Ex Wife wants to move from IL to FL with 4yo daughter

[VanXingParticipant 98]

My ex and I officially divorced August 2018 after 2.5 years of separation of divorce proceedings. She moved out of marital home 2.5 years ago and currently I’m residing in the home that I’ve been been trying to sell for the last 2.5 years. She’s been obstructing the sale during that time in order make me over pay for an oversized house.

She only agreed to complete the divorce after she became serious to a single dad who lives in Florida starting in January of 2018.

I get an email two month after the official divorce that she wants to move from Illinois to Florida with the new guy and taking our 4yo daughter with her. Obviously I don’t want her to move my daughter to the other side of the country. However I have a feeling once I reject her she will ramp up her obstruction to the sale of the marital home.

The decree states that she needs to cooperate with me in the sale of the home and follow the advise of the realtor.

I have not responded to her email yet and my attorney is telling me to reject her right away and not leave a email trail of back and forth to string her along.

Has anyone else experienced this and how did you handle it?

Thanks,
Van

[Duke TogoParticipant 2664]

Listen to your lawyer. This is about money and nothing else, leave your emotions where they belong in this situation, the garbage bin. Focus on the sale of the property first, then your daughter.

[MonkParticipant 16979]

VanXing wrote:

I get an email two month after the official divorce that she wants to move from Illinois to Florida with the new guy and taking our 4yo daughter with her. Obviously I don’t want her to move my daughter to the other side of the country. However I have a feeling once I reject her she will ramp up her obstruction to the sale of the marital home.

Get out of the whole situation.

Use your lawyer to cut a deal. Daughter in exchange for selling the property.

[AwakenedParticipant 35200]

Monk wrote:

Get out of the whole situation.Use your lawyer to cut a deal. Daughter in exchange for selling the property.

TALK to your Lawyer about the above because chances are if you end up going back to court over this issue the Court will more than likely Do what ever the hell SHE WANTS, and then shell even be more of a bitch in selling the house, and take her daughter to Florida Leaving you with that house anchor around your neck.

It’s too bad about losing your daughter, but ask your Lawyer if there is ANYTHING that you can REALISTICALLY do to permanently stop your wife from moving to Florida, and taking the daughter with her.

I’m guessing the truthful answer is NO, but he sure can make a lot of fees by dragging this NO out over a couple/few months.

In a World of Justin Beibers Be a Johnny Cash

[hdvrodParticipant 1109]

A friend of mine went through a nasty divorce and his ex moved to Idaho, taking the 2 kids with her. To make a long story short, she ended up convincing a judge to rule that, unless his residence was in Idaho as well, he would lose physical and legal custody of his children.
So he had to quit a lucrative job here in CA, drop everything and move to Idaho before the deadline set by the judge.
Please fight her with all you might to prevent her from taking the children with her to Florida.

Anyway communication, real open communication, is not wanted or even required in a relationship. Women cannot handle fully open and honest communication, plus most perceive it as a weakness on the part of a man. All that is required is catering to her whims, and even then nothing is certain. There is no way to be sure of having a successful relationshit with a woman. MGTaoist

[JB BooksParticipant 3182]

Use your lawyer, and don’t give an inch. Don’t agree to allow your daughter to move out of state. Don’t understand how she could be obstructing a sale of the house if she’s not living in it; maybe it’s an issue of lowering the listing price. Do what you need to do to get rid of it, because it’s costing money not to have it sold.

We just don't realize life's most significant events while they're happening. Back then, I thought, "Well, there'll be other days". I didn't realize that that was the only day. - "Moonlight" Graham

[VanXingParticipant 98]

Update 10/5/18:

I told my ex no to the move. She responds by saying that if we’re not able to resolve our differences in 15 days then we need to have mediation and split the cost.

My attorney said there’s no reason to mediate as it’s not a dispute but something that she is initiating.

Anyone heard of this 15 day to mediate window?

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