Female Ingratitude: An Anecdote

[AletheiaParticipant 47]

I began a relationship with this c~~~-drip despite my reservations concerning her capacity to be loyal. She was fun and I thought I could fall in love with her. Two weeks into the relationship she came to visit. On taking off her pants I notice bruises all over her groins. I immediately ask her where they’re from and she replies “moving” (quite a move!) while simultaneously making a move for my dick. Horny and unwilling/unable to confront it right then and there, I get on with things. When she’s asleep I look through her phone and discover that my worst fears are realities. Somehow I make it through her week-long visit without giving too much away, mainly because I felt sorry enough for her to not want to send her packing, especially given the fact that we were staying with my brother and his girlfriend and that would have been quite humiliating. But on heading back to school together, I immediately break up with her. Cue an enormous trail of tears that lasts for weeks and is mopped up almost exclusively by me. A little feminine scorn too, in the form of the following one-liner: “I wish I could save the tears I cried for you last night so I could f~~~ing drown you in them”. Lovely.

Fast forward several weeks and I am dating (not exclusively) a gal who is a mutual friend of c~~~-drip’s. C~~~-drip is having quite a difficult time handling this and becomes borderline suicidal for a brief period of time. One night I become very afraid she is going to kill herself and drive over to her apartment in the middle of the night to make sure she’s okay. She has imbibed multiple Ambien and an entire bottle of wine and is extremely emotionally unstable. Scarily so. I have to wrench the second bottle of wine from her hands and do everything I can over a period of several hours to comfort her. The situation calms down, thankfully, and she passes out. Mutual-friend and I continue our thing, everything going relatively smoothly. C~~~-drip appears to be on the recovery.

But it doesn’t last. Over Thanksgiving break c~~~-drip sends me an IM and eventually we really start having it out. To that point I had not directly accused her of being a cheater (my reasons for breaking up were that she was too flirtatious and some other bulls~~~ reason I invented) but I finally do so, at which point the s~~~ hits the fan. She calls me sobbing and for the 67,234th time I make her feel better, claiming I don’t really think she cheated on me, blah blah blah etc. The next night she IM’s me and claims that mutual-friend has been sleeping with multiple other people. Obviously my initial reaction is to call her bulls~~~ but then she goes into great detail about who, where other people saw them, etc. and enlists a friend to back up her side of the story. To this day I am not sure how on f~~~ing earth I bought it, but I did. Devastated and weak, I have a sexual conversation with c~~~-drip on the phone.

The next day c~~~-drip informs a mutual very good friend of her and mutual-friend of our shenanigans, who immediately informs mutual-friend. Devastated that I f~~~ed up and falling in love with mutual-friend, I initially deny, deny, deny. But it begins to grate on my conscience and after a short period of time I come clean. When I confront c~~~-drip about her lies, she starts crying, claims no responsibility and that she is “removing herself from the situation”. That night I find out she f~~~ed one of my very good friends a few weeks before. Mutual-friend decides to look past what happened and we become exclusive for a few months at which point……she cheats on me. Cool.

To review. C~~~-drip:

1. Cheated on me

2. Felt no guilt about it, clearly

3. Continually relied on me to make her feel better afterwards

4. Was the beneficiary of near-heroic efforts on my part to save her life

…and repaid me by:

5. Constructing an utter lie out of thin air to f~~~ up a new thing I had with a girl I really liked.

and

6. F~~~ing one of my very good friends.

Go F~~~ Yourself, C~~~-Drip.

[ILiveAgainParticipant]

Yes indeed … this is what they do …. and ….. it will NOT stop.

[OrlandoParticipant 833]

She was and is bad news. I think you handled the situation very well when you initially found the bruises and the evidence on her phone, and ended it without causing a scene at your brother’s place.

If I were in the same situation, I would have cut her off completely. If any ex calls me and tells me they are suicidal I will tell them that I will call emergency services for them. I will not drive to save them. It’s most likely a manipulation tactic, and you are placing yourself in harms way by doing so.

Furthermore, your good friend f~~~ing her seems like a red flag. Is he really a good friend? It seems to me that he put himself in a situation that could compromise your trust. I would not do that to one of my friends for that reason and out of respect.

[MattNYCParticipant 2329]

Good grief man – she’s drawing you back in to the crazy circus. Block her on your phone/social media/everything else. Never respond to any of her communications in any form. She’s pushing to get a reaction out of you, don’t give her one. This is like the little kid that’s holding his breath because he can’t have a f~~~ing cookie.

The s~~~ you described is why a bunch of guys go MGTOW. The bulls~~~ drama price just isn’t worth it in so many cases.

The one good thing you got from this, if you’re looking to date:

Aletheia wrote:

I wish I could save the tears I cried for you last night so I could f~~~ing drown you in them

Show that text message to all the girls you’re trying to f~~~. They’ll start blowing you in the bar bathroom stall in no time.

[SlayherParticipant 2074]

1. Use her manipulative tactics as a learning tool.

2. Never, I repeat, NEVER let a vagina set you up for failure.

3. Agree with Orlando: She wants to kill herself? Ask how much time you have and can EMS get there in time to save her?

4. Have a shot. Have a drink. Congratulate yourself: You escaped unscathed.

[KeymasterKeymaster]

ON: Female Ingratitude

Briffault’s Law is a core MGTOW concept….
/video/briffaults-law/

If you’re not familiar with it, it’s a big AHA moment.

I had a female visiting in town and we go WAY back to childhood. This is the ONLY reason I might associate with a single mom at all – if she wasn’t a Mom when I knew her. I drove probably 45 minutes to pick her and her daughter up . Her daughter is playing her game boy / phone and won’t even tear her eyes away from it. Fine. Fourteen is an awkward age. They don’t know if they are kids or grown ups.

We’re catching up on, 22 years and I drive them another 45 minutes back and give them an entire weekend of my time. Invite them over,. Make a GREAT dinner. Go out. Show them around. Give them a tour. Take them to see some sights. Buy them dinner at a nice place. Bottle of wine. Good laughs good times. By the end of the weekend the daughter is practically in love with me and won’t stop gushing about it – for weeks later. I drive 45 minutes to drop them off…. and then 45 minutes back.

When I am in her city several months later, she wants to thank me for the great time. I’m thinking GREAT! Pasta dinner someone else makes for a change and a good bottle and it’s my turn to be entertained.

Does she pick me up? Does she invite me over? Does she offer to throw some noodles in a pot of hot water for me?

No. I drove 30 minutes to meet her in a rental car at my expense…. and she buys me a f~~~ing cup of coffee.

NEVER doing it again.

To be clear, I don’t blame her. I blame myself. I should have expected that.

Aletheia wrote:

A little feminine scorn too, in the form of the following one-liner: “I wish I could save the tears I cried for you last night so I could f~~~ing drown you in them”.

Nice. Great way to get someone to like you more. “you better like me, because if you don’t I’m gonna kill you”. And this is someone who hates themselves so much, they talk / threaten suicide. That’s a girl who’s self esteem is so low, she wouldn’t know the difference between “love” and not getting spit on.

If you keep doing what you've always done... you're gonna keep getting what you always got.

[OldBillParticipant]

As the others have already pointed out, you’re still allowing this psychotic bitch to mess with you life. After breaking up with her the first time, you should have cut all ties permanently. The fact that she can still text you and that you’ll come running whenever she threatens to harm herself speaks volumes. Even f~~~ing someone she knew was a big mistake on your part.

Cut this woman out of your life like you would a cancer tumor. Block her calls, delete her from whatever social network nonsense you belong to, change your phone number of you have to. Get rid of her. Quit giving her free rent in your head.

You’ve taken the first few steps on your MGTOW journey so it’s now time to take the big step: Learn to stop caring about women. The worthless whore you wrote about is the perfect woman with which to learn to stop caring. Women reflexively use our caring feelings towards them to control us. Remove that power from their hands.

I’m glad you dodged a bullet. I hope you now begin to learn to how to avoid being shot at in the first place.

Good luck.

Do not date. Do not impregnate. Do not co-habitate. Above all, do not marry. Reclaim and never again surrender your personal sovereignty.

[Anonymous 42]

Aletheia wrote:

She calls me sobbing and for the 67,234th time I make her feel better

@aletheia, dude! WTF? ZERO! ZILTCH! NADA! 67,234 times??? You weren’t just an emotional tampon, you were the entire Tampax factory! 3 shifts for months straight!

1. Cheated on me

Whores don’t cheat, they only f~~~ other men.

2. Felt no guilt about it, clearly

Whores don’t have a conscience, that’s why they f~~~ other men.

3. Continually relied on me to make her feel better afterwards

Well of course! She saw the loading dock door wide open to the emotional Tampax factory (you).

4. Was the beneficiary of near-heroic efforts on my part to save her life

She’ll ALWAYS be looking for Capt. Save’a’hoe, that’s what hoes do. No?

…and repaid me by:

5. Constructing an utter lie out of thin air to f~~~ up a new thing I had with a girl I really liked.

No s~~~! You brought a pin cushion to a balloon party and wonder why all the balloons were popped?

and

6. F~~~ing one of my very good friends.[/quote]

A very good friend wouldn’t have f~~~ed your whore without your blessing.

Take it any way you like, that’s the way I see it…….

[MattNYCParticipant 2329]

Keymaster wrote:

she buys me a f~~~ing cup of coffee.

NEVER doing it again.

To be clear, I don’t blame her. I blame myself. I should have expected that.

I thought i had this s~~~ down, but i did something similar a few weeks back. I own up to it – 100% my fault. I wouldn’t blame a scorpion for stinging me, that’s just what they do.

But things like this – they’re valuable reminders. And in the grand scheme of things, relatively cheap reminders. Women will do this very casually to men. What are they capable of when they actually focus on it for real?

Someone once said “Marriage today is like giving a loaded gun to a woman, having her point it at the man’s head, and saying ‘Wife, i hope you never get angry enough to use this.'” Insanity.

[Prefer Peace to PieceParticipant 10809]

Maslow’s Hammer: Abraham Maslow said in 1966, “I suppose it is tempting, if the only tool you have is a hammer, to treat everything as if it were a nail.”

Women are good examples of Maslow’s Hammer. The only tool they have is their vagina. They WILL treat every man as a nail.

The good news is you escaped this bitch without too much damage. Time to celebrate.

[AletheiaParticipant 47]

Thanks for the great replies, gents. I think b/c it’s Thankgiving season I gave the impression that the events described (which happened over Thanksgiving) happened over this Thanksgiving, but this actually went down several years ago. Happy to report that no contact has been made with c~~~-drip since about a year after it all happened.

[AletheiaParticipant 47]

And also that I am no longer very good friends with said “very good” friend.

[AletheiaParticipant 47]

Keymaster wrote:

ON: Female Ingratitude

Does she pick me up? Does she invite me over? Does she offer to throw some noodles in a pot of hot water for me?

No. I drove 30 minutes to meet her in a rental car at my expense…. and she buys me a f~~~ing cup of coffee.

NEVER doing it again.

To be clear, I don’t blame her. I blame myself. I should have expected that.

Yeah, that’s been key for me. Realizing they are how they are and that it’s tilting at windmills to expect them to be different.

[qeeqoParticipant 1168]

I had a gal that I ended it with after a couple weeks who threatened suicide over the breakup, I asked, “Will that be closed or open casket?” Being the weenie I was I did get back together with her only to have her tell me she was pregnant even after knowing I had a vasectomy. I did end it after that, and fortunately she had another man in the wings. She was married a few weeks after that. In fact that was the second gal who married her backup plan a couple weeks after the split.

[MalfunctionNeedInputParticipant 257]

Women are the scariest conspiracy on earth that aren’t a conspiracy! It happens all around us…It truly is like the Matrix; born into this system we know no better.

The things I read here, I can’t thank you all enough.

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