Fattening you up: Knowingly or Against Your Will Even

[JackinovParticipant 5229]

So to get the ball rolling lemme share an example of what the hell I’m talking about.

When I was still living with my mother, there was a time when I wasn’t too concerned with eating right. She generally procured most of the food I ate, from what was cooked at home or what was gotten from restaurants. I got moderately overweight, and suddenly I decided to change that. So I started working out, plenty of cardio and weight-lifting, and lost 40 pounds.

Of course, women never really mean what they say. They just want to see you scramble. Dance monkey. DANCE.

When my mother noticed I was on a diet and I was working out and what-not, first, she tried to take credit for it. When she saw I wasn’t kissing her ass with praise for somehow being responsible for it, then began the bulls~~~.

She’d make remarks about how I was working out too much, not doing the right exercises, how working out was a “white” thing, how I wasn’t focusing on God, how I was “getting muscles” for the wrong reasons (I had told her I wasn’t interested in helping women out with any of their heavy s~~~, that I was doing it because I wanted to improve myself, etc).

Then, when that didn’t work, she tried the opposite. Telling me that I probably gay (because I didn’t want to be a woman’s workhouse, etc), that I was getting fatter, that I was being disrespectful, etc

Then she stopped suddenly. Now, in the middle of my mind (I say middle instead of back because I was actively thinking about this), I knew it wasn’t over. It never is with them.

Next thing I know, the house gets flooded with sweets galore. In numbers, that means there was an initial 225% increase in the amount of fatty sweet s~~~ she bought, the main first thing being a 32 pack of Twinkies and a 32 pack of those chocolate cupcakes (which was F~~~ING UNTHINKABLE, considering she had never brought a twinkie or junk cupcake into the house prior. Yes, she bought sweet things of course, but every once in a while. Compared to the rise, this would only look like 30%) This sudden rise leveled off to about a 150% increase.

I saw this s~~~ and knew exactly what it was. Attempted Sabotage. Of course. I took all that sweet s~~~ and took it to a group party. Then, all the crap stopped. Well, not really, she still tried making the occasional negative quip for the next few months until she got bored of that.

So, yeah. I’d definitely love to hear your stories and comments.

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[Anonymous 42]

I haven’t eaten a twinkly since black and white TVs were still alive!

[JackinovParticipant 5229]

Anonymous wrote:

I haven’t eaten a twinkly since black and white TVs were still alive!

I bet you could find some from that time period that are still good!

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[AvidAvariceParticipant 223]

Jackinov wrote:

When my mother noticed I was on a diet and I was working out and what-not, first, she tried to take credit for it.

My own mom didn’t really have anything to say to me when I started working out a bit, but I can relate to my mom trying to take credit for something she didn’t have a hand in.

A few years back we didn’t have phone or internet service at home because my mom had let them convince her to increase her internet speeds multiple times to the point at which it was too expensive for her, so she had a few month’s worth of payments piled up. I obviously needed internet, both for school and to job hunt, so I planned on calling our ISP and opening an account under my own name so I could get internet service again (and KEEP it at a reasonable speed/rate) and just pay for it myself to simplify things.

When I let her know what I was about to do, she came up with an endless list of lies she wanted me to tell the ISP – typical dramatic bulls~~~ (That we didn’t live in the same house, and a few others I can’t remember at this point). I ignored her, called up the ISP, gave them nothing but the truth, and everything was just fine and I was able to get back online at a reasonable speed within a few days.

Afterwards, my mom started ranting on about how she “raised me well”, and that my actions reflected positively on her. I responded with

: “Did you forget the part where you told me to lie and I ignored you and did my own thing?”

She just giggled and repeated the same “your actions reflect on me” line.

Really now… if I went out and kicked some kittens, would she be saying the same thing? I don’t think so.

[Anonymous 12]

Yep I relate. I grew up mostly being raised by my grandmother when my mother was at work, my grandmother would let me eat anything I wanted and being a kid (under 10) at the time it was usually garbage, I was even allowed to eat meat pies and pizzas for breakfast, in fact I didn’t even start having proper breakfast food till I was in my early 20’s.

My mother was much the same and would cook way too much, and serve me and my sister 2 minute noodles for breakfast because they were easy and cheap, we weren’t poor either, she would spend on food when it was something she wanted.

As a result I was a fat and inactive kid and I lost a lot of opportunities as well as self esteem being so. Looking back though I can see that this manipulation with food was all about control, keeping me fat kept me safe and easy to control, I wasn’t running around so much I wasn’t out with girls or doing anything at all really because I was fat and felt like s~~~.

A bit of not so ironic information, when I would want to eat something fatty my mother in particular would motion towards my weight, because now it is bad but when she feeds me it is ok. My mother was and still is overweight too.

As I got into my teens I started to eat less and they tried to shame me for it, I even saved my lunch money as I just wasn’t hungry, one day my mother found the saved money (it was $2 a day back then which was enough to buy a good lunch), she got upset and I told her I wasn’t hungry for lunch and if I told her I wasn’t eating lunch she would get upset which of course she would have, she got upset because she thought I was lying to her or some s~~~. The thing is whenever I tried to tell her anything she wouldn’t listen anyway, I would have to hurt her feelings to be listened to.

When I was about 17, I started to really work out and lose weight, my Grandmother would tell me not to go to the gym so often, in her defence she would knock any interest I had like that so it wasn’t just her sabotaging my weight loss, she just didn’t want me to do anything, to her any type of physical work or effort seemed pointless.

My mother would bring home burgers and other junk but due to my age no matter what I ate was just burnt so that failed. I lost a lot of weight very fast. Yet she had a go at me one day because I ordered myself pizza, despite having just lost 5kg for the week.

My mother is 71 now and is still trying to lose weight, she has succeeded to some degree but I think it is muscle loss from aging, she has tried everything throughout the years except eating properly (not dieting) and steady exercise.

So yeah I get your story all too well Jackinov, sorry if I went on a bit, it just struck a chord with me.

[Anonymous 7]

When I used to work out my mom would always say I was just doing it for girls and basically I was working out for the wrong reasons.

[EtrangereParticipant 706]

She’d make remarks about how I was working out too much, not doing the right exercises, how working out was a “white” thing, how I wasn’t focusing on God, how I was “getting muscles” for the wrong reasons (I had told her I wasn’t interested in helping women out with any of their heavy s~~~, that I was doing it because I wanted to improve myself, etc).

what the hell? How could someone rationally come to that conclusion? Good for you for doing your own thing. I got a little bit of that from my sister when I was younger and struggling financially ” Well you can lose the gym membership and save $20 a month” , my response was “I will make do , as basketball is keeping me sane right now”

[Faust For ScienceParticipant 22544]

Jackinov wrote:

When I was still living with my mother, there was a time when I wasn’t too concerned with eating right. She generally procured most of the food I ate, from what was cooked at home or what was gotten from restaurants. I got moderately overweight, and suddenly I decided to change that.

Been there. As a child my mother was looking for the cheapest thing to feed me. Fast food, junk food, sodas. When I tried to eat more healthier she considered it wasting money.

Because of this I have had some major weight problems in my live. But, I have since got them mostly uncontrolled. But, the damage to my body internally is likely permanent.

Jackinov wrote:

So I started working out, plenty of cardio and weight-lifting, and lost 40 pounds.

I get where you are going. I have dieted. I have not drunk a soda in years. I refuse to go to a fast food place to eat. And I eat at places where there is food of quality, nor quantity.

I get a kick out of showing my mother the current upside down food prices that eating healthy is sometimes cheaper than getting junk food, or fast food.

[JackinovParticipant 5229]

Yeah I knew I had to take control of my eating habbits, because she wasn’t going to for sure.

My friend on the other hand, isn’t so lucky. His mom is fattening up all 5 members of the family with her pastas and cheeses every night. Poor boy.

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[NewgroundsParticipant 558]

Damn didn’t even know mothers sabotaging their sons on purpose with sweets was an actual thing, but the part about claiming to get muscles for the wrong reason is familiar to me. So many people automatically make the assumption that if you’re trying to improve your life and your image it’s to impress women or even to just impress anyone. It’s sad that they can’t wrap their head around the basic concept of someone doing it solely for their health and for themselves.

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[Anonymous 54]

A wife will.do the same thing. She will want to make you fat and docile,therefore easier to control. Also makes you less appealing to other women. Eat good healthy food. Work out and never ever let a woman make your decisions for you

[narwhalParticipant]

I’d agree that it isn’t uncommon for a mother, spouse, or girlfriend to discourage a man from getting or staying in shape. A man who is in shape will be less dependent on her and more likely to realize the grass really is greener on the other side. A woman I was dating actually told me that she didn’t like me going to the gym because she didn’t want other women to be attracted to me.

To be fair, I think the other side can be true to an extent. Dad’s aren’t all the excited about daughter’s being supermodels, although it’s more because they are concerned that they won’t be able to keep her out of trouble. An overweight husband/boyfriend won’t be that big on his woman getting in shape since she may be tempted to leave him, or see him differently.

Really, changes in health can be difficult for those around you to accept, as it hard to think that it isn’t related to you somehow. If a person thinks they need to lose weight, do they also feel the same about you? Will they continue to accept you? It takes a lot of communication and maturity to deal with it.

When I was married, my ex gained a good 30+ lbs, then lost in a couple years later. She got upset with me after she lost the weight, because I needed congratulate her enough. She claimed she did it for me….BS…she did it for herself. She gained the weight with no concern about how I felt about it, and I was a jerk if I brought it up. I was suppose to accept her when she’s heavy, as if it didn’t matter, so why wouldn’t I treat her the same when she lost the weight. Plus, she would get upset at me for assisting her the weight lose. She’d tell me she wasn’t going to eat a cookie. Then when I’d see her eat one. I’d remind her that she said she wasn’t going to do that…no judgment, just repeating what she said. Of course, I was a jerk for that.

I have no doubt this isn’t atypical behavior. The whole mess is just more reasons to avoid women.

Ok. Then do it.

[JackinovParticipant 5229]

I did forget to mention the fact that one of the other ways my friends own mom tried to discourage him from losing weight was to tell him “You and I have the same metabolism. I’ve “tried” for years and years to lose weight and I couldn’t”.

Her “diet” consists of a pint of ice-cream every couple of days. She’s “tried” everything to lose weight except diet and exercise. Now that her son managed to lose quite a bit, she knows it makes her look lazy and like a liar. She’s become more nasty and cynical since then, which falls in line with everything you’ve said.

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[Mango IngawayParticipant 2264]

They want to change you, then they dump you because “you’re just not the same anymore :'(”

Can’t be the only one who’s heard/seen that kind of bulls~~~ god knows how many times

It is a common failing of childhood to think that if one makes a hero out of a demon the demon will be satisfied.

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