Going no-contact…what does it do?

[paxcoenParticipant 9]

Not that I give a damn, but what happens in the female mind when a man goes no contact on them after a breakup. And I mean hard core vanish like they never even existed. I’ve not really been in many LTRs, but if I have, and they ended,  I actually completely cut-off all communication, block calls, texts, FB etc. You just wonder when you see these blue pill dudes that remain “friends” with exes only to see how they suffer much more. I just wonder what it does, when a man goes MGTOW so hard on a woman that she has no idea of it.

 

Any crazy reactions?

 

 

[TheNinjaUWannaH8Participant 386]

Hell Yeah!  I’m like a 7th Degree Grand Master Wong “No-Contact” Gracie-level Grappling Asshole to Exes.

As Mentioned in a previous post, I ignored the Fruck out of an Ex who literally called my phone and left messages for 4 MONTHS STRAIGHT! Frothing with snot and tears.

For you non-mathematical muthaf~~~as…That is 120+ days of constant calling.  Every Day!

She pulled out every grieving Ex trick in the book from “My period’s late” to “My passport is under your couch, I think” to “I’m f~~~ing your cousin. Ok, I’m not. But I will if you don’t call me.”

It’s akin to her pressing every Function Key on your Mac Book Pro until the f~~~in’ computer reboots.

I reboot for No Bietch.

 

 

[Loose NutsParticipant 37]

Women lose their minds because they no longer have any form of control over you. When you completely break it off and “go ghost”, there’s nothing at all she can do. Like TheNinjaUWannaH8 said, I had an ex call and text me for a solid year (even after she was already with another guy) simply because she could not stand the fact that she had lost any control she thought she had. I didn’t reply or take her call once during that entire time. Needless to say, she way insane.

The blue-pill guys that remain friends either do it out of pity or out of some hope that they will someday get back together. I have neither.

[Mann FugaSpectator 77]

You do no contact for you.  It’s the best thing one can do for one’s mental health.  By going no contact, you slowly ween yourself from your heroin.  Best thing I’ve personally ever done.  Every time you break no contact, you start back from square one.  Breaking no contact is no different than smoking another cigarette, shooting up or taking another drink.  Once you break the cycle, violating your rule puts you back where you started days, weeks, months, years or decades prior.

Going no contact requires a ton of discipline and self-control.  Not everyone can pull it off.  Those that can never regret having done so.

[KeymasterKeymaster]

“NO CONTACT” is absolutely essential for your peace of mind. It’s also a gesture of you placing yourself in a position having complete control over the faucet of the constant flow of attention she needs. A great % of the reason a woman will initiate a breakup ( or start looking elsewhere) is because she has begun to take this flow of attention from you for granted. If she knew any IOTA of a drop in loyalty meant she would be losing you PERMANENTLY …. she would think twice about it. That’s why allowing her to think you are (also) her “friend” or you will “be there for her no matter what” is the WORST thing you can possibly do.

If a woman thinks you are weak enough to be her “orbiter”, she will test that s~~~.

Think of attention like a tap / water faucet. Have you ever lost total power in your home and found no running water? PANIC sets in. You absolutely FREAK. It’s not even like you need a drink right now anyway… but the fact that the water/ power is off makes you feel totally lost. You don’t even know what the f~~~ to do! The panic comes from not knowing how long it will be out. Minutes? Hours? Days? Just wondering will drive you crazy. Should you wait? Call someone? Book a hotel? You become insecure.

That’s a woman who has become accustomed to your attention when you suddenly establish and maintain a “no contact” frame. Devastating. Suddenly the department of water and power (who are usually totally invisible) has you by the b~~~~. They could charge you $XXXXXX and you will pay it to get that s~~~ back ASAP.

By doing absolutely NOTHING, you force her hamster to do cartwheels in her sleep.

A few years ago, a girl I was heavily invested in (years of time and history and knowing each other) was straying and I could sense it. Im not a control freak whatsoever so I will not object to a woman’s desire to dance with someone else, or talk to other guys. The door is “always open and she can leave” is my attitude. If she wants to do that, NO PROBLEM! just don’t expect me to give you a ride home.

So I could feel this girl pulling away. The first sign is usually when you catch her looking at you without saying anything. Dead give away. I sensed it – some kind of affair? – but didn’t know what was up. So I met her for drinks and dinner and we had a VERY nice time practically shutting down the place. We were the last people to leave. I told myself she would never see me again. The next day, she got an email from me to never contact me again under any circumstances. That’s all it said. i didn’t even sign it, or capitalize or punctuate it.

SHE HIT THE ROOF and totally freaked out. It was so f~~~ing awesome I can’t even put it into words. I told my friend(s) and INSTANTLY elevated myself in their eyes. “OMFG MAN! I COULD NEVER DO THAT”. Such an incredible feeling. But also incredibly difficult.

You MUST be totally committed to it. If you’re going to play that hand, you better not cave. Not even SLIGHTLY. No text replies. No emails answered. You are DEAD. Permanent. Finished. No possibility of resurrection. Every day that passes makes you feel like a million bucks. But it really works best if you can do it JUST BEFORE she dumps you. If you smell “affair” or her cheating / straying… cut that bitch off right then and there.

I know Im a complete stranger on the internet, but trust me on this. It’s SPECTACULAR.

If you keep doing what you've always done... you're gonna keep getting what you always got.

[TYEParticipant 291]

Going no contact is the best thing a man can do ! The reason I hate men that hit women is not because of some Blue-pill Mangina logic “boys shouldn’t hit girls”, its because they’re not using their brains. Women love drama, and physical abuse they feed off of it so this tactic will only play in her favor, if you cut a woman off from your mind, and heart she will melt like a witch who’s just had holy water splashed on her “I’m Melting!!!”. I am the light that shines ever so bright, and the women around me are like blood sucking vampires they’re absolutely repulsed by me. Be that light don’t ever let them get close to you, or inside your head because the second you stop shining they will suck you dry !!!

[ManocalypseParticipant 321]

I haven’t had contact with my last ex since September 2010. Last thing I knew about her is that she has a cat…

[StargazerParticipant 12505]

Women love drama, and physical abuse they feed off of it so this tactic will only play in her favor, if you cut a woman off from your mind, and heart she will melt like a witch

True that. Why else would a woman bait a man up to the point that he smacks her… so she can be a victim and go get sympathy from her friends and her mom and p~~~ and moan about you on social media… then come right back for more attention and drama.

Cutting a woman off tells her that she has no power over you and there’s nothing a woman hates more than to not be able to control and dominate a man.

[GrefParticipant 203]

Key Master said “I told myself she would never see me again. The next day, she got an email from me to never contact me again under any circumstances. That’s all it said. i didn’t even sign it, or capitalize or punctuate it. SHE HIT THE ROOF and totally freaked out. It was so f~~~ing awesome I can’t even put it into words.”

Could you please try and put it into words?

Just reading that made me giddy, I would love to hear more about what she did and said to you over voice mail, text, email, etc.

[url url=http://www.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/2d6337/i_was_divorce_raped_dont_be_me] I'm paying her 25% of my salary over the next eight years. I had to pay my lawyer, her lawyer, 50% of all my retirement funds and give her another few thousand dollars to make her go away. It cost me $20 to get married and will cost me over $220,000 to get divorced. [/url]

[Deus Ex MachinaParticipant 1068]

Personally, I feel that going “No contact” with a Woman truly brings out the REAL person within them. Manipulative, angry, controlling. It just gets worse and worse as the time passes. There was one girl who truly was a pathological liar and extremely toxic to hang around. So I cut off all contact with, no questions asked and holy s~~~ the barrage of texts, voicemails I got were relentless.

It starts off with the usual,

“I miss you”

“Can we just talk?”.

Then when they finally realize none of their tactics are working, they get nasty/desperate. like Ninja James said: “I’m sleeping with your cousin”. Yeah, it gets that bad, but for some it can get worse, like the movie SwimFan worse. Females will often times, show up at work and email all types of weird s~~~ to your friends and family. It’s pathetic and to see a grown ass women act like a bunch of school girls is truly more pathetic.

"If You have the Tooth of a Whale, You must have the Whale's Jaw to hold it". (i.e. One Must have the right qualifications for leadership) -Hawaiian Proverb

[KeymasterKeymaster]

Keymaster, how does this work if the girl works in your office?
EDIT – and when I say yours I mean mine.

I found your edit hilarious.

Quit you job? Or fire her. If that fails, tell her you are broke and have AIDS. It’s the next best thing.

Could you please try and put it into words?

Well, what followed was an email about 1726437165 words long. It was the longest email I ever received. Big f~~~-you colorful paragraphs exposing (as Deus Ex so brilliantly pointed out) the real beast within. Until that point, no effort of mine would inspire her to write such a passionate love letter, but females will be much more willing to drop what they are doing to author a hate manifesto while fisting themselves. It was rage and desperation never seen matched. Just like cutting off the power to her home.

Also VERY difficult (and I can’t stress that enough), because deciding to make sure I never see another human being again was the most absolute thing I have ever done. She was also very prominent in my social circle, so I knew this would cause the kind of backstabbing and ostracizing you can expect when females declare war. This move wasn’t just declaring “no contact” with a girl. I prepared myself for a Hiroshima-grade explosion on my entire personal reputation.

Frankly, that was perfectly OK with me. She would do all the work at publishing bad press, and it would cement myself as someone who plays hardball.

It was NECESSARY. The problem is, I’m a very easy going fun (and funny) person to be around in person. This can lead people to think you’re not serious – even when you are MOST serious. That’s why I had to be so cold-blooded about it. It was totally unlike me, and she knew it.

This sent her into an emotional hamsterbation where she questioned if she ever really knew me at all, sending her over the edge with “how could you do this to me”s as if she deserved my undying friendship – or to know me at all.

If you go no contact and cave, you have just lowered yourself to the lowest possible level in her mind. If you stick to it, it will elevate you to a height never imagined but she will HATE you. And that’s the problem with too many guys….. they don’t have the b~~~~ to let a woman HATE them. My sack grew ten sizes that day and my friends were amazed. I felt terrific and it was instantaneous. Would recommend it highly.

With zero effort from you, it’s the gift that keeps on giving.

If you keep doing what you've always done... you're gonna keep getting what you always got.

[GrefParticipant 203]

Hell yeah thanks for that Keymaster.

[url url=http://www.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/2d6337/i_was_divorce_raped_dont_be_me] I'm paying her 25% of my salary over the next eight years. I had to pay my lawyer, her lawyer, 50% of all my retirement funds and give her another few thousand dollars to make her go away. It cost me $20 to get married and will cost me over $220,000 to get divorced. [/url]

[FitzBonesParticipant 304]

“NO CONTACT” is absolutely essential for your peace of mind.

This. All this.
I wish so much that I could have that peace of mind but unfortunately with a son in the picture she still tries to control and manipulate me despite seperating.
For anyone with the option, remember that you broke up for a REASON. Dont ever forget that reason.

"If you can fill the unforgiving minute with sixty seconds' worth of distance run,"

[xlrsnbrgParticipant 1786]

No-contact is how I ended all my relationships during my old blue-pill days (except a couple of times when I got dumped). It’s hard to do especially if you’re a nice guy; but it’s how you keep and even grow your dignity and self-esteem.

Keymaster is right — assume that any common friends are lost. This also means you should NEVER date anyone at work.

If you break this rule and want to keep your job, no-contact is not an option. You don’t want anyone at work literally hating you. I think it’s better to go the “we’ll be friends and get along great” path, at least in appearance, while in practice you do ignore her for anything not work-related and hope for the best (but expect the worst).

A man shouldn't make his life's objective to be on the side of the majority, but to avoid finding himself in the ranks of the insane. (Marcus Aurelius)

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