Here is a an example of the difficulties and why most female friendships are not worth the time. It’s usually some of the same head games as being in a romantic relationship minus the bonus of sex.
I was “friends” with a girl for 15 years until finally I couldn’t take the one sided views she held and after a road trip I ended the friendship.
She was the girl who would call after a relationship break up to be cheered up. She is the girl who wanted absolute independence in a relationship but expected old fashioned courting.. i.e. the man pays for everything.
I had to move a few states over and had a problem because I owned a motor home and I felt my car was too big to tow. She said she would help me out. I then paid for plane tickets for her to fly to my state .. and then a return flight from the state we completed the travel in. This costs more because they are not “round trip”.
We were suppose to start the trip the day she arrived..but her flight was delayed a few times I told her we would stay in a hotel and leave in the morning.. she then shocked me by demanding her own room. We had known each other 15 years.. there was zero sexual tension between us. I felt insulted she expected me to spend money on a second room when a double would work. But, I did it anyway… Yet, she stayed in my room BSing until 1am.. and then she went to her room to sleep a few hours until we left early in the morning. I drove the motor home.. she drove the car.. crossing four or five states..
By the time we got dinner that evening we were tired..and she pushed the wrong button. I told her how difficult she was to be around and that she was kind of a pain.. that was it.. We did not argue.. But, when we left the restaurant to go to the hotel.. it took her two hours to get to the hotel.. guess she was blowing off steam… again demanding her own room. It was then I asked her how much gas did she put in my car. She told me she had been keeping a record of that.. and told me a number.. I told her that sounds exactly like the amount “your” hotel rooms cost me.. so sounds like we are now even. She went to her room very quiet that night.
By noon we arrived at my new home. She was suppose to stay another day and hang out. But, during the few hours of driving she called and changed her flight.. meaning she PAID for new tickets.. effectively crapping on the money I spent on the tickets as I never buy refundable tickets.. We went to lunch.. (she paid her own) and then to the airport .. She was listening to a book on CD during the drive state to state and she demanded to finish the CD on the way to the airport.. so we had no conversation.. at one point I said something and she responded by turning up the volume of the radio…. again we are “friends” and NOT having sex.. so why was I putting up with this crap? Dropped her off at the airport and that was it.
I noticed on social media a few months later she had broken up with her boyfriend.. not too soon after she started to text me looking for that pity .. I never responded to her and then deleted her from all my social channels. After 15 years that was were we stood..
1. Could not handle personal criticism
2. I was not good enough to sleep in the same room
3. Burned my money as if it was hers
4. I was only her “feel good” friend. I do not remember her ever returning that favor.
So, a little of a rant.. But in typed words it is very clear how very one sided our friendship was.
Jackinov 2 years, 9 months ago.
