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[SargeslideParticipant 82]

I have lurked here for about two years. I usually read a reply from guys on here that voice my opinion so I never needed to join. I read the “Looks” post and had to respond, I really felt for that guy, had to join up.

I ended a 32 year marriage a few years back, was miserable for 15 of it, but could not leave my daughter alone with my wife and MIL without a buffer for they’re BS. I tried my best to make that life work, but in the end, a man who I respect told me it was killing me, and after seeing my grandfather suffer for most of his adult life, I filed for NO-FAULT divorce. The only thing she got was half of my Military retirement. I declared bankruptcy and moved on. Best thing I ever did for myself.

I live easy, I work (teaching) go to the gym, ride my Harley, enjoy my life. Funny thing was, I was resigned to living alone and did not search out women, they found me. I play in bands and do open jams in the area, I have been involved in alot of things in the last 20 odd years. Word got out quick. A few of my female grads who I keep in contact with (Father figure, nothing funny) told me that I would be snapped up. I did not believe them, but they were right, and I took advantage of it to the hilt. I dated and screwed more than any other time in my life and it was on THEIR dime! Now, they were not supermodels, or even 8-9’s all the time, but I got a few! Hell, I got a 26 year old one night, she was smokin! (Had daddy issues, which I guess I took advantage of).I was always under the impression that I scared women, I am kinda intimidating if you don’t know me. I look like a KKK hitman.

Then after about two months, I just chilled out and decided I had made up for lost time and needed to improve myself, hit the gym, started to eat right and take care of myself. I went on dates now and then, got laid almost every time. Now, why I write this crap in a MGTOW forum is because I am no “catch” in the “normal” Hamster motivation device. I was overweight, have facial scars, hair is thinning and cut to a high and tight. I don’t have game, I am just a regular guy.  I guess I just didn’t care about impressing bitches anymore, you either like me, or you don’t, and if you don’t, GFY! Nuking hamsters is a major sport for me.

I was contacted by a black woman in Kalamazoo, we met and have been a couple ever since. She thinks like a man, and calls out bitches faster than I do. She likes me because I am a “Man” and she wants me to be in charge, to take the lead, to be dominate in our relationship. She likes sex, and does not attach bulls~~~ to it. I listen when she talks, she listens when I do. She spends money on me, which I am not used to, works out with me, and just wants to live easy. I think she is a unicorn, I have seen them before in captivity, but never the wild, usually some guy already has them locked up. But until s~~~ changes (and I hope it doesn’t) I will ride this pony. She likes me for who I am, doesn’t want me to change, and does not s~~~ test me.

I guess I am going my own way, but got lucky that it includes a good woman. And I will continue until she shows me she no longer values me.

I know this does not go down the most popular path, but it is my journey, and I am enjoying it.

Sarge

[SargeslideParticipant 82]

Yep, I think I am cashing alot of Karma checks right now. I still have my problems, but I won’t complain, s~~~ coulda buried me deep. I am Damn Lucky!

[BrainPilotParticipant 7640]

welcome sarge,
First, thanks for your service. As I read stories like yours, the thought that keeps coming up in my head is, “I hope he doesn’t marry her… I hope he doesn’t marry her… I hope he doesn’t marry her…”.

I have seen guys like you in real life. In a relationship with a woman, not miserable and not at risk of being destroyed. I don’t know any similarly situated men who are married. It’s starting to occur to me that women are not guaranteed to be screwed up, and a relationship that isn’t screwed up can be possible, but converting that relationship to one defined by the current marriage contract seems to be the toxic mistake. One poster described it as a three way relationship between him, her and the government. Like most things the government gets involved with, it gets screwed up as a result.

One guy who was fairly wealthy and had been divorced multiple times (and still managed to be wealthy afterward by some miracle) explained that the marriage and divorce laws in most states are either written by, or heavily influenced by the divorce attorney lobbyists in that state. So they tend to be written in such a way as to favor long drawn out fights that generate lots of legal fees for those same divorce lawyers. If the judges in a given state are elected, then those judges will periodically have campaigns to finance. Their biggest campaign donors are the lawyers who argue cases before them. And since both lawyers arguing before a judge are likely to be from firms that have contributed, you should not expect the judge to be a fan of quick decisions (that stop the billing clock). Ever notice that the divorces of couples with little or no money seem to somehow be much more efficient and direct?

Women rarely bring as much to the table financially as men, and often bring nothing, so this process is not really all that expensive for them. In fact, when you think of it, a man who does not bring significantly more financially to the table is likely to find that despite all their all their reassurances that it’s about love, and that love is some magical chemistry that can’t be controlled and shouldn’t be questioned, they never seem to stumble and ‘fall in love’ and marry a guy who makes less than they do.

Congrat’s on what seems to be the unicorn you found. As long as you don’t sign a marriage contract, you’ll still be mgtow and you’ll still be as safe as you life can be made to be with a woman in it. It’s not the woman who’s screwed up (at least not in your case), but that marriage contract remains toxic.

Look, it's not my fault that tornado dropped a house on your sister. Now get back on your broom and get your ass out of here... and take your monkeys with you

[Anonymous 1]

I really don’t ant to rain on your parade, but careful with those “alleged” unicorns, they are even more dangerous than the average threat. Other than that, it seems you are doing fine. 🙂

Welcome to the forum.

Cheers

[Smacktalk73Participant 296]

Sarge, I think we might be almost neighbors …. I’m in northern Indiana.  Good luck with your situation.  Women are just as capable of being reasonable human beings as men — they just have a whole other set of incentives that are relatively invisible to males during our early lives.

BrainPilot wrote:

man who does not bring significantly more financially to the table is likely to find that despite all their all their reassurances that it’s about love, and that love is some magical chemistry that can’t be controlled and shouldn’t be questioned, they never seem to stumble and ‘fall in love’ and marry a guy who makes less than they do.

I think they do fall in love, but there’s really no huge incentive to get married.  Marriage and love are two COMPLETELY separate things.  Women know this, but they will never admit it to a man they want to marry.

 

[SargeslideParticipant 82]

Nope, no intention of marrying her. I don’t believe in fairy tales. She is as close as I have come to one, and like I said, I hope it continues, if not, Oh Well. At my age (55 this year) What incentive other than a tax break do I have? None, so f~~~ that.

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