me whatever the f~~~ they want! I’m not the one destroying society, emasculating women, doing live birth abortions, suffocating the infant, then chopping, dicing, and slicing for PROFIT! Hitler did allot of name calling on his march of madness and death. AS DOES FEMINISM!

I’ve watched the march of dimes turn into the march of death!

My humanity towards feminism, and feminists has been stricken. I can easily step over their rotting corpse and pay no attention to the dieing or disabled feminist. Let them die guilty and alone! Feminism is f~~~ed, and let them be F~~~ED!

Hey wave, I feel for you man, I know your pain and frustration, you’ll always have a friend here that truly listens and understands, the door will always be open, never locked, never shut. Don’t be a stranger, pop in and say hi between the lines.

Eeach and every man here has a blueprint that has been smudged and torn by feminism. We help each other decipher the code, and rebuild each other to the proper and ordained specifications. I’m just a man riveter, helping to rivet men back together again. I don’t just “hate” my opposition feminism, I DESPISE FEMINISM !!! HITLER WITH T~~~!!!

 

[chirParticipant]

I prefer to think of us as a community of individuals.   This site is probably the best aggregator of non-feminist agenda media and writing left on the internet.   Take the knowledge you find and hone it into your own philosophy of life and how to cope with the political correctness and feminazi agenda infesting western society.  Best thing you can do is add to this repository of thought and let others know your thoughts on the matter at hand.

It is by caffeine alone I set my mind in motion, it is by the beans of Java that thoughts acquire speed, the hands acquire shaking, the shaking becomes a warning; it is by caffeine alone I set my mind in motion.

[RoyDalParticipant]

The only way I ever built confidence was to keep doing whatever it was until I was happy with the results. So far, I have never found anything to do that I did not see room for self-improvement.

I recommend you keep submitting your thoughts and ideas and never mind what others are supposed to think.

Society asks MGTOWs: Why are you not making more tax-slaves?

[FrankyParticipant 2338]

You’re free to do whatever you like my friend.No one expects you to write stuff all the time, if you get tired just sit back and relax.This is more of like a resting place for me at least.

Regardless of what you choose i’ll be here and you can share your griefs/joy/or just random rants with me.

If i remember correctly it was you who encouraged me when i was second guessing myself and i won’t forget.

[KeymasterKeymaster]

chir wrote:

I prefer to think of us as a community of individuals.

Yes.

chir wrote:

This site is probably the best aggregator of non-feminist agenda media and writing left on the internet.

Funny you should say that. Today someone emailed and pointed us to:

student success . org
(remove the spaces)

Check out the video on the left 1/2 way down the page: “not anymore”… try and watch a minute of it without vomitting.
They actually use the words “rape culture” as part of the curriculum.

The guy who wrote to us said ” Today I was forced, upon threat of refusal of acceptance, and withdrawal of financial aid to go through a roughly 4 hr video/questions of almost entirely feminist propaganda. I just cant believe this is a mandatory process to going to a California State University. Infuriating.”.

If you keep doing what you've always done... you're gonna keep getting what you always got.

[Anonymous 42]

Keymaster wrote:

The guy who wrote to us said ” Today I was forced, upon threat of refusal of acceptance, and withdrawal of financial aid to go through a roughly 4 hr video/questions of almost entirely feminist propaganda. I just cant believe this is a mandatory process to going to a California State University. Infuriating.”.

Man KeyMaster, how the f~~~ do you cope with all the red pill exposure overexposure? All the injustices hitting men in the face like a freight train full of abuse from engine to caboose! I’m not sorry for being mean and nasty to feminism, I’m unbolting the track and removing rail plates like everyone else here. That behemoth needs to plow 5,000 yards of ties, rails, gravel, and telegraph poles!

 

[KeymasterKeymaster]

Anonymous wrote:

Man KeyMaster, how the f~~~ do you cope with all the red pill exposure overexposure?

Was actually grateful that he alerted us to it. It’s not a downer. It’s a good find and an important one – an asset to the site. Some guy out there takes a minute to write to us and say “men! check this s~~~ out!” and we roll up our sleeves with enthusiasm. One of the other guys (not active the forums) checks it out. Very often it makes for a good support link to an article or video so we sock it away to pull it out later. Thankful guys write to us in that way.

If you keep doing what you've always done... you're gonna keep getting what you always got.

[Anonymous 42]

 

KeyMaster, you must have one of those minds like a steel trap, a calculator, a clock not to be tampered with! I think we’re much alike when it comes to how injustice strikes our bells and rings out in tyranny. It’s like they strike all minor notes and chords in a symphony of bad timing, and endless insanity! This place and the manisphere are music to my soul. Thanks.

[uchibenkeiParticipant 7965]

you don’t need to have a “grasp on what mgtow is” to post or share.  post or share whatever you want and feel good about it whether or not you get replies.  don’t post for replies.  post for your own satisfaction.  Post for yourself.  There are men who will read what you wrote and it will help them even if they don’t reply to say so.  that’s how your life should be lived as well.  Live it for yourself.  Acceptance from others is over rated.  lol

I bathe in the tears of single moms.

[PhantomParticipant 3328]

Thank you to everyone that gave me a “kick in the ass”, given me a lot to consider and reconsider. The ummm, emotions/feelings jump me sometimes and I get derailed for lack of better way to express it.

My best has never been “good enough”, sorry I allowed it to overcome me.

Keymaster wrote:

This is very unsettling. And I hope you didn’t misinterpret what I meant earlier when I was merely pointing out “inaction” as the “action”.

After sleeping on it, and reading all you said, I think that is unfortunately, exactly what I did. Doing some mindless STUPID TV sounds like what the Dr. ordered…great idea, I am going to give that a go. Everything else you said also rings true, I need to get myself sorted on it even more than I thought. Thank you for the reality check, and snapping me out of it.

You have done nothing illegal or immoral.  You are just waking up to a lifetime of enslavement.

Your perspective and breakdown of things always bypasses the loops of my thinking, that I sometimes get caught up in, can’t believe I fell right back in to my old habits of having my thoughts going in circles. I don’t want to be a dog chasing his own tail.

ILiveAgain wrote:

I was feeling like you do now. It took a long time to understand that I wasn’t an isolated empty jelly …. but an independent rock.

Along with everything else you said, which is extremely helpful, I realize this is what I should have been focused on, instead of worrying so much about misrepresenting. I despise being so hard on myself, and have fought like hell to break free of that. My 2nd XW really did a number on me in that dept., as well as my father.

Untamed wrote:

“What is MGTOW and do you agree” ( as if there was something to agree or disagree with “NO”)

I needed to have that in my face like that. After listening to (Sandman, etc) this somehow got tainted in my thought process. this was like a bazooka to my face, and much needed.

Anonymous wrote:

Truth be told, yes this is a community, but not in the sense of communist, rather comrades in truth!

That works for me, and I can more than live with that, along with the rest of what you shared.

Franky wrote:

If i remember correctly it was you who encouraged me when i was second guessing myself and i won’t forget.

I don’t know why this impacted me so much. I think I felt like I was being selfish, getting all this wisdom from so many here on this site, but not really giving anything back.

ILiveAgain wrote:

It’s more a case of ask not what mgtow can do for you … but what you can do for mgtow

Ironically, this was one of the other main things I was thinking and feeling when I made this thread. I was feeling like a sponge & thought I had steered someone wrong to boot.

There’s nothing wrong with a non confident post. Were not all a barbar, a sandman or a tfm. Those guys are prodigies.

I let my pride overtake me, didn’t want to show any weakness. My journey to being free is a long road ahead of me in this regard.

uchibenkei wrote:

you don’t need to have a “grasp on what mgtow is” to post or share.

I think I have been doing the “deer in the headlights” out of awe here, on this site, and men that I look up to (as my new heroes) as I have stated in other post.

I didn’t want to let anyone down, and have my “ducks in a row” so to speak.

Keymaster wrote:

I have really enjoyed having you around and I was very sorry to read this when you were just recently so elated! Try not to overthink it too much. An analytical mind is good. But it can also have you running around in circles if you don’t empty your head once in a while.

I will take that to heart, I could really just quote everything that has been said here.
I actually tried to edit and delete this thread after I made it.

I am thankful now, that I made it. I want to better myself and all of you have given me so much to think about, and do…
So that I can.

Thank you all, and please keep me on the straight and narrow path.
Has helped me beyond words.

Respectfully & Cheers

@roydal You recommended I keep posting, so that I can keep growing. I want to keep doing that

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