Getting your female to slow it down

[majorraypinghParticipant 4]

Hey I’ve been seeing this chick since about mid April. First “relationship” I’ve been in, for about 5 years. been avoiding them, only open to them for a woman who isnt crazy a nawalt-type.

My last relationship of two years ended horribly after I found out she was cheating. I essentially became a purple piller five years ago….

This chick is pretty good looking, intelligent, works a lot (ideal so I don’t really need to see her more than once or twice a week, and she leaves in the mornings to go to work after staying over). Sex is pretty good. She doesn’t seem to expect much from me either. She pays for stuff…. she’s not leeching off me.

 

 

But…. I can tell she is getting attached to me.

She just sent me a text that was “Hey I have to tell you something” and upon reading that I was dreading the “I love you text” that would be WAAAAY too soon and I wouldn’t be into that at all. She replied “I can’t stop thinking about you”…. not as bad, but I really just dont want to hear that s~~~.

Before taking the red pill, this is the sort of text that I would have loved to receive. Now…. ugh. I don’t want to get that emotionally involved. My emotional needs when it comes to the females is very minimal and it will take me a lot of time to build any sort of real strong feelings for any female. Just want some sex and companionship without the love essentially.

 

How should I address, without ruining a pretty good, casual relationship, this issue. How should I put it lightly?

I don’t want to be a dick, because she is really nice. I don’t want to completely shoot her down, or be misleading either.  I just want her to slow it down, and not become a stage 4 clinger.

[herodeath7Participant 35]

Maybe you could be like, “Look, I really like you, but because [Insert Something about the hurt you felt from your past relationship], I want to take things slowly”. If she’s down then great, if not then you should probably leave. You should put your own comfort first (damn near always!!), and because she might go rouge on you and start with that “I want a baby and to be married” B.S. It’d be best to leave before that happens. Or maybe this is just a sign that it is time to move on. That said, I’m sure that there are plenty of people here you can give you much better insight than me. Good Luck!

[WolfParticipant 890]

First, talk to her and feel her out. Your hunch may be incorrect. If it is incorrect, then this is a non-issue.

If she is in fact becoming a stage 4 clinger, then tell her that things are moving too fast and you would like to slow it down. Tell her that you like your personal space. I don’t believe such statements are being a jerk or rude. The key is to do it using the poo sandwich technique: start with something positive, then the meat of what you want to say, followed by something positive again.

[ILiveAgainParticipant]

50% of marriage ends in divorce. 75% of dicorce is initiated by women.

So you could say you have a 50/50 chance of staying together and a 75% chance she will dump you in the future.

I know I’m taking marriage stats but they are aslo relationships.

So the odds are … even if you do talk with her ….. she’ll pull the plug eventually.

Conclusion? …. just don’t take it seriously …. it’s just not worth the slog.

Stick with her until want to kill her … then don’t … and leave 😆

[SnakeSpectator 2080]

http://www.personalpowermeditation.com/forum/social-dynamics/the-betaization-process/

[herodeath7Participant 35]

ILiveAgain wrote:

50% of marriage ends in divorce. 75% of dicorce is initiated by women.

So you could say you have a 50/50 chance of staying together and a 75% chance she will dump you in the future.

Then it’d be a 50/50 chance of staying together and a 37.5% chance that she’d dump him in the future, but yeah the point is still valid.

[MOWsince95Participant 1446]

majorraypingh wrote:

She replied “I can’t stop thinking about you”

Proper response … “I can understand why.”

 

Deflect, and screw her more.  Then take 2 red pills and call us in the morning, after you dump her and regain your independence.  The fact that you are concerned about her when she will rip you blind given 1/10th of a chance is concerning, to say the least.

 

 

 

If you are MGTOW when you are young you have no heart.
If you're not MGTOW when you are 20 you have no brain.

[WolfParticipant 890]

ILiveAgain wrote:

50% of marriage ends in divorce. 75% of dicorce is initiated by women. So you could say you have a 50/50 chance of staying together and a 75% chance she will dump you in the future.

Women don’t think in stats. Especially when it comes to their special day!

[HitmanParticipant]

stall her out..do not give her the rope to hang you with.skip a few days with some bulls~~~ excuses,then bang her once or twice a week only..dont answer her texts too quickly, you got more important s~~~ to deal with than her..let her know that ..hint , hint, ..

[RoyDalParticipant]

I copied this off the link Snake provided. It says it all for me, because I’ve been around that block way too many times.

Society asks MGTOWs: Why are you not making more tax-slaves?

[Anonymous 5]

Hi Major, welcome to the forums

This guy explains each point pretty well too.
Nice link Snake!

This same MGTOW guy does a terrific clip on telling women you love them too, but I can’t remember which one.
Whatever one it was, it rang true for me.
Every time you tell a woman you love her in a relationship the break up is exponentially worse.
Worse for you emotionally as well.

[Won'tGetFooledAgainParticipant 3293]

She is testing you to see if you are worth investing any more time into.  Obviously her end goal is to have her bridezilla party, house, children and to enslave you until she decides to jump back onto the c~~~ carousel when she is bored of her mundane suburban life.

She knows she only has a certain number of years to do this before she hits the wall so she has to make sure you are worth investing her limited time into.

I think she will be shocked if you end the relationship as women feel they are the ones that do the dumping.  Normally they have someone else lined up so they can move on without giving a second thought about you.

For women, everything eventually boils down to Alpha Fucks, Beta Bucks.

[LightBringerParticipant 440]

What if you actually like the girl and she is the one ‘slowing it down’?

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