Ex charged me with assault today

[Anonymous 7]

Monk wrote:

I have actually been a monk (not Christian), and can say that the experience of living in a community from which females are excluded (or in which what little contact there is, is tightly controlled), is liberating.

I am not a monk but I live alone and work from home.
I rarely go out except to grocery shop and ride my hog.

What this means is I have very little (almost no) interactions with females. Especially after I c~~~ punted c~~~ relatives (male and female).

And you are right, it is liberating.
If you have been a for realz monk (not a facsimile monk like me), I hope you do share your experience with us.

[AutoliteParticipant]

Monk wrote:

In the city or in the sticks, I see no reason why not. It could take any form. Several, if there were more than one such.

Either/or. Wherever they can make it affordable. It would have appeal to single guys who would be unable to afford a home or property of their own. Probably mostly young guys just starting out, divorcees and/or single retirees.

Monk wrote:

Of course, a certain amount of legal jiggery-pokery would be necessary to ensure that the inevitable claims of sexual discrimination could be deflected.

I can’t see there being any problem if the residence is privately owned. I mean there are, or have been, ‘men only’ hotels…right???

[markParticipant 451]

Monk wrote:

In that sort of situation, a bodycam (preferably concealed) should be SOP.

Concealed = “Judge, he recorded me on my privacy without my permission”
Judge = “Yup, we will not admit that tape. And by the way, add another life sentence”.

[Jan SobieskiParticipant 28791]

Get a good lawyer.

Love is just alimony waiting to happen. Visit mgtow.com.

[DiogenesParticipant 373]

Anonymous wrote:

I asked for a court order for the hand off place to be at a police station. I arrived first and I left first. I made it clear to the officers there why I was there, and what kind of person the c~~~ was. A couple times the c~~~ gave me trouble even in the station, and the cops held her back so I could leave.

Next meeting place was a McDonalds, lots of people, lots of cameras. She still tried to run me over three times, with our kids in the car.

The one time she came to my place to pick up the kids, she put the kids in the car, came back to my door, tried to force her way in, smacked me in the head with the door, and she had a long kitchen knife, tried cutting me through the opening in the door and finally I closed the door, she stabbed the door with the knife, the point came through the door. I bent the knife from the inside and called the police.

I bought two things the next day. A new door, and a gun. I presented the police report, pictures and receipt for the door. The judge disallowed all of that as irrelevant to our divorce. She refused to listen and I was threatened with contempt if I spoke another word about that. Thank you Judge F~~~wit.

Best thing was to move 900 miles away. No knives, no s~~~ vortex, no drama. Blessed peace.

Yeah. BPD. Very familiar with it. I read a comment by a guy once that I still remember: “BDP may be a mental illness, but it is one mean mf-ing form of one”. The only thing you can do is put as much deep blue water between yourself and her as possible and stay alert.

[DorkShitParticipant 4353]

Problem is that this path leads to supervised visits and overview to watch you, control you.

Us that have been through it cannot adequately prepare other men.

This is why I cut my ex and child out of my life until he was 19.

I get the fact that a man loves his children. Duh, I loved my son. But reality is reality. One call to authorities is a fact.

Can any man live with that sword hanging over his head?

One time. Two times. Three times. It will not end well.

You will now have post traumatic stress disorder symptoms. Welcome to the world of anxiety. Bitches.

Peace brothers

[IRuleMeParticipant]

Monk wrote:

Keymaster wrote:

Because I know what these insane lying bitches are capable of.

This cannot be stated often enough.

Know your enemy. Appreciate that their hate and spite knows no bounds. Plan accordingly.

[joetechParticipant]

You may want to look up The Lighthouse project. They help men who have been falsely accused of assault. Good luck, bro.

"Don't follow in my footsteps...I stepped in something."

[Prefer Peace to PieceParticipant 10809]

I’m so sorry about this.

As others have said, don’t move, don’t breathe without legal advice.

Can your attorney file suit against her?

Find out the legalities of audio/video recording in your area.

Her move is predictable. Expect her to use the kids against you.

Stay far away from this bitch. Good luck brother. Things should work out ok, you just have to get through the hassle.
I personally would sue her sorry butt into the next century.

[AutoliteParticipant]

Prefer Peace to Piece wrote:

I personally would sue her sorry butt into the next century.

I’m not sure that I understand your reasoning. The police, the judges, the courts, the lawyers, the system, it’s all dysfunctional and corrupt. I see no reason to think that there’s any chance for justice.

As MGTOWs we should be advocating absolute ZERO social interaction with females. It’s going to be up to us to protect ourselves. The ‘system’ is broken. The ‘system’ is beyond repair. The ‘system’ cannot be trusted…

[foghornleghornParticipant 3449]

Autolite wrote:

As MGTOWs we should be advocating absolute ZERO social interaction with females.

Ideally yes. But in a world where over 50% of the population if female it is hardly realistic. Especially if you are a MGTOW who also is working in any sort of environment that isn’t your own choosing or making.

[AutoliteParticipant]

foghornleghorn wrote:

Especially if you are a MGTOW who also is working in any sort of environment that isn’t your own choosing or making.

Indeed, but I was taking about social interaction. Absolute avoidance would be near impossible…

[Jan SobieskiParticipant 28791]

Sent pm.

Love is just alimony waiting to happen. Visit mgtow.com.

[phoenixgod1995Participant 3352]

All it takes is one falso claim from a woman and you are done for. There is a reason why women abuse the system!

Marriage and Divorce for a man is like getting a cactus shoved up your ass. It’s painful with all the spines that go in and it is painful getting all the spines out, meanwhile Wifey gets most of the money, your home, your kids, and practically everything you own.

[OneLaneOnlyPlsParticipant 1747]

Sorry to hear you are going thru this Billy.

I went thru similar situation few years ago, although no kids. She came at me for my car keys, the same car she had been using to cheat with a drug dealer. I went outside with her beating me, so that others could see. She called the cops at this point. I was pretty scared.

She told the cops that I assaulted her. I told both cops that I had not laid a finger on her, that she had assaulted me. I also explained to them about the car. She got nothing. I lived away for 2 weeks, until she got her stuff out of there.

Billy, she has and will always use those kids as a weapon. My best friend is going thru the exact same situation as you right now. As long as you are in direct contact with her in future, this can, and will continue to happen.

[~BSParticipant 3266]

Sorry to say bro, but you’re getting hit with classic female manipulation techniques, and things will likely get much worse for you before getting better. The assault charges are going to hang over your head, always. So if they’re still pending, you need to get a good attorney and fight it, even at high cost to yourself. Criminal charges stays with you, and will negatively affect your life, whether custody of your kids, divorce, jobs, etc.

As far as if you assaulted her or not, I’m guessing it went something like this. She p~~~ed you off, possibly was hitting you until you were provoked to response, at which point, she cried wolf, and got you arrested. Again, classic female tactic. Women are extremely good at provoking men, and prompting responses, which is what they are looking for. Don’t let her provoke you to response. Try to limit interactions with her from now on without an unbiased 3rd party individual. You may want to look at documenting any and all interaction with her in the future. Such a log may be helpful if she tries to go back and claim you assaulted her or something a few weeks back.

I sincerely hope you pull through this, and feel free to use these forums to vent or get advice.

"He didn't marry until now, so he won't ever do it. Think about it, why would a man like him ever marry? It's too late to catch him. " ~some cunt

[Ranger OneParticipant 16836]

Autolite wrote:

Prefer Peace to Piece wrote:

I personally would sue her sorry butt into the next century.

I’m not sure that I understand your reasoning. The police, the judges, the courts, the lawyers, the system, it’s all dysfunctional and corrupt. I see no reason to think that there’s any chance for justice.

As MGTOWs we should be advocating absolute ZERO social interaction with females. It’s going to be up to us to protect ourselves. The ‘system’ is broken. The ‘system’ is beyond repair. The ‘system’ cannot be trusted…

The system is beyond corrupt; it is evil.

If I heard a rumor that a terrorist was going to level a courthouse on a particular day, I wouldn’t “say something”. I’d pop some popcorn, melt some butter, and await the boom.

All my life I've had doubts about who I am, where I belonged. Now I'm like the arrow that springs from the bow. No hesitation, no doubts. The path is clear. And what are you? Alive. Everything else is negotiable. Women have rights; men have responsibilities; MGTOW have freedom. Marriage is for chumps. If someone stands in the way of true justice, you simply walk up behind them and stab them in the heart-R'as al Ghul.

[MemberParticipant 323]

It is tough to avoid conflict when you have kids with that type of woman. I assume you will want to continue contact with the kids so you can’t just up and leave the area permanently. A few suggestions….

– Public place drop offs are good but if she is truly a nut job she will find a way to still provoke you. If you pick a place like Mcdonalds make sure you get the kids INSIDE the building. Park on the opposite side of the building from her. When you get the kids in hand make sure you don’t loiter…get them and go immediately to the car and leave the premises. The longer you stay the more likely she will follow you out to the car to argue or worse. The car is a blind spot to everyone else so this is where she will likely try to hit you or something else. Remember its her word against yours if there are no witnesses.
– Make it clear that you do not want her to stop at your house for any reason and don’t let her make an excuse that you should stop by her place. The tricky ones will find all sorts of elaborate schemes to get you in a compromised position where they can argue, threaten, abuse and you are at their mercy.
– Hopefully you can get this DV accusation overturned. If so thank God for it and remember not to let it happen again…..she WANTS you to get p~~~ed off and react to her. Don’t let them tell you its no big deal…in some states a DV charge will cause all kinds of grief with employers etc so make sure your lawyer knows you want OUT of this any way possibly with nothing on your record.

What you said about the Tin Foil hats is interesting. I think so many people think these stories on here are make believe. I can assure you that most if not all of these horror stories of dealing with a crazy ex are spot on. It is hard to fathom these people exist until you are the subject of their focus.

Read the forums and learn as quickly as you can. Stay away from her and don’t take the bait when she comes looking for a fight….don’t answer phone calls about non kid related stuff…make her leave messages. Take care of the kids and yourself. F~~~ her and everything she ever was to you. That time is over now.

Good luck sir.

[SRV StratParticipant 138]

The bar for what is considered “assault” for a man is pathetically low. I’ve only told this story a handful of times because of how ashamed I was of how I acted back then.

It was 1997 and I had knocked up my girlfriend at the time. Her family, nutty religious cult types, black mailed her to move to New York with them. I followed because I was determined to be a part of my child’s life. When I got out there her mother insisted we all go to counselling. I agreed because I felt like I had no choice. In these sessions I learned what is considered “assault” for men according to the state of New York. Refusing to give your lady your paycheck when she demands it. Refusing to give her your car keys when she demands them. Leaving during an argument to defuse a situation. Raising your voice during an argument. Refusing to talk during an argument. Refusing to do “honey-do lists.” Showing any type of frustration or anger. the list goes on and on. When I asked if it’s assault if a woman does these things top her man, I was told it’s not. As women have “historically” been the “abused sex” by men, they can’t be held to the same standard.

Needless to say that relationship ended due to her constant cheating and interference of her family. The reason I shared that story is to show you guys, especially the young ones who haven’t had the life experience yet, that you are ALWAYS the bad guy in a relationship. You will never get the benefit of the doubt. Not even from family or friends in most cases. If she cheats, it’s your fault for not keeping her happy. If she is physically abusive, you’ll be called a lair until you have rock solid proof. And even then it’s your fault for not picking better women, and/or “making her hit you.” Any accusation leveled at you, and you will quickly find out that you are guilty until proven innocent. And the standards you have to meet to prove you are innocent are ridiculously high.

The system is set up for you to fail. Psychiatrists, lawyers, judges and other state or local employees aren’t there to help you. They are there to trap you and help women get the most out of you, all while making sure they get their cut. The best advice anyone can give you is to stay away as much as possible. I know it’s hard when you’re young. Your hormones are raging and the very thought of pussy will make you do dumb s~~~. But the sooner you realize that most women view sex as a way to control and blackmail you, the better off you’ll be. Buy a Fleshlight. Be the master of your own domain. You can’t lose the game if you don’t play.

And above all else, remember that your are not special. You have no magical protection that other men don’t. On a long enough timeline you will meet the vile c~~~ who is there solely to destroy your life.And when that happens, you’re going to find yourself staring in the mirror, like I did after that clusterf~~~ of a relationship, and asking yourself what the f~~~ is wrong with you. Why did you let this happen? The answer you will come to is that you got c~~~y and let your guard down. You thought all the horror stories you’ve heard only happen to other men, not you. And when you realize that, you better hope you aren’t married with kids. Because if you are, brother, lube up your asshole and learn to love the long, hard dick of divorce and family court.

Learn from other’s mistakes.

Teach a man to fish and he will eat for a lifetime. Teach a feminist to fish and she will accuse you of patronizing her, claim she knew how to do it anyway and that even if she didn't, she could easily work it out without the help of a man.

[QuietlyquietlyParticipant 728]

To the OP, Billy:

Exactly this happened to me: she assaulted me, I called the police, she rang her lawyer (in front of me) who advised her to lie and say it was me. The police arrested me, I got charged and banned from my own home and kids. At Christmas.

This is my advice: BODYCAM. CAR CAM. HOUSE CAM.

This is the ONLY way you can protect yourself. Literally the only way. There are no other reliable witnesses, she will lie, and get all her family and friends to lie too (in my case, she managed to get her sister to outright lie that she had witnessed me hurt my kids, when she wasn’t even there).

Seriously dude, spend the $300-$400 to get equipped, it is the same price as a single hour with a defense attorney, and will save you $100,000 and a criminal record. DO IT. DO IT NOW. RIGHT NOW.

F~~~, if I can help one guy to avoid what I went through, my ride through hell was worth it. Peace out.

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