Ex engaged

[JackpineParticipant 283]

I knew this day was coming as she needs someone to provide for her and she latched onto him. I feel bad for this guy as I knew him for many years and he’s good guy. He’s in for some f~~~ing rough times though. We were married for 28 years (F~~~ me!) and she’s engaged 2 1/2 years after our divorce. Like I said, she needs someone to take care of her. What p~~~ed me off is I had to hear about it from my mom instead of my kids. I’m sure she told them but neither of them were strong enough to let me know. I guess I’m just venting here but I thought I raised them to be men enough to deal the dirt even when it’s tough. Oh well. MGTOW is far better than what that poor bastard has ahead of him. Thanks for listening.

[CombatRollParticipant 2594]

Congrats!!! Were you paying alimony?

[JackpineParticipant 283]

I am paying alimony. I’m checking with my lawyer now to see if it will end when they marry. The way this s~~~ show is going though, I’d guess I’ll have to pay the f~~~ers all the way through.

[bladeParticipant]

Jackpine wrote:

I feel bad for this guy as I knew him for many years and he’s good guy

F~~~ this orbiter don’t feal bad for him . If the ex has a problem with you i bet he will to .

THE PLANTATION HAS NOW TURNED INTO THE KILLING FIELDS . WOMAN ARE NOW ROLLING CAMBODIAN STYLE .

[UntamedParticipant]

I can understand you’re disappointed with your boys, but put yourself in their shoes. They have to deal with her every day.
But what does it matter to you what she does with whom?
Let her go, completely.
Forget her even, if at all possible.
But as long as you have thoughts of her, regardless of which, her and her idiocies will continue to haunt you.

Thanks for sharing.

Don't let them Blame, Shame or Tame you!
Give 'em NOTHING, not even an answer!
#GenderSegragationNow!

[Anonymous 18]

After being with a woman for that long it’s hard to imagine her being pounded by another dude.

That has to leave a few bruises on a man’s ego. But I rather have you acknowledge that fact that a part of you will be affected by her actions.

You invested in her at one point.

Take a few steps back and make it impersonal. At least take it less personally.

A woman’s biological imperative to secure resources by servicing man’s c~~~.

On the upside every woman out there functions on this imperative.

My guess is that your pain comes from your investment in her rather than what she deserved to be invested in.

You raised her value in your mind. Because you value yourself.

Her actions or inactions never should reflect on your value as a man.

Some guy bought a used car you once owned from the lot. Why you care?

[Two Time WinnerParticipant 1090]

I have been there too. It is hard to explain the feelings that come from having your ex remarry. It is mixed up as you don’t want the bitch but don’t want anyone else to have her either, some strange form of jealousy.

This is an entirely normal feeling and will pass with time. We often have selective memory and remember the good times and forget the bad when thinking about a former spouse. One way is to move on is to focus on what is causing the pain, embrace it and then consciously let the pain go. Feel it leaving your body and going out. After a while there is no pain left. This may be too touchy, freely for you but it worked for me.

TTW

I ain't got a wife to spend my money, I have to do that all by myself.

[CarnageParticipant 22113]

Hey jack congratulations mate.
Now that thing is another men problem.
And you might be free of alimony, f~~~ men buy the lottery this is your lucky month bro.

To those following me, be careful, I just farted. Men those beans are killers.

[Anonymous 0]

I have discovered that in many ways my good old fashion mother can be a complete c~~~. That being said she’s my mum and I don’t want anyone bad mouthing or messing with her. Your kids feel the same way, whatever she’s has done to you, she is still their mum. Sorry to say you’re gonna need to cut them a little slack.
Try to remember that while she is your ex, she is also the mother of people you care about.

With regards the new fella, he knew she had left an ex in her wake so he’s had all the warning he needs.

None the less it’s freedom from her and hopefully freedom from alimony. Good luck bro.

[TBL225Participant 168]

I’d also like to add that it’s most likely an innocent reason the kids feel the way they do. For all you know she’s been brainwashing them since before the divorce, during, and after. They’ll figure it out eventually.

[MonkParticipant 16995]

Jackpine wrote:

I feel bad for this guy as I knew him for many years and he’s good guy.

Caveat emptor.

He can’t say that he didn’t know the score.

[Solo MAN’S WisdomParticipant]

On one hand “he’s a good guy” looking after your kids.

On the other hand “he’s a good guy” about to get ass f~~~ed by your ex wife. Be there for him when it all goes to s~~~. And it will.

When women lead, destruction is the destination. -- Me.

[JackpineParticipant 283]

You f~~~ers made my day! So much good in this.

My boys are men now so I like to think they don’t get brainwashed by her but again, who knows. They’re young and haven’t seen how women work, even their mother. I get along with them (sons) great so who cares I guess. If you can sit down and drink a beer with your kids, watch a ball game and laugh, I think that’s a victory.

As for the dude, you’re all correct. I just needed to hear it I guess. He’ll find out. Maybe it will work for them both. Who knows. Not my problem.

You glorious bastards made my day though. I had to laugh at a lot of the posts and think a lot about others. Thanks MGTOW.

[KeymasterKeymaster]

Jackpine wrote:

married for 28 years (F~~~ me!) and she’s engaged 2 1/2 years after our divorce

I find it quite creepy when an ex marries the very next guy. Its’ like telling the world she doesn’t give a s~~~ WHO he is .

I could have married at least 5 times, and at least 3 of them married THE VERY NEXT ONE. Women are not very selective. In all my travels, I never met ONE I was willing to wife up or consider a suitable mother “for our kids”…. but they would have married me if I fell to my knees… and then they marry the NEXT one?

Then one day I saw this cartoon on youtube… and I fell back in my chair. It all made sense.

Women are surprisingly not very discerning.

If you keep doing what you've always done... you're gonna keep getting what you always got.

[AwakenedParticipant 35202]

Two Time Winner wrote:

I have been there too. It is hard to explain the feelings that come from having your ex remarry. It is mixed up as you don’t want the bitch but don’t want anyone else to have her either, some strange form of jealousy.

Personally, I would LAUGH MY ASS OFF !!

Good Riddance to Yesterday’s Nightmare !!

In a World of Justin Beibers Be a Johnny Cash

[Anonymous 1]

do remarried womwn still get alimony then ? as it would make sense to get married five times and get five lots of alimony nice earner.

[AstroParticipant 2045]

Keymaster wrote:

Then one day I saw this cartoon on youtube… and I fell back in my chair. It all made sense.

KM. With all due respect, I think you know that isn’t how it usually ends. Somewhere after 2:00, she will want to move up to a “better man”. It often seems to happen after she has one or more children, especially if her simp has a few bucks. The wedding vow of “Until death do you part” has been written in dog poo for the last 50 years.
You know perhaps better than I that a woman staying with one man to the grave has become very rare and a happy lifetime for both in marriage, nearly extinct.

[IRuleMeParticipant]

Keymaster wrote:

Jackpine wrote:

married for 28 years (F~~~ me!) and she’s engaged 2 1/2 years after our divorce

I find it quite creepy when an ex marries the very next guy. Its’ like telling the world she doesn’t give a s~~~ WHO he is .

I could have married at least 5 times, and at least 3 of them married THE VERY NEXT ONE. Women are not very selective. In all my travels, I never met ONE I was willing to wife up or consider a suitable mother “for our kids”…. but they would have married me if I fell to my knees… and then they marry the NEXT one?

Then one day I saw this cartoon on youtube… and I fell back in my chair. It all made sense.

Women are surprisingly not very discerning.

Women LOVE to get married. It’s a dream for them since they were a child. The pageantry.. The glamour… It’s all about them for the entire process. Planning the wedding, wearing the dress, walking down the isle, having all the attention… So in their minds, if they can have “THAT DAY” more than once, why the f~~~ not? No incentive to stay married when they can split from their husband and get the next guy to pay for another wedding.

[Point Of No ReturnParticipant 4074]

I don’t know if and when I too may have to go through these weird sentiments. I certainly understand how ambiguous one can feel especially with kids involved. I too would expect my kids to give me a heads up.

Know when it is your duty to give them zero explanations for your actions.

[NoMoreParticipant 1233]

Anonymous wrote:

do remarried womwn still get alimony then ? as it would make sense to get married five times and get five lots of alimony nice earner.

In my state, you can file with the court to terminate alimony once the ex moves in with a boyfriend or he moves in with her.

One of the doctors I work with divorced his wife of many years. He got screwed, having to give her the house and pay her about 10k a month in alimony for the rest of his/her life. He says he’s going to have to work until he dies, because if he retires, most of his retirement income will go to her.

Alimony in the early and mid 20th century made sense. Back then, a newly divorced woman could become destitute without the husband’s income. Now, after the increase in women in high paying jobs, this is less likely to be the case. Will there be an adjustment, yes, but hardly having to live on the streets.

Unfortunately, the concept of alimony persists with it being subverted into a threat or a punishment. Yes, there are cases where alimony is appropriate, just as there cases where it is not. To often it is used as a punishment for a man divorcing his wife. Who hasn’t had the STBxW yell at you that she’s, “going to take you for everything you’ve got and make you pay!”? Who hasn’t seen the legal system punish a guy for being successful and divorcing his wife? I understand if the wife significantly contributed to the husband’s success. Too many times it’s the situation where he was already successful and she wants as big of a golden parachute as she can squeeze out of the court. She’ll demand as much money from you as she can get and for you to get as little time with the kids.

In my case, I offered her over 100k in a lump sum, which was well over half our assets. No deal. She wants to get as much alimony she can get on top of over half the value of our assets, to in her own words,”make me pay for this!”

I remember vividly a ‘conversation’ we had when she asked me, “Why aren’t all of the things [she] did worth so much more than half of everything?” I replied, “So why are all the things I did worth so much less than half of everything?” Needless to say, she started cursing at me again. To her, I was nothing more than an ATM, one in which she was going to extract as much money from as she could.

Thankfully, my state has put out some guidelines regarding alimony that have greatly tempered its use as a punishment.

I look forward to sharing the outcome with everyone when this is concluded.

A co-worker recently told me, "If you want to see who someone really is, divorce them." I have found out how true this is. When your wife drops the façade of being the caring partner, you will witness all of the greed, hate, and spite that she has masked. It is truly breathtaking!

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