My mother recently moved in with me, and it’s been an….interesting experience. She recently had to stop working and her retirement pension isn’t enough to live on. Seeing as I didn’t have a wife or girlfriend, it wasn’t a big deal to have her move in with me. It’s certainly better than helping her pay for an apartment.
My mother raised me alone, and unfortunately she still tries to treat me like a child. The main difference now is, this is MY house and what I say goes. She’ll frequently try the typical female BS, get into debt, expect me to bail her out. Enough of that s~~~. You have literally ZERO bills because you’re living with me. Your pension might be small, but that doesn’t mean that I should be forced to pay for everything and you should be able to fill the house with useless s~~~ using “your” money.
I live a very minimalist lifestyle. Here are a list of my possessions:
-3 Desktop Computers
-1 Laptop Computer
-1 Bed/Mattress
-2 Side Tables
-3 55″ TV’s (used as monitors for the computers)
-2 Office Chairs
-2 Tables
-1 Lamp
-Various Computer Accessories
And that’s IT. I don’t own a couch, a kitchen table, any other chairs, nothing. Of course my mother owns enough s~~~ for 4 households, so in it came. I convinced her to put most of her s~~~ out in the garage, but little by little it’s coming in and mucking up my serene life. When I complain about it, she says that she’s “looking for something” and that she “can’t live out of boxes forever.”
She now spends her days out shopping, watching TV, and buying useless s~~~ on eBay. And the s~~~ pile grows. I wouldn’t say she’s a hoarder yet (her house was way bigger than mine so it seems like there’s an enormous amount of s~~~ in my house now), but given enough time I’m sure it could end up that way.
This is a woman’s logic. The money the “husband” (or in my case, “provider”) makes is “our,” money, and the money she makes is HER money. In other words, they want it all.
Granted she was used to having a lot more money, but I think she should be paying some of the bills with her pension, and keeping a small amount to put towards personal things for her.
I can’t believe how much she’s transformed this house. Who the f~~~ needs curtains? Let alone pink frilly ones. I avoided marriage for a reason, and it seems like it was all for nothing now. I want her to be happy. I really do. But I enjoy my house the way it is. I don’t like junk or clutter.
I just wish my house was bigger and I could put her in her own little space in the basement (or on another floor. It doesn’t have to be a creepy cramped basement). Instead she’s taking over the entire house because it was basically empty before.
I can’t help but feel selfish to ask her to take the s~~~ out. After all, it’s just empty space. I really don’t care that much. What really bothers me is the unnecessary spending. I doubt she’s ever going to be able to afford her own house again. And I like my little house. I don’t want to have to buy a bigger one and pay even more property taxes just so she can fill it with even more s~~~.
She’s already pushing the idea of us getting a larger house together. I don’t like big houses. They make me uncomfortable. Since I’m a minimalist, the huge empty spaces are just eerie to me. I once rented a 5,800 square foot house temporarily for 3 months when I was visiting another state, and it was so freaking creepy. I felt like I was in the Twilight Zone. I’m a simple guy and don’t need all that stress and BS in my life.
TGM 3 years, 7 months ago.
