Ex Text Messages

[uchibenkeiParticipant 7965]

I had this text exchange with the ex recently.  This came out of the blue.  No greetings or salutations.  No hello how are you.  I’ve put the translation in square brackets.

ex:  Would you work as an accountant again?  [I need more money.  Can you go back to accounting and make more?  If not, why not?]

me:  Why are you asking me this now?  [What the f~~~ are you up to, bitch?  I know you don’t give a s~~~ about my happiness.  You want more money without earning it yourself?]

ex:  I was just asked if I know someone who does accounting and you are the only one.  [I want you to think there is an opportunity so you either go back to accounting or say something stupid in text, like you won’t because you don’t want to pay me more money.  Then I can have a judge court order you into paying support based on an accountant’s salary because I’d have proof you’re just trying to avoid support.]

me:  I’m happier doing what I’m doing (electrician).  I get lots of exercise and I feel good.  I think it’s healthier for me.  [I’m not f~~~ing stupid.  I’ll never put that in text even if it were true.  By the way, I’m happier, healthier and look f~~~ing awesome now that you’re out of the picture.]

ex:  good.  [S~~~.]

 

My ex is an uneducated, unemployed Japanese national.  her only friends are at her church or other Japanese in the area.  There is no way anybody seriously asked her to refer an accountant.  Lamest excuse in the book.  The English she used was pretty good for her, maybe too good.  I’m a little suspicious she didn’t write this herself.

I bathe in the tears of single moms.

[MOWsince95Participant 1446]

Best advice with an ex or anyone who knows your ex is DO NOT CONVERSE WITH THEM about anything unless it is business.

If you have children with her, any discussion with her should pertain only to the kids and their welfare.  Not a f~~~ing word about what you do, whom you screw, what you drive or own or what you are thinking about anything – including nothing about vacations, saturdays, the weather, or what vegetables you prefer with your steak.

Silence is golden.  If she texts you some random s~~~ out of nowhere, don’t answer at all.  It is none of her f~~~ing business.  And if you have no kids with her, just ignore her stupid ass 100% because it benefits you in no way to discuss anything at all with her. Trust me … if you owe her alimony she will never contact you to see if you can pay less … you will never hear “oh, you lost your job? well, in that case please send me only half the alimony until you find another job” … not in your life.

Never forget Miranda …. “anything you say can and will be used against you in a court of law” … so best just shut it up and let her hang. Do not even say “it’s not your business” because all she wants is the response – do not provide it. Exes are your enemy – they will never be your friend nor have any interest in improving your lot in life – and as they are the enemy you provide them with either no information, or strategic disinformation.  Nothing else.

 

 

If you are MGTOW when you are young you have no heart.
If you're not MGTOW when you are 20 you have no brain.

[finallyfreeParticipant 341]

MOWsince95 – awesome response.  You absolutely nailed it. Couldn’t have said it better.

 

J.

[RoyDalParticipant]

MOWsince95 said it for me. I have several friends who are lawyers, and a couple of relatives too. They all say, without exception, “The best advice your lawyer can give you is: 1) Shut up; 2) Stay out of court.”

Society asks MGTOWs: Why are you not making more tax-slaves?

[Bright guyParticipant 156]

MOWsince95 wrote:

Best advice with an ex or anyone who knows your ex is DO NOT CONVERSE WITH THEM

Silence is golden.

Never forget Miranda …. “anything you say can and will be used against you in a court of law” … so best just shut it up and let her hang. Do not even say “it’s not your business” because all she wants is the response – do not provide it. Exes are your enemy – they will never be your friend nor have any interest in improving your lot in life – and as they are the enemy you provide them with either no information, or strategic disinformation. Nothing else.

This is very sound advice. The ex will always try to push back into your world. Your job is to  keep her out of your world. Silence is golden is the best policy.

Yesterday it was 20 text messages, 2 emails ( I with a 6 page spread sheet attached) and one visit.

So far today, it’s 10 text message,  but I am expecting more to come!!! oh wait #11 text message just came through… go figure, she is texting on her companies time– does that qualify as theft of services?…LOL

[Crazy CanuckMember 4215]

I’m curious, do you live in Japan? Why doesn’t she get a job? I thought Japanese people are hard working and smart people.

"If pussy was a stock it would be plummeting right now because you've flooded the market with it. You're giving it away too easy." - Dave Chapelle

[uchibenkeiParticipant 7965]

Crazy Canuck wrote:

I’m curious, do you live in Japan? Why doesn’t she get a job? I thought Japanese people are hard working and smart people.

I used to live in Japan but not anymore.  Japan is the same as any other country.  They have hard workers, they have lazy slobs and everything in between.  They have very bright people and incredibly stupid people.  There are TV shows dedicated to showing how stupid some people are.  Generally speaking, women work until they get married, then they retire.  Companies won’t promote them because they know women are like this.  My ex retired when we moved to Canada.  She says it’s because her English isn’t good (I speak Japanese) but it’s good enough.  She wanted to be a housewife and then she wouldn’t even do that.  She got spoiled and lazy.  Many women are like that in Japan.  Just useless outside of the bedroom.  That’s why the herbivore movement is so big.

I bathe in the tears of single moms.

[KeymasterKeymaster]

@uchibenkei Yes yes! To Obi Wan, you listen!! (MGTOWSINCE95)

Would have recommended same. STRONGLY.

The “good” at the end was her satisfaction that she got you to *explain yourself* to her.
Explaining yourself to women is off the table.

Her initial approach is one that I see ALL the time. There was a woman I once knew more than 20 years ago when we in school. After +20 YEARS of no Birthday greetings, no Christmas wishes, no “how are yous”…. she gets my contact information because she’s going to be in town. Her opening text is:

“where do you live”.

Those are her first words to me in +20 years.
She didn’t even capitalize or punctuate it with a question mark.

The I recognized the area code, so I reply: “Cool! I have a stalker!”.

She says “lol its ME!!” like I should know who the f~~~ that is.

The point is…. you must know: women have the most BIZARRE unethical, amoral, impolite, intrusive, indirect, nosey and slippery ways of trying to “get to you”. It’s so consistent than you can virtually COUNT ON IT – especially if it’s an EX. No chick will call or text you because she wants to know how you’re doing or because her intent is forthright and direct. Its ALWAYS a crooked approach.

If you keep doing what you've always done... you're gonna keep getting what you always got.

[sidecarParticipant 35837]

MOWsince95 wrote:

Best advice with an ex or anyone who knows your ex is DO NOT CONVERSE WITH THEM about anything unless it is business.

Damn straight.

Also what communication you have with them should be through your attorney. Even after the divorce is finalized. It might seem inconvenient and can be a little expensive, but it’s a hell of a lot cheaper than what can happen to you if you converse with her directly, especially after she starts making s~~~ up, and especially if she ever tries to ramp up your payments or deny you access. When you say something like: “That never happened,” or: “I never said that,” a family court judge will be very dubious in the face of her wails and tears. When your attorney says, “That never happened, and here’s the documentary evidence,” the judge will take notice.

The only words you should ever say to her directly are: “Please bring that to my attorney’s attention.”

uchibenkei wrote:

I used to live in Japan but not anymore. […] My ex retired when we moved to Canada.

Jesus wept. Was enabling hypergamy a hobby for you or something? Because I can’t think of a worse combination than divorcing a Japanese woman in a Canadian court.

[uchibenkeiParticipant 7965]

sidecar wrote:

Jesus wept. Was enabling hypergamy a hobby for you or something? Because I can’t think of a worse combination than divorcing a Japanese woman in a Canadian court.

F~~~ Jesus.  I’m not asking for any tears.

Not a hobby.  Just stupid.

It’s a bad combination.  Divorce laws were pretty much tailored for women in her situation.  I got through it relatively well.  No alimony and just child support.  It could have been a lot worse.  Live and learn.

 

I bathe in the tears of single moms.

[sidecarParticipant 35837]

uchibenkei wrote:

F~~~ Jesus. I’m not asking for any tears.

It’s just an expression. Basically means: “The f~~~ did you get yourself into?”

It could have been a lot worse.

You have no idea. No offense to any Canadians here, but f~~~ Canada. Family courts in the states see men as a utility to be consumed. Family courts in Canada see men as the enemy. I hope you realize you’re one of the lucky ones.

[uchibenkeiParticipant 7965]

my bad.  i thought it was a “oh poor baby” meaning.  i understand now.  thanks for the advice everyone.  i’ll have to learn to keep my mouth shut.

I bathe in the tears of single moms.

[KeymasterKeymaster]

uchibenkei wrote:

i’ll have to learn to keep my mouth shut.

Tell me about it. I still need to tell myself “DONT REPLY!!! DONT REPLY!!!!”

When you succeed in actually doing it…. tell me how.

If you keep doing what you've always done... you're gonna keep getting what you always got.

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