Hello MGTOW community.
I have been a lurker here long enough, and I have decided to step into the ring. Normally I don’t like talking about myself, so it’s weird to recount stories that have lead me to this time and place. But since this is the intro section, here’s my introduction.
I am 31 and I live near Chicago. For my entire life, I have been different then everyone around me. I didn’t understand the idea of pluralism and I had few friends due to not falling in line. Although I did have girlfriends, even then I didn’t respect any of them enough to give up virginity for some time, and I remember when I was 15, I told myself that I will never get married.
I would like to share my two big moments leading me on the path to MGTOW.
MY first moment was while I was in the US Navy. I met a girl who actually had me believing in possible marriage when I was 26. I chose to stay where I was stationed to keep a relationship with her.(my military job gave me that option while going through school for my duty station)
I even purchased a brand new car simply so I could go see her an hour away on a regular basis.
When I went on deployment, we both agreed it would be a good test to see if we could be away from each other for that long before thinking about marriage. I did my deployment and came back in one piece. When I arrived home, the first time she saw me, she through herself at me crying. She was that happy to see me again. Or so I thought.
She actually had me believing that marriage was for me. So I am home, and within the first month, we were engage.
Before, during, and after the engagement, I lived with her and her dad in his house. It was better than living in the barracks, and I still had my room on base so I could go there if there was ever any issues. And, her dad thought I was awesome so him and I would talk a lot, share craft beers, and discuss good topics. He was a real cool dude.
At some point, her and I started having issues. I could never quite put my finger on it. The closest thing I learned after a while upon military separation was how coming home from deployment is actually the biggest cause of relationship problems for military members. She was use to me being gone and suddenly I was back. And although I never saw it, I felt like she was talking to someone else.
Eventually we argued and had enough problems that she broke it off. The one thing I always thank her for is breaking it off before we were married or had kids. That Russian Roulette chamber was empty.
After that happened, I was destroyed. I had to live there until my contract was up, and being as how I didn’t act like anyone I know and work with, I had no friends and no family. I was isolated from everyone and it did a lot of damage while trying to deal with what had happened. It’s not like I could just leave either because of my job. I want to remind, it f~~~ed with me that much because for a decade I had said I would never get married. F~~~ed me up. so I dove into the job and worked my ass off until I was done. It was all I could do to keep my sanity.
Although this woke me up, it didn’t open my eyes yet. That’s the second story.
An uncle who I was very close to had a stroke when he was 56 years old. Upon having this stroke, his wife divorced him. So my uncle, who could no longer take care of himself, was completely defenseless and she attempted to take everything in the divorce. I couldn’t believe what I was seeing. His house, his cars, and all of the possessions she wanted so she could sell it all. I didn’t understand how this was legally possible, and where her compassion was for his situation. I was p~~~ed. And I thought she was gonna get away with it.
Now I have to give credit were its due. His 21 year old daughter managed to get legal guardianship from his ex wife. It took a long time for her to get it. So instead of taking 100% of everything he had and just abandoning him in a home, his ex only got 50% as well as the house and was to be cared for by his daughter….what a relative silver lining.
This was my moment. This was my wake up call. I feel very lucky compared to someone like my uncle and others I have read about here and other places, because what happened to him, I learned from. So although I have never been dragged through court, I was woke and feel I dodged a lot of bullets. I knew something was very wrong and started looking into things.
I don’t remember where I discovered MGTOW, but the first MGTOW video I watched was Terrence Popp “What is MGTOW?” That was when everything clicked into place, and I knew what I was. Next I dove into all of Sandmans videos and it all just made sense to me. This was the first time in my life I had felt I had an identity.
So I want to thank everybody who has pushed and not taken s~~~ from the pluralistic mindset of mainstream society. To those who didn’t role over and take it up the ass. To those who fought and have shown the rest of us there is another way than what your told. I’m still learning how far MGTOW goes, but thanks to all of you who only do it your way.
LEO THE WISE 2 years, 2 months ago.
