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Gentlemen, please, if you don’t mind, share the last time you knew your “romantic” relationship wasn’t going anywhere and yet, you had to face a ridiculous ultimatum to take the “next step” from the “lady” of the day.
Are women smart enough to realize that what they’re asking for is illogical?
Are they willing to risk it all hoping to find the idiot they’re looking for?
Is that the ultimate s~~~ test that would define the future roles in the relationship?
In my case, after dating a 29yo architect for three months and right after a great f~~~ in her apartment, she said:
“My friends think that I’m just wasting my time with you. So, I’ve been thinking. What am I to you? Am I your girlfriend? Are you going to eventually marry me? Please, I want you to go home tonight and think about it. If you’re not ready to take the next step, I don’t want to see you anymore”.
I deleted her phone number before I got to my car and never talked to her again.
Did you guys fall for it?Naive you are if you're hoping to find your unicorn in Latin America. The brain-eating bacteria of feminism is everywhere. Give up!
Anonymous6“You better propose to me by Christmas” – Bitch Please
“You should buy me something nice for Valentine’s Day” – Bitch Please
“Can we go to the mall” – Bitch Please
“Would you take me home to your mom” – Bitch Please
“You better get me a nice ring” – Bitch Please
“When should we have the wedding” – Bitch Please
“I wanna go to Hawaii for the Honeymoon” – Bitch Please
“I’m ready for a baby now” – Bitch Please
“Me & my girls are going on a vacation, gimme some money”-Bitch Please
“You better not go hunting or fishing tomorrow…….
I used to live with a woman, she did whatever she wanted whenever she wanted, and I supported it. If she wanted to work more than one job I supported it. If she wanted to have a “girls night out” I supported it. In the end she hated anything I did, ultimately because whatever it was that I was doing wasn’t in support of what she wanted in her life. If I was playing a video game, or reading a comic, or fixing up my old classic car these were all things that were not enhancing her life. In her opinion I should have got a better job (even though I had one and a job I liked doing ) so that I was earning copious amounts of resources. She would be out working her second job and during that time is when I played my video games or read my comics. As soon as she returned home I immediately dropped whatever I was doing to become the very attentive man in her life that I wanted to be as I wanted to be with her. Still I was not doing what she wanted so it was always met with disdain and anger from her.
I could have been less supportive and demanded she quit the extra job and be there for me. In hindsight maybe that is the kind of man she really needed: one that dominated her and made her do what a woman is supposed to. But I grew up in a feminist culture, and I chose to just be there for her and be supportive.
All of that and my needs were simple: f~~~ me silly with that vag a few times a week like she used to do earlier in our time together and I would do whatever she wanted. She couldn’t even do that.
After some time of no sex and all complaining about what I am not doing in the relationS~~~ I began to no longer care and grew weary of being in a relationS~~~ with someone that was so self centered.
One day she came home, found me playing video games again ( she heard me turning the computer off ) and she had the audacity to make an ultimatum: it was either her or the video games. I couldn’t believe she was making an ultimatum of me, as I would never do that of someone I loved unless their behavior was destructive/ illegal. So I surmised that she felt the things I enjoyed doing were destructive in her opinion, and there is no way I could continue to be with someone like her and I told her to her face that I will choose the “things that I love over you.”
In a single sentence I told her I no longer loved her, so goodbye and good riddance.
I have been single ever since, and I don’t even date anymore. I tried to date a few times but instantly see the same behaviors and patterns rather quickly. I got so good at recognizing them that I could see them on first dates with the s~~~ test questions that would inevitably come up.
So for 20 years I have been single, and while I would say I am not 100% happy I am definitely far happier now than I was dealing with the feminist bulls~~~ that was heaped upon me in my last relationS~~~ and every other relationS~~~ I had over a span of 10-15 years.
F~~~ you and it is YOUR LOSS.signed, a good guy.
Had one that tried to get be to take the next step. Gave me the “where is this going” bulls~~~.
I always said “no”.
So she left.
Do I regret it? No.
If anything I wanted to make that decision for myself out of “love”, not because I’m afraid of a bitch leaving me.
She forced it. It was no longer genuine, so it was game over for both of us and I knew it.
I think women get philosophical when they’re lying in bed next to you. I dated a woman who asked me about the status of our relationship after we had sex. This was also three months after our first date. We agreed to be boyfriend and girlfriend.
I was never given any ultimatums, though. My romantic relationships have never lasted more than a year.
Are you going to eventually marry me?
Mentioning marriage after 3 months of dating is really pushing it!
"I saw that there comes a point, in the defeat of any man of virtue, when his own consent is needed for evil to win-and that no manner of injury done to him by others can succeed if he chooses to withhold his consent. I saw that I could put an end to your outrages by pronouncing a single word in my mind. I pronounced it. The word was ‘No.’" (Atlas Shrugged)
I’ve been given ultimatums in relationships with women. Oddly enough, the moment I was given a ultimatum was also the moment the relationship ended.
Coincidence? I think not.
Do not date. Do not impregnate. Do not co-habitate. Above all, do not marry. Reclaim and never again surrender your personal sovereignty.
Ive never been given an ultimatum by girls. Not once. I think their s~~~ tests get progressively more aggressive (they start with something small and if it works they go further).
In the past, I thought that my Ex’s were leaving me because I wasent “good enough” in some sense.Now I think that once a certain s~~~ test fails, they leave. For me that is usually when they start crying and I call on their BS on how they are trying to use my emotional attachment to their well being against me to get something that logically they should not.
Simple example:
A girl used to tell me I never take her anywhere (true), I asked her where does she want to go. She says she dosent know but that we never do anything.
I told her that if:
A) She does not know what she wants,
B) She does not come up with ideas what to do,
C) Expects me to know I should myself without simply asking me before she would like to do something different today,Then she can only blame herself and being upset with me is in reality being upset with herself for not having the character to tell me what she wants or humble enough to simply ask me for something else.
She started crying and talking about how her feelings dont matter to me, that kinda stuff.
I told her I am not going to be emotionally blackmailed for her to get here way and create this poisonous way of communication in our relationship.She never tried anything remotely similar again, and after 4 years, left me for another guy, who left her in shambles… Life is an interesting thing, isn’t it?
I think the last ultimatum that was given to me was years ago but I don’t really remember. I couldn’t hear her because as I was walking away my laughter drowned out her voice. I went to the bar and never saw her again. Aw shucks.
Excellent topic. Listen well you young menbers.
15+ years ago I was dating a beautiful young thing, and admittedly I was crazy about her. We invited some friends over for dinner one Friday evening and had a lovely time chatting. One topic was how the other couple met, etc. The woman mentioned that after 6 months of dating she posed an ultimatum to the guy, that he needed to either propose marriage or leave. He proposed marriage.
I told my exGF that if it had been me I would have dumped her ass. Not 48 hours later I got the same ultimatum. I dumped her ass, and lived happily ever after.
When women lead, destruction is the destination. -- Me.
Keep banging her for as long as possible, and tell her what she wants to hear. They live a lie, and I have no problem ignoring their lying ways. They wear makeup and appear to be more attractive than really are, they lie and try to appear that they are pure and have not been bedded by the masses already, they advise they are on birth control to trap you, etc. and the list goes on.
Let them eat cake. Two can play this game. Enjoy, enjoy, enjoy the decline.
I was given an ultimatum, actually several. But the first was marry me or else. I married her because, despite misgivings, I loved her and wanted to make her happy. Once married the relationship which was already rocky took a complete nose dive, including flames, screaming bystanders and it’s own theme tune and reporter.
She’s gone now and our parting of ways was actually much gentler than I expected. So I was lucky there at least. But from that I learnt a valuable lesson. If they throw an ultimatum it’s game over for them. Now whenever I meet someone new I say no marriage, no kids. I won’t change my mind. So if you think otherwise don’t bother. And it’s kept me safe ever since.
It was always great when an ultimatum started with –
‘My girlfriends think. . .’
No, no, no, no little Miss attempting to manipulate the situation by claiming that all of your girlfriends had a meeting about you and have thoughts about our relationship. That they somehow shared with you and now you are trying to use to direct and control things.
Because it never happened. Your girlfriends don’t even know what’s going on with us pumpkin.
Stop interjecting alleged third party commentary that cannot be confirmed. That you made up in order to manipulate our conversation.
Just stop.
‘My girlfriends said that. . .’
Total manipulative move.
It’s like impossible to have a conversation with a pumpkin without her mentioning (and making up multiple nonsense stories) about what she claims all of her girlfriends also said.
Blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. . . . .
The last one I accepted was with my ex from a couple years ago.
She was $5K+ into credit card debt from her own doing, 20%-25% interest, making just above the minimum payments and the balance wasn’t going down.
Blue Pill Mode was still in full effect.
She basically said:
“I can’t rent my own apartment and pay off the credit card bill. I think we need to talk about living together.”Well being the decent guy I am, I wasn’t about to let her have to live with some stranger because she had no friends to live with.
I allowed her to move into my house.
The relationship was dead after about 8 months.
I was done after I realized all she did was sit on the couch and thumb through her phone for hours on end after she’d get home from work.
Endless f~~~ing s~~~ tests. Never again
“My friends think that I’m just wasting my time with you. So, I’ve been thinking. What am I to you? Am I your girlfriend? Are you going to eventually marry me? Please, I want you to go home tonight and think about it. If you’re not ready to take the next step, I don’t want to see you anymore”.”
Her “friends think”?
That’s women for you. They discuss YOUR intent without your knowledge, behind your back, and without asking. This is when you pull the car over and give her ONE warning. “If you ever discuss the details of our relationship without my knowledge and/or when I am not present again… it will be over.”. They have no permission to discuss you. Exclamation Point.
… to say nothing of women online talking about their men with perfect strangers who aren’t even there. I have actually seen women ask perfect strangers (on Yahoo) “was I raped?” – like she wasn’t even there and doesn’t know herself.
Madness.
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The whole “wasting her time” thing is bulls~~~. Never let her sucker you into it. I once connected with a woman on a “dating site” who called me before a first meeting and asked “I just want to make sure you’re looking for a serious relationship so that we don’t waste each other’s time-zez“.
That’s how she said it too. “Time-zez”.
“Honey the only relationship worth having is a FUN relationship or none at all.”
She hung up on me. Excellent.
On another a first date, I was once asked if I was looking to get married. I gave her my usual stock response. “Is that a proposal? Where’s the ring? Since I just met you, it had better be NICE. Minimum 5 carats and up. And when you kneel down to ask me, please don’t wear jewelry that looks like it came from a Cracker Jack box or I will divorce you, sell it on eBay and only leave you with the minivan.”
She laughed her head off, but that evening ended fast.
I don’t know who brainwashed them, but women have this freaky attitude you need to want this s~~~ before knowing her at all – or it’s “a waste of time”. Forget any investment or effort from her. You better take it “the next step” today pal, or else. See video below . . .
three months
Did she even know (or ask) your middle name? Did she inquire about your friends? Your schooling? How many languages you speak? If you play an instrument? Where you have travelled? Did she ever bother to ask or know anything about you at all?. . . . I have had women think they were in a “relationship” after knowing them for 3 or 5 dates and they didn’t bother to know a goddam thing.
She should NEVER be asking this within 3 months. NO “relationship” for at least 9 – 12 months of knowing her and PLENTY of good times. Taylor Swift is one of these relationship/breakup junkies who actually writes songs about her break ups after 3 months when she shouldn’t even BE in relationship yet.
I deleted her phone number before I got to my car and never talked to her again.
Outstanding. Give the man a 20-gun salute.
“What am I to you? Am I your girlfriend? Are you going to eventually marry me? Please, I want you to go home tonight and think about it. If you’re not ready to take the next step, I don’t want to see you anymore”.
Right there, you mean nothing to her and it’s already over. Because she hasn’t even thought about this line of questioning herself. You could be ANY faceless guy. All that matters is changing her “relationship status” on facebook , and having something to gossip to her friends about.
This is her, and every woman like her.
Creepy as s~~~. You’re “the next step”.If you keep doing what you've always done... you're gonna keep getting what you always got.My ex bitch:
“In a relationship, both parties have to apologise to each other after a quarrel even when the other party didn’t do anything wrong. So, if you want us to continue with this relationship, you will apologise to me too”
-I fell for it.
*facepalm* *smh*
[f~~~ing oneitis]
My brother make you no follow sheeple o. Look them and Go Your Way.In my case, after dating a 29yo architect for three months
Three months!?! It takes me longer than that to decide on which pair of socks to buy…
I can’t think of any time I’ve really gotten ultimatums in dating. That’s probably because, other then my ex-wife, no one lasted more than 6 months. If it lasted longer than 2 weeks, I was the almost always the one who ended it.
I also think I gave the impression that I would not respond too well to that tactic…but I think I gave vibes that I responded well to subtle hints and shaming. Make me think it was my idea, or that I wasn’t treating her right…then I’d step up.
Last GF did that. Start dropping “I love you’s” at the end of phone calls.
Love ya
Talk to you laterThen there was “maybe we could have our kids meet. That way we could have more time together” That sort of thing. She was pushing the relationship along while trying to convince me it was all natural. Didn’t work.
It was odd, because she seemed to really care and be in to me. Took it kind of hard. Yet, she married the next guy she met.
I have been asked the serious relationship thing. I just answer that I want to have fun and get to know someone before I think about anything else. If I were asked if I get married again, I think I’d just say that I have no interest in getting married for the sake of being married. We would probably need to like each other so much that we wouldn’t carry whether we were married or not.
Ok. Then do it.
My ex bitch:
“In a relationship, both parties have to apologise to each other after a quarrel even when the other party didn’t do anything wrong. So, if you want us to continue with this relationship, you will apologise to me too”
-I fell for it.
*facepalm* *smh*
I saw a version of that. Ex did something that ticked me off…started off an argument. Next morning, ex has thought about (why she didn’t till now?) and agrees she was wrong. Doesn’t apologize. Tells me she still upset though because I argued with her.
Ok. Then do it.
Did she even know (or ask) your middle name? Did she inquire about your friends? Your schooling? How many languages you speak? If you play an instrument? Where you have traveled? Did she ever bother to ask or know anything about you at all?
She didn’t know much about me. All she new was that I lived alone in a big house (Texas size) and that I was naive enough to go to her company Christmas party that year; big mistake on my part. She thought We were a couple in love.
Naive you are if you're hoping to find your unicorn in Latin America. The brain-eating bacteria of feminism is everywhere. Give up!
Anonymous1I had a fling with a woman for three weeks after my divorce, but there was never any sex involved. Depite being a single mother of 15 years son, she wanted to’save’ herself.
It went somethng like this one evening. ” those motorbikes will have to go when we’re married”
My reply “oh really ? Couple of points of order my dear, 1. we’re not getting married. 2. I own those bikes 3. That’s it I’m out of here.
Collected my gear got on bike rode home. Never looked back since.- AuthorPosts
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