Hi gents,
Fist an apology and a huge thank you. Apology because I have lurked here a long time, reading, learning and absorbing knowledge without introducing myself. The thank you is simply for existing, you have save my neck (literally) with the information in these forums.
Ok , here we go… I was a 19 year old (some 30 years ago), sex-starved and hopeless with women. Dad taught me nothing. So I meet a chick who puts out on the first night (red flag 1), a single mother (red flag #2). Immersed in lots of sex, and first real relationship, it begins…
4 years later we break up, she goes home to her mother ( who is seriously mentally ill, an ex-prostitute, red flags everywhere) This women, who I got with whom I’ll call Jacky, was raised by her crazy mother without a fatherly influence at all (red flag #?? I lost count)…. So she calls me to say she is 5 months (!!) pregnant… Me, being a dumbass and fully trusting, doesn’t do the math… So I accept the child, she moves back locally and relationship continues. Baby born, but Jacky does not put my name on birth certificate (Is there a bigger red flag??)… Dad says one wise thing, “Are you sure she’s yours? I am actually offended at his question (!!!) 18 months later, child #2… same deal, not on birth certificate… Anyway, I raise my “children” (pay for everything) .. . skip forward THIRTY YEARS….
The only smart thing I did was never marry her.
So, by now My daughter has one young child and one on the way (she is married). By pure chance, a minor anomaly with baby-to-be’s blood type is mentioned by daughter. Out of pure scientific curiosity, I ask “What blood type are you?” (I had no agenda) She says A. I recall my blood type from a stay in hospital as B. Hmm, I wonder how that works… so I ask Jacky hers, she replies “O”… So I lookup how blood types work, and there it is, the very example given that 100% disproves paternity (confirmed by multiple doctors). It is biologically impossible for a child with A blood type to have parents having O and B.
Now here comes the bulls~~~.
Q. What the f~~~, Jacky?
Answer #1 : Complete denial, she is incredibly convincing.
#2 – “I was pretty wild back then”
#3 – I didn’t know
#4 We weren’t together (a complete lie)
Finally, some admissions…. I had a ONS, that’s why “our” daughter wears glasses (because her ONS did, so she DOES remember and can identify him).
So, did she know?
Of f~~~ing course she did.
This is what amazes me – how can a woman hold a lie for 30 years without any guilt?
The no-father name on birth certificate.
The second child soon after – the blood type says its possible I am the father, and most likely I am, that is she wanted to have one to me soon after to “seal the deal” in case I found out I would still be on the hook.
Women are excellent liars with no remorse or regard for anyone else’s feelings but their own.
The women in the family are all “but it was so long ago, you love your daughter, dont you” (of course I do)
…and the classic “Why did you want to find out? – actually BLAMING ME for wanting to know the truth.
Jackie has Borderline Personality Disorder and depression, and is a complete controlling, violent bitch.
She alienated me from my friends, to the point where I lost complete contact with them 20 years ago. As I have learned this isolation is a deliberate tactic to gain power and control.
She has drained my finances to the point of near-bankruptcy.
I have been blue pill so long that the red pill is very bitter, painful but completely necessary.. “The most bitter truth is much better than the sweetest lie”.
So, here I am near 50 with no assets or close friends (though I have lost 35 Kg and am very fit, confident and assertive, decent looking and much better socially ) , the only thing I have is a good paying job, a lot more knowledge and wisdom (thanks to you guys) and most of all, HOPE.
Thanks guys, especially you Keymaster, you are a living legend.
regards
Jack
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