FWB approach

[IceBankMiceElfParticipant 124]

Hey guys, a couple of things:

1. The ex-wife is calling me because it looks like things have went south with her current husband and I could give a f~~~ less! I want to laugh, but don’t want to jinx myself, but it sure is comical.

2. I have this suspicion that I have a chance to be Friends With Benefits (FWB) with 2 women at work. I don’t work with them directly, but see them on occasion around the workplace.

The question I have for any of you who’ve been involved is how to ask it: What’re your thoughts on being FWB’s? Would you like to be f~~~-buddies? Invite them for coffee and get to that part of the conversation?

A little nervous about saying anything like this at work, but I don’t see them outside of work and will never get to that point if something isn’t said (He who hesitates, masturbates!). What’re your thoughts?

[MGTOW KnightParticipant 7477]

IceBankMiceElf wrote:

The question I have for any of you who’ve been involved is how to ask it: What’re your thoughts on being FWB’s? Would you like to be f~~~-buddies? Invite them for coffee and get to that part of the conversation?

Don’t ever mix work with pleasure. You will be setting yourself up for failure. Lay the pipe outside of work. Work is always off limits…

Fuck bitches... literally and metaphorically

[AwakenedParticipant 35200]

Don’t laugh in the exes face, but ENJOY every minute of it after she hangs up !!

Take MGTOW knight’s advice, otherwise you are BEGGING for not only the inevitable Women problems, but also problems at work at the SAME time….

It’s NOT worth it !!

In a World of Justin Beibers Be a Johnny Cash

[Mr. ManParticipant 2916]

MGTOW Knight wrote:

Work is always off limits…

This, this and more of this. How do I know? Because I’ve done it four times in my working life, and I regret every one.

That’s not to say it wasn’t fun in the heat of the moment, but you will pay consequences somewhere down the line.

[MarketWatcherParticipant]

IceBankMiceElf wrote:

I have this suspicion that I have a chance to be Friends With Benefits (FWB) with 2 women at work. I don’t work with them directly, but see them on occasion around the workplace.

If you are young and can get out of there easy then wear a rubber and bang the s~~~ out of them. If you need long term income and value your “career” (BS) then……….. F~~~ NO WHAT THE F~~~ ARE YOU THINKING?!!!! Please don’t put yourself in a bad situation.

[MarketWatcherParticipant]

From your profile Ice:

“I’m in a pretty good place as I’ve been divorced for 17 years and it cost me $750 in 1999. Took custody of my son and never looked back! ”

Keep it that way and don’t catch a stray bullet. It is amazing you have your son with this court system. The Jinx is on man. Careful.

[PistolPeteParticipant 27143]

Question: Are you insane?

Hundreds of threads on this site describe in detail the toxic, destructive, manipulative nature of woman and you are considering relations~~~s?

Suggestion:

A less lethal hobby would be snake-handling king cobras.

[IceBankMiceElfParticipant 124]

Some of the best of this site are the comments from the dudes on here. Pistol, that’s some funny s~~~!

Yea guys…I know that thing at work can get ugly, but I do like pussy and not ready to go Monk like some of you. My lizard brain says “you don’t see them that often at work and as far as I can tell…they don’t know each other.” I’m going to say something to at least one of them.

[TheStormWithinParticipant 778]

MGTOW Knight is correct. Keep co-workers off limits. Too risky.

As for the whole FWB issue, my approach is basically always the same. The women I meet generally come out and ask “so, what are you looking for?” I tell them flat out there will be NO relationship and I have no interest whatsoever in marriage.

I don’t beat around the bush. I say it without a single ounce of reluctance. When they give me crap along the lines of “oh, so you just want sex….it’s all about what YOU want”, it reveals how they think of sex as some sort of gift or favor to you, and it’s NOT. That is when the conversation is over.

Aunt Esther: Fred, I'll have you know this body was blessed by Mother Nature!! Fred: Well, too bad your face was cursed by Father Time!

[IceBankMiceElfParticipant 124]

Hominid, what happened even though it’s none of my business and I’m fine if you say that.

[HitmanParticipant]

hey icebank..
i had a lot of FWB situations.
careful with work tho,..please..
.
this is what worked for me..
you tell her..
i want you to know that i find you very beautiful,
and i want to get together with you..
first for coffee,
then for sex.
no strings.
no commitments.
just two adults who want to share some time feeling really good together.
.
you will get some no’s ..
but the yes will happen.
then have fun and do NOT develop feelings for her.
if you do then STOP.
don’t get her pregnant…blah blah blah…

[TheStormWithinParticipant 778]

Hitman wrote:

hey icebank..
i had a lot of FWB situations.
careful with work tho,..please..
.
this is what worked for me..
you tell her..
i want you to know that i find you very beautiful,
and i want to get together with you..
first for coffee,
then for sex.
no strings.
no commitments.
just two adults who want to share some time feeling really good together.
.
you will get some no’s ..
but the yes will happen.
then have fun and do NOT develop feelings for her.
if you do then STOP.
don’t get her pregnant…blah blah blah…

Exactly. I don’t know whether it’s because they don’t want to face the possibility of not getting laid, they’re just not courageous enough to be so bold or what, but the fact of the matter is there *are* women out there who aren’t looking for anything serious and will go along. Yes, the majority end up declining, but who cares? It only means you dodged a bullet.

Aunt Esther: Fred, I'll have you know this body was blessed by Mother Nature!! Fred: Well, too bad your face was cursed by Father Time!

[Anonymous 12]

Trouble is:
They know where you work, are maybe part of the same company.
One phone call to HR… and you can pack your s~~~ n gtfo

I am all for playing the game while being in charge, but damn, Dude, that is some spicy s~~~ right there.

You might be s~~~ting where you eat, so i would give that a thumbs down – too risky.
and Two at the same time too…

if they ever meet
and find out they have been played
they will team up

and after calling HR they will call the cops.

How much do you like pussy?
Your arsehole might serve as one, once you are behind bars.

Just saying.

[Mr. ManParticipant 2916]

IceBankMiceElf wrote:

Hominid, what happened even though it’s none of my business and I’m fine if you say that.

I know I’m late in replying to this, but here you go:

1. Fiery Redhead: She was my supervisor when I was in the Air Force, she was ten years my senior and outranked me. Single mom. Two years of dating followed by ten being married. So yeah, that’s what went wrong there. The problem there was how she would let her amorous feelings for me get the better of her at work, which caused us both to be hauled into the office and told to cool our jets at work. That was f~~~ing embarrassing.

2. The Slinky Undergrad: She was 19 years-old and I was 43 at the time. She made the first move and I responded in kind. And since we worked in the field conducting wildlife surveys all summer, we could sleep in the same tent (tent sex is awesome!). This relationship was on and off for 2-1/2 years. One of the problems came from simply having to hide what was going on to our co-workers, all of whom we both highly respected. The other problem was the let-down when the inevitable breakup came. If you find yourself a middle-aged man who has to give up on the affections of a delicious, energetic young thing like her, then you’ll totally understand what a bummer that is.

3. The Incompetent But Hot Supervisor: Ten years my junior, she was the worst boss I’ve ever had in my life. It was widely acknowledged within the organization that she was a bad hire. She took out her frustrations at not performing at her pay grade out on me. I became her whipping boy. Management eventually moved her out of the remote housing on the preserve that I managed and put her in town where they could keep an eye on her. And stupidly, in an effort to keep my enemy close, I extended an invitation for her to stay at my house when she has business to conduct out that way.

One day she took me up on that offer and brought a bottle of bourbon for us to share while watching movies on my couch. It only took about three shots before her toes started accidentally creeping over to mine. Before long legs were entwined. Then came these, her exact words “Wanna f~~~?” Before you judge me, remember, she was young, smoking hot, and I was living alone in a cabin in the Sonoran Desert.

In short, she became an even more insufferable bitch after that. So much for keeping your enemy close.

4. Damn, I can’t remember the fourth. It’s all a blur now.

Even though I didn’t get hauled in to HR and have my career ruined like so many other men have, I still don’t at all recommend fooling around with a co-worker. I’ll never do it again.

[Sky-OParticipant 18934]

Years ago, I knew a guy at work that told me he was banging one of the office chicks.

She was killer hot. A solid 11/10.

Fast forward to months later when she was going to get fired for continually being late and underproductive.

When she was being talked to by HR, she strategically said ‘I’ve just been really stressed out lately with everything that has been going on with Dave.’

And she said they had been hooking up but she was trying to break things off and he was ‘starting to scare me.’ (slut in victim mode)

Well. She got to keep her job. And two days later when they fired my buddy, he had to put his stuff in a box and leave.

And when he walked out, the other women there all looked at him like he was the company rapist.

He was on unemployment for awhile and almost lost his house before getting another job.

[RhinoParticipant 3477]

IceBankMiceElf wrote:

Some of the best of this site are the comments from the dudes on here. Pistol, that’s some funny s~~~!

Yea guys…I know that thing at work can get ugly, but I do like pussy and not ready to go Monk like some of you. My lizard brain says “you don’t see them that often at work and as far as I can tell…they don’t know each other.” I’m going to say something to at least one of them.

Brother no one that gave you advice was telling you to go monk or choose to screw women at work we are telling you that you can screw whoever you want so long it is not someone from work.

You want to say something to one of them and start a relationship go right ahead its not like we know what we are talking about after all logic and reason has no power when your lizard brain is thinking for you. You like to smell s~~~ when you eat? Go right ahead and s~~~ where you eat after all who are we to tell you what to do.

The answer is very simple friends with benefits can work if you set rules for yourself and follow them and use logic instead of hormones and emotions. Just because you don’t want to take what we all wrote and use it for your benefit does not mean we are not telling you the truth.

If you want this to go smooth and work out do not cohabitate, do not get serious with her. Spend 3 months tops and move on to the next girl if you continue for longer she will start to develop feelings towards you. Never show her where you live because she will stalk you. That ties into the work thing never let her know where you work because she will go there and cause you problems as well. It gets worse if she is a co-worker because she can claim you sexually harassed her at work and your career can be over.

Finally always use a condom and if you can get a vasectomy. Remember one chance, per girl, per lifetime if she breaks any of the rules you set out you must cut her out of your life and move on. Take this advice or not choice is up to you but remember we warned you.

[BokehParticipant 65]

I’ve had FWBs over the years, ever since college. They can work, but you have to be careful. The work rule is #1 – never s~~~ where you eat.

Half the time, I was approached. Those are the ones to be wary of, because I’ve seen too many women use that approach to try and snare the guy. I had one do it to me, but because I held her to the ground rules I established before we started, I ended it the second she started demanding girlfriend benefits.

The ones I initiated, because I felt they could handle it, because I knew they’d been in one or more FWBs before, it was simple: hang out, talk about relationships, go “Hey, what do you think of friends with benefits?, I was talking to someone about that recently, what do you think?” – her answer will lead the way.

Then you have “the talk”. The ground rules. No sleepovers. No “dates”. Limited making out. No romance. No “text me every day”. You don’t get girlfriend benefits – this is just two friends getting their rocks off in between relationships. You don’t tell anyone. This can end at any time, if either of us starts dating someone else. Don’t expect me to be your date for your birthday or holidays. I’m not meeting your parents, unless I know them already. YOU DON’T TELL ANYONE. We’re friends. I will do friend things. But not boyfriend things. The minute this line gets crossed – from either one of us – it’s over. We stop f~~~ing. FWB is a booty call, period.

Then you have all the tools you need – if she starts getting clingy or pulls the ‘I changed my mind” nonsense – it’s over.

Be sure she can handle it, before you bring it up. A woman who’s never done it…how well do you know her? How important is she, as a friend? I have a couple female friends I would never f~~~, and have turned them down for FWB, because of that.

FWB should be easy, it’s just a booty call, so treat it as such – but use your brain, be observant, and law down the law before you do anything. You need a quick exit from this kind of thing – and expect half of them to go badly. Most women think they can handle casual sex, but they can’t. The ones that can, you don’t need to have the talk, they’re on the c~~~ carousel already, and don’t need coaching. And, half of them lie, to get in with a guy and try to trap them. If she’s a real friend, know that you’re taking the risk of losing her as a friend.

USE BIRTH CONTROL, goes without saying.

Lay down the law – if she fights that – walk away.

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