Ex Girlfriend's Mother and MGTOW Maturity

[FermatParticipant 3478]

Greetings all, for those of you who do not know, I recently separated from ex girlfriend after realizing romantic relationships are the antithesis to happiness, and thus, have cut all contact from her for the past 2 months. Not a single word. Best decision of my life. I was attending a church event last week and low behold, my ex’s mother was there and we got to talking. I tried to keep the conversation brief so I could go about my business, however, she started asking, “Fermat, why don’t you talk to ____, anymore? I know you’re not dating anymore, but you guys were so close. She’s graduating from college and you always encouraged her. Why won’t you speak to her? ”

I could have gone a red pill diatribe of how the relationship had a negative impact on me, but instead of showing emotion, anger, or resentment, I simply told her one word. “Life happened.” I turned my head and started to leave but she wasn’t having it. She then started a sermon on how immature I was for ignoring her daughter and not supporting her during this “important” transition in her life. She said it was polite to at least say hi to her whenever I see her and that I should often encourage her as she joins the real world. She went on and on and on for 20 minutes, lecturing me while I just sat there staring her. I am Nigerian, in our culture we don’t disrespect our elders, so instead of talking back, I sat quietly nodding every time she asked if I understood what she was saying.  When she finished, I simply got up and sat somewhere else. This p~~~ed her off and she made a sour face at me. But guess what: I didn’t care! It felt amazing! As a MGHOW, I have realized you no longer have to care about the feelings of strangers or how they think you should run your life. Women truly cannot handle being ignored. I wasn’t being disrespectful, I didn’t insult her, or spill my emotional guts out. I JUST LEFT!  A small victory for me, but the start of something great.

KeyMaster is absolutely correct. When dealing with women, do not insult them or try to physically abuse them. Ignore them. You can only win! You don’t give them ammo. You don’t pay them mind. They have literally nothing on you. It is absolutely freeing to just walk way from people that don’t matter to your own success. I blue pill me would have cared and would have tried to emotionally please my ex’s mother, but now that I’m going my own way, I COULD NOT BE HAPPIER!!

Jut thought I’d share.

I have discovered a truly remarkable list of reasons why women are not necessary for a happy life, but alas this margin is too small to contain it.

[SMADParticipant 651]

Fermat wrote:

When dealing with women, do not insult them or try to physically abuse them. Ignore them. You can only win! You don’t give them ammo. You don’t pay them mind. They have literally nothing on you. It is absolutely freeing to just walk way from people that don’t matter to your own success

This, my friend, is the wonderful skill of “stone walling.”

Think of ANY time were YOU talked at length about something (especially something you are passionate about, say a hobby, etc) and then remember that sometimes, people simply aren’t interested.  That feeling where you just spent half an hour showing your passion and went into “chatty mode” and then…they give vague responses and pretty much ignore you?  That feeling sucks, doesn’t it?

Now, cross this over to ignoring WOMEN.  Imagine THEIR frustration amplified many times.

The best part is that it costs you ZERO effort or energy.  Much more satisfying than flying into a berserk rage or trying to “get even.”

 

Marriage?  No thanks, i'm not ready to be THAT miserable.

[Soldier-MedicParticipant 2566]

Thank you for sharing.  I sounds as though you are on the path to inner strength and peace.

"I asked you a question. I didn't ask you to repeat what the voices in you head are telling you" ~ Me. ........Yes I'm still angry.

[sidecarParticipant 35837]

Fermat wrote:

I could have gone a red pill diatribe of how the relationship had a negative impact on me, but instead of showing emotion, anger, or resentment, I simply told her one word. “Life happened.”

You missed an opportunity for a little mischief there.

You could have told her something like: “You shouldn’t be asking me that. There are certain things about your daughter that you really don’t want to know about her. I wish I didn’t. That’s why I don’t see her any more. I don’t think you want that for yourself.” Then walk away and if she persists just cut her off with: “That’s between you and your daughter.”

Drive a wedge. Plant a seed. Let it grow.

And technically you will have spoken the truth.

Still, you did the right thing. You don’t owe that woman anything, and whatever she thinks of you doesn’t matter.

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