Family holds you back

[DeadhoodParticipant 155]

Next semester at college I’m going to start working and live an apartment with trust worthy friends we already have everything in order to move in January but my mom is trying to refuse to let me saying I’m missing out on the “college experience” not living in the dorms even though it’s cheaper to live off near campus,everyone besides my older sister seems against this, while I’m still going to do this not only cause I’m 18 but I’ve realized living with them is holding me back, all they expect me to do is stay home all day. She’s really not helping her case with me having full control over all my bank accounts including my college fund. And a car she put in my name. While I can do all this I still feel conflicted due to my parents influences can I get some advice?

[JVBParticipant]

Don’t let them hold you back. Good luck.

Peace is > piece.

[RhinoParticipant 3477]

Family can and does hold you back but remember so will your friends if they start to make poor life choices like smoking up while you are trying to study, bringing girls home to screw or constantly party or gaming and making noise when you need quiet time. You may have known your friends for awhile but you will really get to know them once you start to live with them including all their bad habits and they will have some that will p~~~ you off. Good luck with that living arrangement maybe it works out for you but remember you owe them nothing if they start screwing you over don’t let them be the ones to hold you back as well.

[UntamedParticipant]

I agree with Rhino.
Your family may be trying to hold you back by controlling where you’ll live and I understand that you want to move out but be careful not to jump out of one exasperating situation only to land in another. Sharing living space with roommates/friends is rarely a good situation. Many people your age aren’t mature enough to hold their end of the bargain when it comes to rent and it never fails to have one who’s always broke come rent time with only excuses to give. When you have to make up someone else’s part of the rent and utilities, how expensive will that college dorm seem then?
Will you have your OWN room where you may lock the door and not be bothered for hours on end while studying? Will the food you buy be your own or will everyone share? What about the chores in common spaces? How will the cooking arrangement be set, or are you all planning on living on fast food and pizza?
Then how will it be for you when your friends invite skanky hoes to the house? Will you be the odd one not partaking in the flesh fest? How will your MGTOW living be impacted while living with your friends who, I dare say, may not be MGTOW?
There are so many things to think about when living with others. Especially others who are barely of age to drink beer…
With all those questions, and more, to consider, I would advise you to think over taking a room on campus where things are somewhat supervised and you can go to someone if/when you have a problem.
What I’m saying is, don’t rely too much on people who call themselves your friends. Think first about your studies and where it is you’d be in a good situation to do so.

Don't let them Blame, Shame or Tame you!
Give 'em NOTHING, not even an answer!
#GenderSegragationNow!

[Duke TogoParticipant 2664]

The college experience is over rated. Hope you succeed in your studies and future career. You sound like you have your head screwed on. Be ever vigilant with the temptation that comes with testosterone brother.

[DeadhoodParticipant 155]

We’ve already established no girls in the apartment we all have cars for that lol

[DeadhoodParticipant 155]

I understand your concern untamed, but we’ve been planing this for the last few months, we’ve all even got jobs to accommodate, with the amount of people living there rent would only be $250 a month, I already have a few contingency plans in order. A man must look forward to the best but always prepare for the worst

[UntamedParticipant]

Deadhood wrote:

I understand your concern untamed, but we’ve been planing this for the last few months, we’ve all even got jobs to accommodate, with the amount of people living there rent would only be $250 a month, I already have a few contingency plans in order. A man must look forward to the best but always prepare for the worst

Sounds like you and your friends have thought it over and have already agreed.
You sound like someone with a good head on his shoulders. You’ll be fine.
I just don’t want you to regret something you have a choice over.

Don't let them Blame, Shame or Tame you!
Give 'em NOTHING, not even an answer!
#GenderSegragationNow!

[SwimcatParticipant 3593]

I’m on the alumni board for the chapter of my college fraternity. We have an absolute rule, NO WOMEN UPSTAIRS. Guys get one warning. Second offense and you’re out, no exceptions. Not like it was in my time. If you’re going in your home, best to live at home. If you’re out of town, off campus. NO WOMEN IN THE APARTMENT!!!

[MonkParticipant 17000]

The ‘No women’ rule has to be set in stone.

They invariably try to play the men off against each other, so that the others quit, eventually leaving just her, the mark, and plenty of room for her to move in.

Seen it happen.

[CarnageParticipant 22113]

Deadhood wrote:

I understand your concern untamed, but we’ve been planing this for the last few months, we’ve all even got jobs to accommodate, with the amount of people living there rent would only be $250 a month, I already have a few contingency plans in order. A man must look forward to the best but always prepare for the worst

You seem to be on good tracks young one, watch your six “friends” become “enemies” in five minutes, be ready to ditch everyone at any minute.

Good luck and f~~~ you.

To those following me, be careful, I just farted. Men those beans are killers.

[JB BooksParticipant 3182]

Best of luck, Deadhood. Two pieces of advice you should pay heed to: 1. Don’t be the one to sign the lease!! 2. Take college courses that will get you a good job.

We just don't realize life's most significant events while they're happening. Back then, I thought, "Well, there'll be other days". I didn't realize that that was the only day. - "Moonlight" Graham

[RealityBitesParticipant 2198]

Yah know Deadhood….I don’t know what to say since my life experience was very different…(The very day I came home with my HS Diploma: I got a 2 day notice to move out from my mom who said she had rented out my room…)
College fund? Hahahahahaha…..
I moved out with the clothes on my back, zero f~~~s given by my mom whether I had a roof over my head or food in my belly…my biggest motivator to support myself: was hunger, being cold and on the streets and knowing I had no where to go.

I agree with JB Books: don’t sign the lease, and major in something you KNOW you can get a job in that will pay you a liveable wage and isn’t too hard so you know you will finish your degree.

[Gravel PitParticipant]

Relax about your family. Your independence and male presence will take years to develop and will be self evident. At the same time, you never outgrow family. When you’re a man, you can put your foot down. Right now. I know you don’t want to hear it, but you’re still a young man, barely past being a boy. You still have to put up with their s~~~ dude. LOL. Relax and play it cool. Youre on easy street this way anyway.

Look at it like this. Enjoy their company (your family) and enjoy the merits of being associated with that family. Make use of them and appreciate them. (other people here never had a “college fund”… we’re nobodies who will never earn what you will…) Be f~~~ing grateful.

Your wishes for total isolation and freedom will soon be granted. Don’t be in a hurry to get it! You are about to be an out of control s~~~ty college kid anyway and make a bunch of mistakes probably. Okay, maybe not LOL. Im being unfair. Still. Dont be in a huge hurry to grow up and get independence. It comes.

I didn’t have my own space, alone. Like my own apartment to live in, ALONE.. until I was 26! And I honestly didn’t handle it very well. It wasn’t until I got sober that I could appreciate living alone and being MGHOW MONK… I lived in a Marine Barracks from age 18-21. Then I lived with my parents for another 2 years, and rented with friends or family for another 3 years more.

Be glad for what you’ve got… sounds like you’re going to be well-off in life if you graduate and land a good job…

[DeadhoodParticipant 155]

I’m not moving out of My house completely, jut living in the apartment instead of dorms during the semesters for the next 3 years

[Chris BurnettParticipant 122]

I’m just going to say what worked for me. I tolerated the dorms for a while, (College wasn’t so PC back then either), Still, I wasn’t the most blue pilled thing so women weren’t a high priority for me, I focused on my studies, making money, and gaining experience in my field. When I could afford it, I got a one bedroom apartment, because I didn’t expect anyone to be able to hold their end of the bargain (I heard the horror stories). Bottom line, I held off until I could do things on my own. Self reliance, I felt, was always the path for me because the level of responsiblity I placed on myself was always high. I knew I’d always be gone pursuing my goals so having someone at my home while I was gone didn’t sit well with me (I like expensive $hit). At that age, many young people are wasteful, they’d down a bottle of $150 bourbon like it was the $12 stuff and wouldn’t even bother to savor it even once. I rarely had “house parties” but when I did, it put things in perspective and showed me the difference in my priorities and my peers. That being said, be aware of peer pressure, its still a thing. I cooked what I wanted when I felt like it, I cleaned when I felt like it, and for the most part, things ran like an oiled machine. If you clean your own apartment, it’ll stay clean until you get back. If you live with others……… Maybe I’m kinda OCD like that, but you get my drift. Either way, think, plan, and repeat several times before execution. You’re only held back by those you give that power to so stay focused on your goals.

MGTOW for life,
Chris

I like math, see: the cost of raising a child > child support payment$ = A bitch getting hit in the face with a reality brick!!

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