Family Based Arrangement UK

[ABParticipant 762]

Can anyone advise whether I could be screwed over if in the future a Family Based Arrangement broke down?

I make regular payments to my ex but on our own terms.

My concern is that in the future she could turn around and go back to Child Maintenance Services and claim for arrears if she is of the impression I’ve “underpaid” what she would’ve got had we gone through CSA from the outset?

Any ideas?

The main point of this post is that I contribute to expenditures beside actual transferring money and I can just see in the future being told they’ve checked what is recorded and despite me and her agreeing to “xyz” I actually should’ve provided “wxyz” and as a result I owe “w” amount of that makes sense?

No-one's yet explained to me exactly what's so great // About slaving fifty years away on something that you hate // About meekly shuffling down the path of mediocrity // Well if that's your road then take it, but it's not the road for me.

[Anonymous 43]

one word:

BOHICA

[joetechParticipant]

Keep receipts for everything you send her, if you’re concerned that she’ll pull a stunt like that.

"Don't follow in my footsteps...I stepped in something."

[ABParticipant 762]

The thing is, after I destroyed her in court previously I don’t think she will. She should know better.

But realistically I can’t be expected to keep receipts for like 16 years for everything I buy on the off chance she does…

I was hoping someone could speak from experience and say:

“If there is a Family Based Arrangement in place and she goes back to CSA at a later date, they cannot enforce backdated arrears and would instead open a new case from then moving forward” or something of that ilk.

No-one's yet explained to me exactly what's so great // About slaving fifty years away on something that you hate // About meekly shuffling down the path of mediocrity // Well if that's your road then take it, but it's not the road for me.

[ABParticipant 762]

Because common sense prevailing you’d imagine they can’t enforce back payment against a mutual agreement that she later regrets.

But as with all things “women” and “legal” I imagine the contrary.

No-one's yet explained to me exactly what's so great // About slaving fifty years away on something that you hate // About meekly shuffling down the path of mediocrity // Well if that's your road then take it, but it's not the road for me.

[HitmanParticipant]

to my knowledge,
you and your ex must have a legal document,
signed and approved by BOTH your lawyers,
which is then forwarded to a judge.
the judge will rubberstamp it,
regardless of what you agree to.
.
at a later date,
she CAN move to resume “full” payments,
but shouldn’t be able to go backwards and get money in arrears..
. ask a lawyer though.

[ABParticipant 762]

Hitman wrote:

to my knowledge,
you and your ex must have a legal document,
signed and approved by BOTH your lawyers,
which is then forwarded to a judge.
the judge will rubberstamp it,
regardless of what you agree to.
.
at a later date,
she CAN move to resume “full” payments,
but shouldn’t be able to go backwards and get money in arrears..
. ask a lawyer though.

As ever the situ seems to be I will require financial outlay on legal prerequisites to safeguard against future abuse.

Thanks Hitman, appreciate your candid response.

No-one's yet explained to me exactly what's so great // About slaving fifty years away on something that you hate // About meekly shuffling down the path of mediocrity // Well if that's your road then take it, but it's not the road for me.

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