Ex-Wife had the kid, says its mine, didn't put me on the b-certificate

[OrdosiusParticipant 24]

Just wondering what I should do about this situation tbh. It’s been a year and some change now and she ended up having my kid. She’s told me that he’s mine but she didn’t put my name on the birth certificate. She even named his middle name after me. Since I’m not listed as a parent and technically have no legal obligations to the child, what should I do in this case?

I absolutely hate being around the woman and don’t want her anywhere near me. I don’t even want to talk to her but there’s this kid. I don’t know how I feel about letting her raise my son. She’s one of those crazy hippy, lunatic, the universe is God, Nature and Gaia are life, kinda people. She’s gotten her life straightened out, or so it seems, but she’s a compulsive liar. Not to be trusted.

Should I approach the courts and get custody/partial of my son?
Or, just let her raise him and write him a book later on?

Not really sure what to do here to be honest.

[TaxGuyParticipant]

Question for you: Where were you when the kid was born? Were you broke up and didn’t know she had the baby until later? It makes a big difference to me if I were you. I guess I’m just asking for a little more of the story about why you aren’t on the birth certificate.

That said, I think I would want proof of paternity, a DNA test before I did anything. If the child is yours, then be his father. If not, then get away from Ms. Crazy.

Order the good wine

[OrdosiusParticipant 24]

I was in the same city but didn’t know she had it until later. I didn’t even know she was pregnant until a ‘mutual’ friend told me. I’m not sure how I would even go about getting a DNA test on him since I’m not on the birth certificate. If I even asked her for one I know that she would just lose her mind like she always does.

[AwakenedParticipant 35201]

WHY do you think the child is yours ??

Maybe, she didn’t put your name on the Birth certificate because if you pushed for a paternity test, you and EVERYONE else would find out that the kid is not yours.

I would NOT get involved with this women and HER kid.

In a World of Justin Beibers Be a Johnny Cash

[TaxGuyParticipant]

So, what does she want from you? Is she looking for money? Help parenting? You said she is a compulsive liar. What makes you think she’s telling you the truth this time?

She is your ex. That means that before you divorced you were fighting. Do you honestly think she was sitting on a block of ice waiting for you to come back? Or was she maybe, just maybe, dating someone else while the fighting and divorce was going on? Did you even have sex with her during the right time frame for the kid to be yours? Maybe she got pregnant and then had sex with you to cover it up?

Order the good wine

[OrdosiusParticipant 24]

You gentlemen make some interesting arguments.

I think that perhaps my continued course of inaction is the best action in this case.

Doing nothing, seems to be the only logical thing it seems.

Thanks for your input.

[Anonymous 54]

One of your 3 wives? Im confused.

[OrdosiusParticipant 24]

Anonymous wrote:

One of your 3 wives? Im confused.

The last ex-wife. Yes.

[Anonymous 42]

Awakened wrote:

WHY do you think the child is yours ??

Maybe, she didn’t put your name on the Birth certificate because if you pushed for a paternity test, you and EVERYONE else would find out that the kid is not yours.

I would NOT get involved with this women and HER kid.

Yes yes yes and yes, ALL OF THE ABOVE^^^!

Build a bomb shelter and lock yourself inside! You’re being lured into modern Beta Slavery and you don’t even KNOW IT! RUN FOREST RUN!!!

[AwakenedParticipant 35201]

Ordosius wrote:

You gentlemen make some interesting arguments.

I think that perhaps my continued course of inaction is the best action in this case.

Doing nothing, seems to be the only logical thing it seems.

Thanks for your input.

If I was you, I would purposely go out of my way to avoid her at all cost. F~~~, I would move if it would help. She’s a fruit cake, and the more distance you can put between you and her is to YOUR own benefit.

In a World of Justin Beibers Be a Johnny Cash

[Anonymous 54]

Do ghost writers write fiction?

[HitmanParticipant]

if i were you,
i would leave her and that kid alone.
you hit the lottery .
without your name on the birth certificate,
you are not obligated to support the child.
.
if you SEE that kid your F~~~ED.
..let her get a paternity test ordered,
just hope she doesn’t.
.
you can probably find out if it’s your kid at any time in the future..if you want to.
i advise to stay away.
my 2 cents.
YOU on the other hand will pay for 18 years,
with no gaurantee that you will have any sway over the child.
it looks like a bad deal if you want to be involved.
get ready for lawyer fee’s and child support if you do.

[HitmanParticipant]

Ordosius wrote:

I think that perhaps my continued course of inaction is the best action

it often is .
leave it alone !

[Anonymous 42]

If this c~~~ sees you’re the most vulnerable from her list of potential selected daddies and fills in the blanks on that birth certificate with >YOUR NAME< CONTEST AND DENY EVERYTHING! GET A LAWYER! GET A DNA TEST! Cut those chains she intends to bind you with! You’re dealing with a thousand dick drunk!

[OrdosiusParticipant 24]

I’m really glad I found this board.

Thanks all~

[TaxGuyParticipant]

No offense, but that sure got put to bed pretty quickly. You are tortured over this, and then a couple of responses and you are good to go?

I didn’t tell you do nothing. I just asked some questions to get the facts straight. Is she looking for something out of you or is she fine with the current situation where you are not a part of her or her child’s life?

Order the good wine

[Anonymous 54]

How nice that you would wriye this child a book later on!
My spelling and grammer may fool you. But I have known many many sucsessful writers. With #1, s under their belts.

You have a uniqe style that is easy to recognize!!!

[Anonymous 54]

TaxGuy wrote:

No offense, but that sure got put to bed pretty quickly. You are tortured over this, and then a couple of responses and you are good to go?

I didn’t tell you do nothing. I just asked some questions to get the facts straight. Is she looking for something out of you or is she fine with the current situation where you are not a part of her or her child’s life?

cause hes full of s~~~. The angry white men post was his.

[Anonymous 54]

Tuna

Mangina

Writer practicing

Whatever.

Get rid of this

LIEING MOTHERF~~~ER!!!!!

[OrdosiusParticipant 24]

TaxGuy wrote:

No offense, but that sure got put to bed pretty quickly. You are tortured over this, and then a couple of responses and you are good to go?

I didn’t tell you do nothing. I just asked some questions to get the facts straight. Is she looking for something out of you or is she fine with the current situation where you are not a part of her or her child’s life?

I was reading into your questions and examining the reasoning behind them. So it was clear that the negatives outweighed the positives in this situation. Therefore, I made the comment about ‘inaction being the best action’.

She actually, isn’t looking for anything from me. She contacted me letting me know that I had a son (my only child obviously) and that my name wasn’t on the birth certificate. I’ve been thinking about this stuff for about a month now. Since I won’t be able to be around the kiddo while he grows up, I’m going to do perhaps the next best decent thing. I’m going to design him a book to guide him through life. Teach him all that good fatherly stuff and educate him on the world around him. I figure, give him the 740pg book when he turns 13-16 or something like that. Explain things to him in the book. I don’t know, it’s just a plan I hatched a few weeks ago. It would be better than just abandoning him.

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