First Hand Insight : My Weekend

[QuellParticipant 2538]

I think a lot of younger guys 20s-30s or so who have never been married feel like immense pressure to conform to friends, family and societal expectations. I know I personally have gone back and forth questioning my relationships to women both presently and in the past. There is always going to be part of you that wants to enjoy all of the positive aspects of female companionship. They do indeed bring a great deal of joy to a man’s life for AWHILE. Once that honeymoon phase is worn off or you slap a ring on the finger it’s game over man.

Which brings me to my weekend… I had dinner with a buddy who got married to a single mom landwhale combo a few years back. Her daughter is around 8 years old. He just had his first child about a month ago with his new wife. He works around 60 hours a week and his going back to get his Masters so he can move up the corporate ladder. His wife is a high school graduate who works part time and is currently on maternity leave.

At dinner 4 kids joined us (his two and her brother’s 6 year old and a 13 year old) For around 4 hours those little monsters were kicking, hitting and screaming the entire time in the car as well as the restaurant. The tablets were also out in full force until one kid knocked salsa all over the table; another wouldn’t eat his food and threw a tantrum.

It was absolute hell. In the car the baby kept crying until we started to drive then would be ok until we stopped again. Once we got back to their house after dinner he had to bathe and feed the little one while the others ran around annoying everyone. His wife was grumpy and decided to have some “Me” time upstairs.

Also at dinner was the topic of another friend who has a little brat kid who recently ripped a towel bar off the wall and had to have stitches after running into a table. The mom thinks the kid is autistic but my friend thinks he just needs some discipline. The kid is a bully at school too. I also learned this guy no longer has sex with his wife because he was grossed out by her very stretched out vagina and weight gain after the second child.

Seeing the behind the scenes of the day to day marriage and family sounds completely awful and draining. It was a huge wake up call as to why that trap is so dangerous. Marriage, Kids and Lavish Homes/Cars is a losing situation. You become a slave trying to maintain it all for little to no long-term residual happiness in return.

Living simply abroad with no financial or time constrains really truly is the way to live.

[sidecarParticipant 35862]

Quell wrote:

Marriage, Kids and Lavish Homes/Cars

Actually homes and cars are fairly easy (and somewhat relaxing) to maintain when you don’t have a wife or kids wrecking them or telling you what to do with them.

[TheSpiceParticipant 2644]

Quell wrote:

Seeing the behind the scenes of the day to day marriage and family sounds completely awful and draining. It was a huge wake up call as to why that trap is so dangerous.

This is pretty much the only reason one should occasionally spend time with a married couple with kids. It’s always a huge red pill for me. I look at the mess of it all and think “Why would I ever want this?”

Looking at the life they project looks like heaven, but peek inside and the horror show that is their lives is revealed. No thanks. But go ahead and throw some shame my way for being single. Lol!

"I've been thinking about what it would be like if we got back together."
"You know it's too late for that."

[Secret Agent MGTOWParticipant 22582]

Quell wrote:

MGTOW

Damn. “Leave it to Beaver”, no wonder guys want things more like that. Now its just “Leave the stretched out Beaver alone.” Kids would get the crap beaten out of them.

Women want everything, but want responsibility and accountability for nothing.

[OldBillParticipant]

Quell wrote:

Seeing the behind the scenes of the day to day marriage and family sounds completely awful and draining. It was a huge wake up call as to why that trap is so dangerous.

You now understand why wives work so hard to either drive away their husbands’ single friends or marry off the same.

They can’t risk having anyone remind their captives of how good life can be outside of the prison walls.

Do not date. Do not impregnate. Do not co-habitate. Above all, do not marry. Reclaim and never again surrender your personal sovereignty.

[sidecarParticipant 35862]

OldBill wrote:

You now understand why wives work so hard to either drive away their husbands’ single friends or marry off the same.

They can’t risk having anyone remind their captives of how good life can be outside of the prison walls.

^absolutely this

That’s the other thing to consider here: while @quell was watching these poor chumps trapped in married hell (and eventual divorce hell) and thinking, “Thank god I’m not them,” they were also watching @quell and thinking, “Damn I wish I was him.”

It’s probably a weakness in my character, but I always get a sense of smug satisfaction whenever I roll up next to some married man trapped in a minivan and see his glassy eyed stare of remorse and envy looking back at me. Still, better him than me.

[SolitudeParticipant 116]

None of my married friends are happy. Your description paints a very vivid picture of why that’s the case. Conforming to the reality of such a lifestyle is shocking compared to conforming to the myth of a happily married life others feed you.

“The more powerful and original a mind, the more it will incline towards the religion of solitude.” ― Aldous Huxley

[Silver FoxParticipant 2766]

My two daughters are exceptionally well behaved, at home and in public, with only minor course-correction measures from me to elicit the desired response. Why? Because I invested the disciplinary effort from an early age. And most importantly: I am a single dad without a woman f~~~ing up my methods.

And in reality, I am very gentle. I never hit my kids or abuse them, but they understand extremely well that Dad is to be obeyed. The initial parenting investment is very heavy, but there are great rewards once the parent-child bond is established.

Consequently, my daughters are happy, imaginative, creative, and full of life, with none of the screaming, bickering, and “autistic” behavior so common in other kids, especially those from single moms. I regularly get compliments when out in public, including things like free ice cream for the kids when I go to Dairy Queen simply because the cashiers like my daughters so much.

If you couldn’t tell, this is a particular pet peeve of mine and a source of pride.

To the single moms out there with terrible kids: F~~~ YOU. You deserve the hell your kids give you every day. I feel bad that your kids have to have you as a mom.

"Are you loosed from a wife? Do not seek a wife." --Apostle Paul

[experiencedParticipant]

TheSpice wrote:

Quell wrote:

Seeing the behind the scenes of the day to day marriage and family sounds completely awful and draining. It was a huge wake up call as to why that trap is so dangerous.

This is pretty much the only reason one should occasionally spend time with a married couple with kids. It’s always a huge red pill for me. I look at the mess of it all and think “Why would I ever want this?”

Looking at the life they project looks like heaven, but peek inside and the horror show that is their lives is revealed. No thanks. But go ahead and throw some shame my way for being single. Lol!

EXACTLY!
Men marry and soon discover that they are powerless, unless they’d prefer to be temporarily destroyed. They aren’t “allowed” to discipline the kids, so the kids spoil, in a big way. No winner, except the bitch.

"It seems like there's times a body gets struck down so low, there ain't a power on earth that can ever bring him up again. Seems like something inside dies so he don't even want to get up again. But he does."

[Anonymous 18]

Females are evolutionary driven to keep simps living on crumbs of validation and affection all the while sucking their resources without a hint of gratitude.

Her entire game is on a man wanting the crumbs.

As it stands for MGTOW – there is a whole food market of validation from a bachelor lifestyle.

C~~~s hate a man who sees through the facade.

[sidecarParticipant 35862]

TheSpice wrote:

This is pretty much the only reason one should occasionally spend time with a married couple with kids.

I don’t know. If they have any sons I think it’s worth it to set a positive example for them. Boys need to know they have other options than their married father’s s~~~ty life.

Silver Fox wrote:

I am a single dad without a woman f~~~ing up my methods.

In order of child rearing success, single fathers are firmly at the top of the statistics with their children having the highest graduation rates, the highest average income as adults, and the lowest rates of incarceration. This is followed fairly closely by two parent households. However single mothers come in at a very very distant dead last.

Funny how that’s exactly the opposite of what the feminist “tender years” doctrine predicts. The cruelest, most vicious thing you can do to any child is allow a single mother to raise it.

[bstoffParticipant 4905]

There is a hive or two of women in my life who are learning to hate me and warding the men under their control away from me.

Ironically, they are also trying everything they can think of to get me married off, and their lack of success only infuriates them more.

This is how I know I’m doing it correctly. 😉

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