Hey everyone,
A little bit about myself, I’m a 20yr male in QLD, Australia. I’ve been in IT for 3.5 years, have recently moved into the security equipment industry, I work for myself among two other part-time casual jobs and have attempted 4 business ventures since I was 18; two of which are still keeping money flowing occasionally and one of which I’m actively building. I love business and the lifestyle & challenges it presents.
Up until I found this forum I genuinely thought there was something wrong with me. I had semi-recently broken up with a girlfriend of two years who I was very much in love with. She was my first love, very narcissistic, unstable, intoxicating and I was hooked. I shared everything I had with her, gave her a place to stay, pretty much loved her unconditionally, eventually gave her royal treatment and believed every word that came out of her mouth. I believed at the time that she would reciprocate, in the beginning of the relationship she would talk of marriage and future plans and I had a proposal date and everything planned (which she knew of). I pretty much trusted her because I didn’t expect anything deceitful out of her. Then she got a job in administration, started getting attention from a co-worker and holy f~~~. She eventually cheated on me, which threw me into an absolute headf~~~. She gave the excuse that ‘he was there for her’ and ‘she was only young’. Bearing in mind she had told me early on that she needed me to be happy and always carried on about how glad she was to have me, she wanted to spend her live with me, etc. I’m sure many other MGTOW on here have heard the same BS.
Anyway fast forward a few months I was struggling to come to terms with everything, and how she could go a complete 180 against everything she said to me. I was blaming myself, convinced that I needed to improve myself and that there was something wrong with me; I bought into every word of her nonsense, even post-breakup. Things eventually calm down and I get back on track with my life, hoping that a decent girl is out there, one who understands traditional values. After reading through a trove of stories online and eventually discovering this forum, I’m glad to say that I don’t feel anything is wrong with me anymore, and I don’t feel a desire to get married or have kids, I see so many horror stories and such a major cultural shift in values that it doesn’t seem worth it. Not for pussy, s~~~; money can be used to get it when I want it anyway.
I think it’s interesting to see just how much our culture has degraded in the space of a few decades. I grew up on a rural station (330,000ac) which was very much family oriented and traditional and that’s where I drew my understanding of relationships from. Dad worked and mum kept the house clean, cooked, looked after us kids, kept the vegetable garden and supported dad. There was no evident constant desire for ‘more’ or not being satisfied with what they had; they kept their word and stood by each other and fortunately still do to this day. I don’t see that much anymore, especially not with my generation. It’s a shame really, I think we saw the peak of our cultural values right before the age of feminism and entitlement; it’s downhill from here. I’ve been reading across this forum, and aside from having a great laugh at how f~~~ed our current culture is, mostly everything I read rings true to my life. I can’t find one woman who isn’t s~~~-testing, picking at, manipulating, pushing or complaining to their partners. It’s crazy, I can’t help but notice it now either. The blokes either give in and bend over (I’ve been there) or they keep on fighting and carry the burden.
I’m glad this forum exists, it’s exactly what’s needed and it’s nice to know that none of us are alone, fingers crossed the MTGOW movement grows; I feel like it will.
Dave
He who can master the present, can conquer anything.
mgtow_85 4 years, 9 months ago.
