First Steps Foreward

[YohanParticipant 12]

So, Im pretty new to the whole MGTOW thing. I hadn’t even heard of it until yesterday. But I just wanted to share my first steps in living a more MGTOW life.

Today, my wife and I were sitting around, not really busy doing anything. The kid was asleep. I was on the laptop while she was rehashing videos of the day our son was born on the camera. I happened to come across a video on Youtube that I found particularly enjoyable, so naturally I wanted to share the experience. So I took the laptop over and was like “hey honey, check this out.” To which I was basically ignored. I had half an hour before I had to leave for work and really wanted to see her reaction. But she kept on watching the videos on the camera until it was too late.

My impatience quickly turned to frustration. I asked myself, why is it that when she wants me to see something, or do something, I have to drop everything going on in my life and rush to her side, but she cant set down a camera for five minutes to watch a video with me for I left for work? She noticed I was upset and asked what was wrong, and my initial reaction was to just brush it off. It doesn’t matter. Its not important.

And then I remembered MGTOW. And I was like, f~~~ it. It is important. That crap p~~~es me off. So I turned and told her what was up. Explained the double standard and why it frustrated me. She didn’t even realize she did that kind of stuff! So I was 5 minutes late leaving for work because we talked things out about how she does that kind of stuff all the time, and she would work better on realizing when she was doing it and make it stop. A promise she has been really good at keeping in the past.

It felt good getting it off my chest. It felt good feeling important for a change.

Well, just wanted to share. Thoughts?

[KeymasterKeymaster]

Good job listening to your gut.

A once significant ex (GF of 4 years) became impossible to tolerate. A job offer took me to another city & country….. and I don’t know if you have ever had to built your life from scratch on your own….. but it was very stressful. Especially the first 6 months in which I couldn’t really make a home for myself, because I was unable to determine if I would stay and for how long. Everything was “up in the air” and “to be determined” and I was still paying rent for an empty apartment back home + all the bills.

She decided to come for a visit against my wish. I was not prepared to “play host” and entertain. There was no furniture yet. I was still so preoccupied with getting a driver’s license , work visa, legal status, establishing credit, even getting a cell phone (which is difficult) when you have no credit in a new country……. and all the s~~~ that goes with setting up a life in a new country. It was a VERY stressful time. If you can’t even work because of bulls~~~ legal papers, you’re screwed.

She came anyway – ignoring what was important to me. It didn’t matter a damn that I wasn’t prepared , and didn’t even have a table & chairs to sit and have dinner at yet. She kept saying “I don’t care”.

“I don’t care”.

It was the “I don’t care” that really got me. It was such a profound realization that ALL of my objections and explanations were ignored. As long as SHE wanted it, that was the way it was going to be. Then she stepped in the shower, and while I was shaving, I tried to explain to her the struggle I was going through and it just wasn’t a good time to be “playing vacation” and pretending like these things would just work themselves out on their own …. until she said it AGAIN. “I don’t care! (about those things)”.

Not before (or since) was I ever so overcome with rage.
I ripped the shower curtain open and yelled at her like I never before and unleashed my most ferocious roar:

“>> I < < CARE."

She looked at me like I was possessed by Jack Nicholson or something. Horrified that was even capable of yelling like that. And in that moment, I realized how little women give a s~~~ about what’s important to you. Your needs and considerations are irrelevant. But what really exposed her true evil was that she was not even sorry she upset me like that. There was no apology or consideration for at all. Zero feeling. You would think when you upset someone to the point where fire and smoke are shooting from their eyes, you would would say “OMG! I really didn’t mean to upset you like that.” or ANY sign that you’re sorry and apologize as a GUEST IN THEIR HOME. I was now the unimaginable bastard for yelling at her.

I pressed rewind and reflected back on all the times women behaved this way.
They just don’t give a flying f~~~ about anyone but themselves.
It is a consistent and predictable behavior.

And it felt great dumping her off at the airport too. For the last time.

If you keep doing what you've always done... you're gonna keep getting what you always got.

[Zoby TwoParticipant 83]

Man … Whatever you will do for your wife, she will never be happy.

Trust me. I did a lot of things for my wife, I can say I’m a REAL great husband and father but it is not enough for her.

They want a slave, not a man.

I’m now a MGTOW : I don’t care about her feelings or what she says … It is useless. After all, she’s ONLY a woman.

In my mind, she’s like my daughters. I don’t take herself seriously.

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