Emotionally abusive. Oh the irony!

[inneedoftruthParticipant 94]

So over the last 6 months since my soon to be ex wife told me she wanted a divorce, my lawyer and I have been pretty stumped as to why she seems determined for a trial. She has nothing, she can argue nothing and we’ve made more than reasonable offers. There have been signs she was going to use her being “emotionally abused” to justify not paying alimony, getting custody, etc.etc. (Yes, I know me asking for Alimony p~~~es some of you off on here. I don’t give a f~~~. I wasn’t some fat stay at home slob. I spent years both watching the kids AND working night shifts, sleeping 3 or 4 s~~~ty hours a day and working graveyards in some s~~~ factory while she went to school to get her doctorate. And 2 of the kids were from her previous marriage.) Well we got confirmation today that that will be her argument to the female judge who just looks at me like she wants me to know she doesn’t like me. I’ve also heard she has told friends of ours that I was controlling and emotionally abusive. Keep in mind, she’s a psychologist so her word seems to have weight which explains why so many friends stayed loyal to her…

Here is what irks me the most! She can make this crap up, use it in court, and as an expert on the subject and someone who has testified in family court many times, it scares me to death that she will pull it off..
Emotionally abusive?? You want to know what’s emotionally abusive? Having an affair with your husbands best friend, then blindsiding your husband one day, lie to him for weeks about the reasons you’re leaving “There’s no one else” “i’ve never been independent, I just want to be by myself” etc.etc.etc.” Then be so careless about it you sit around on facetime a couple weeks later at night, talking to him, and let my son over hear you guys saying how you were “meant to be together forever” which then makes my son grab his phone in a panic and tell me he heard his mom and my friend! Yeah, let me get word of it from my son! Awesome! Leave me physically destroyed, heartbroken, financially broke, living at my mom’s for 6 months while you and he go on your 3rd vacation of the year! I sat up at nights for months contemplating ending, I know I have ptsd, I feel like a shell of myself..

And I can’t mention of f~~~ing word about her “emotional abuse” in doing this.

End rant!

[Big BossParticipant 4496]

inneedoftruth wrote:

Yes, I know me asking for Alimony p~~~es some of you off on here.

lol f~~~ that, take her to the cleaners. Then after you do, ask for a blow job to make you consider reducing the payments. When she shows up at the front door, tell her you changed her mind and sorry for making her drive all that way for nothing.

[Puffin StuffParticipant 24979]

Secretly get a restraining order then tell her she should come over and give you a blow job.

Then call the cops and get her arrested for violating the TRO.

Get on with your own life. F~~~ her, she’s dead to you.

#icethemout; Remember Thomas Ball. He died for your children.

[ABParticipant 762]

inneedoftruth wrote:

it scares me to death that she will pull it off..

I hear your fear on that brother – been through the court systems myself over my kid, and I was convinced I would lose simply because I wasn’t born with a vagina. Preparation is key. The best advice will always be:

It’s not what you know, it’s what you can prove in court.

I hung, drew and quartered my ex in court – my case was watertight. If you can, try to bring her honesty into disrepute, trap her in a lie which will give you the edge legally. I caught my ex out with a recording that I got without her permission in a private residence where I was verbally abused and threatened with physical assault. Her family goaded me and mocked me, called me a sperm donor, that I would never see my kid ever again etc etc. I got it all recorded on my phone. She never knew about it until it was presented in my court statement (which she doesn’t get a copy off until she has submitted her own meaning it wouldn’t influence her own statement). As such her only rebuttal on the day was “it’s inadmissible because it was recorded without permission and no it’s never happened”. I followed up with a transcript of the dialogue and she was challenged on the validity of it – knowing full well that if she denied it and they checked the audio recording to confirm, she would be charged with committing perjury. As a result she had to backtrack and admit it had happened. Checkmate. They couldn’t trust her after that, and it showed. Nothing she accused could be taken at face value.

Have faith, deep breaths, understand your position inside out and have all your angles planned in advance. You know how she is coming at you – that’s powerful knowledge if you can use it to your advantage.

I wish you all the best brother, stay strong.

No-one's yet explained to me exactly what's so great // About slaving fifty years away on something that you hate // About meekly shuffling down the path of mediocrity // Well if that's your road then take it, but it's not the road for me.

[joetechParticipant]

I don’t think any less of a man who seeks equality under the law. Why shouldn’t you seek alimony if you deserve it? Joan Lunden’s husband did, and the women were the ones who bitched about it. Get everything you’re entitled to. She would!

"Don't follow in my footsteps...I stepped in something."

[bigboy83Participant 11312]

You wonder what women will do, when they run out of everyone elses money?

Scream, Victim, most likely.

Shit Tested, Cunt Approved.

[surfdude12Participant 4103]

inneedoftruth wrote:

Here is what irks me the most! She can make this crap up, use it in court, and as an expert on the subject and someone who has testified in family court many times, it scares me to death that she will pull it off..

If she is an “expert” who has been an expert witness in several family law cases, have your attorney pull all her testimony transcripts from those cases and FIND ERRORS, INCONSISTENCIES, ETC in her testimony. Especially look for anti-male bias. Did she say someone was undergoing “emotional abuse” without any evidence? Etc etc. Then when she goes to testify in your case as an “expert”, your attorney has the right to INTERROGATE her on her previous testimony errors. Also have your attorney make the obvious BIAS argument, i.e. “isn’t one of your duties as an expert to be fair and impartial when assessing a case? can you honestly be fair and impartial when assessing YOUR OWN CASE? So I don’t get it – are you testifying as an expert or not? If you are, you’ve already violated your ethical duty as an expert”

[Old RottweilerParticipant 1520]

Get everything you can. You have been used and abused. Making her pay might make some other woman have second thoughts.

Sometimes is it right to get payback. Make her pay.

[ScarberianMPTGLParticipant 3286]

If the judge doesn’t like him he’s f~~~ed anyway. Try and get a different judge first, if you can.

I, Lelouch Vi Britannia, command you, all of you, to Go Your Own Way!!

[AttonParticipant]

You played the game and it will play you.

A MGTOW is a man who is not a woman's bitch!

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