Well. We know why there are so many extra Baby Sitters..
https://www.vox.com/science-and-health/2017/11/13/16620286/online-dating-stds-tinder-grindr
With so many of these sites helping to promote STD’s among everyone. Well, seems like there is going to be a ton of lonely women who are only going to be just about good enough to watch the kids for a few hours.
–But health experts increasingly view apps and sites such as Tinder, Grindr, and OkCupid as enablers of high-risk sex, helping people meet and hook up more efficiently than ever before. The impact of these sites is so profound they are also transforming the way health officials track and prevent outbreaks.
Now if you REALLY want to help your fellow men out there. Take a look at this from MATCH.com. Its about STD’s. And just listen to the tone and how they almost seem to be on the side of not telling the person. Had it been a man, they would be all over this dude. But as a woman, look at the advice. Read between the lines here gentleman. They KNOW most of their users have STDs.
Actually, I would not be surprised if most relationships end with a DV order on the SOLE basis of an STD!
Dana’s* secret: “I have an STD.”
When Dana, 39, of Brooklyn, NY was diagnosed with genital herpes, she was convinced her dating days were over-she felt completely alone. But in truth, her situation was far from unique: One out of five people have this sexually transmitted disease. Gradually, Dana’s self-confidence rebounded after her diagnosis, and treatments curbed her symptoms (she hasn’t had an outbreak in over ten years). But one big issue remained: Dates rarely reacted well when she shared her news. “I used to tell guys on the first date, which was way too soon,” she recalls. “Most guys would just get this repulsed look on their face and never call me again.” After a few years of the tell-all policy, Dana started waiting until she and a guy were a little more serious to spill the beans. “I remember telling one guy after we were making out on my bed,” she says. “He just rolled over and said, ‘Why does nothing ever work out for me?’ He made it all about him, and I just felt like a leper.”
How to break the news to a date
When to tell: Since herpes could affect the health of your partner, it’s crucial that you tell him before you’ve had any genital-to-genital or oral-genital contact (even with condoms, since there’s still a slight chance of transmission), says Brennan Ames-Phares, a health communication specialist at the National Herpes Hotline. But that said, many herpes sufferers opt to tell dates right away, as Dana often did. Ames-Phares advises against the first-date confessional: “There’s no need for him to know unless there’s a risk of exposure,” she says. Waiting allows you to build more of a connection, so you won’t be rejected right away.
What to say: “A lot of times I would just blurt out, ‘I have herpes,’” Dana says. “That didn’t work so well.” Instead, Ames-Phares recommends saying, “I really like you and would like to take this further, but before we do so I’d like to talk about our sexual histories.” Ask your date if he or she has ever been tested for AIDS or STDs, and if not, encourage him or her to do so. (Case in point: 90 percent of people with herpes are unaware they have it.) This approach shows that you’re serious about your health — and your date’s — which
“If I tell them I’m in therapy, they’ll encourage me to just ‘get over it’ or ‘cheer up.’ As if it were that simple!”
will soften the blow when you say, “As for me, ten years ago I was diagnosed with herpes.” Your date may be a little scared when he hears this, but explaining how you felt when you found out you had it and how you’ve dealt with it since will help him better relate to what you’re going through and see how well you’re managing your health.
How to deal if your date freaks: Allay your date’s fears by keeping these comforting facts on hand: Herpes is highly treatable. “Herpes today is much more manageable than having it 20 years ago,” says Ames-Phares. Thanks to new medications, outbreaks can occur infrequently and less severely. More good news: Recent studies have shown low transmission rates among couples in which one partner has herpes—less than 2 percent if condoms are used at least half of the time. Encourage your date to call the National Herpes Hotline at 919-361-8488 for more information. Dana now vows to be more prepared the next time she ’fesses up. “Herpes really hasn’t had much of an effect on my daily life, and from now on I’ll make a point of letting dates know that,” she says. “I figure the more they learn, the less leery they’ll be about dating me.”
You are all alone. If you have been falsely accused of RAPE, DV, PLEASE let all men know about the people who did this. http://register-her.net/web/guest/home
iMickey503 1 year, 5 months ago.
