Emancipation Day Has Arrived

[BarnstormerParticipant 190]

Gentlemen. The long awaited date arrived this week!! My son turned 23. Here in Massachusetts, child support is paid until age 23 if kid is full time student, which he is. This is certainly a milestone and my financial situation should improve. For the past 10 years, I have been paying around $2250 per month. This was broken down as:

1. $250 payments to ex every two weeks.
2. $1700 monthly mortgage for the house that I built, but she stole as part of the divorce rape.

So currently, I have sent her the last check, and so my cash flow will improve by over $500 per month. This is awesome; however, here is my new dilemma:

The bitch has not complied with divorce agreement to either sell or refinance the house when son graduated high school. I let it slide only because I was going to have to pay child support no matter what and at least I could deduct mortgage interest and taxes. Unfortunately, alimony is still on the table, and I have no idea, given all circumstances, how the court would award it to her should she pursue it. I figure I have (2) choices right now:

1. Take her to court and file for contempt since she has not complied with agreement. This would force her to sell or refinance and I would collect $15K in equity from house, which is all I have in it. Cupcake has around $300K in equity.
2. Make her an offer something like this: I will continue to pay the mortgage for another 12 months so she can get her s~~~ together and sell the house. I will forgive the the $15K equity. So I would be agreeing to pay her around $35K post child support. I would require her to sign an agreement to permanently waive alimony.

I am tapping in to the knowledge and wisdom of fellow MGTOW brothers and I would appreciate any thoughts or suggestions.I believe I currently have some leverage . My overall objective is to be 100% done with the divorce rape process and 100% done with the c~~~, who was the biggest mistake I ever made. I seek final freedom from this ball and chain and can taste it like driving through the country side with the windows down.

She actually tried to monkey branch back to me earlier this year saying “I always loved you and always thought we would get back together.” My introduction tells the whole story of lessons learned.

But I am hard core red pill and would never revert to that blue pill nightmare with a pyscho c~~~ ex-wife who hit the wall. My life is in order, I have recovered things I lost – I have a house and all I need. I am working on retirement and I my plan is in good shape for being 57.

Cheers!

If you're going through hell, keep going.

[ghostParticipant]

Very happy to hear this. Proud of you, pal.

Women are nothing but trouble. Stay away.

[UntamedParticipant]

Congratulations! Sit back and have a drink, you’ve earned it!

Barnstormer wrote:

2. Make her an offer something like this: I will continue to pay the mortgage for another 12 months so she can get her s~~~ together and sell th

I wouldn’t f~~~ing do that. No way in hell I’d leave 35k for her blue eyes. You’re a nicer man than I am!
I’d drag her miserable ass in court for contempt and whatever else she slipped out on, but that’s just me. You’re in the situation so you know better. Just remember no good deed goes unpunished.
Cheers

Don't let them Blame, Shame or Tame you!
Give 'em NOTHING, not even an answer!
#GenderSegragationNow!

[BarnstormerParticipant 190]

Untamed – Thanks. That is good advice. I need a slap once in awhile to wake up!

If you're going through hell, keep going.

[GnosticParticipant 2491]

What’s stopping her after reaping the extra benefit you granted her then file for alimony?

“Your honor, I sign the agreement under duress. He threaten me”

There is no magic in MGTOW, just recognition of the truth and logical decision how to avoid dangers. The red pill is but the truth, it is no magical potion. Do not think in this modern world men have no longer have natural enemies, men are prey to women and government.

[It’sallbsParticipant]

option 1

http://www.leavemeansleave.eu

[BarnstormerParticipant 190]

Gnostic wrote:

What’s stopping her after reaping the extra benefit you granted her then file for alimony?

“Your honor, I sign the agreement under duress. He threaten me”

Gnostic – I consulted with an attorney who said such an agreement would be legal and enforceable. If she does pursue alimony, it could end up costing me much more that $35K. Massachusetts sucks. Since I was married for 18 years, the alimony guidelines set the max years at 80% of marriage or 15 years. What I do not know is how the court would view the 10 years I paid child support to her. Does this mean I could be on the hook for 5 years of alimony or does it mean that would have to pay 10 years until full retirement age at 67? I fear an additional rape could occur and should it happen, I will move out of state and go off the grid. I want to navigate this to conclusion and be done.

If you're going through hell, keep going.

[GnosticParticipant 2491]

Barnstormer wrote:

Gnostic wrote:

What’s stopping her after reaping the extra benefit you granted her then file for alimony?

“Your honor, I sign the agreement under duress. He threaten me”

Gnostic – I consulted with an attorney who said such an agreement would be legal and enforceable. If she does pursue alimony, it could end up costing me much more that $35K. Massachusetts sucks. Since I was married for 18 years, the alimony guidelines set the max years at 80% of marriage or 15 years. What I do not know is how the court would view the 10 years I paid child support to her. Does this mean I could be on the hook for 5 years of alimony or does it mean that would have to pay 10 years until full retirement age at 67? I fear an additional rape could occur and should it happen, I will move out of state and go off the grid. I want to navigate this to conclusion and be done.

I am not a lawyer nor am I familiar with Massachusetts divorce laws. So better take what I say with a grain of salt.

If you are willing to move to another state and go off grid will at least ensure you will escape if screw too hard.

You seems like having a good plan to retire at 57 even with the lost of $15K + $35K.
Compare that with the unknown legal fees and uncertain outcome of the court. I think it is better to have a know outcome rather then a unknown outcome. Who knows if the court case drags the legal fees may cost more then you gain.

You are doing it for yourself, you choose the best outcome for yourself. What’s the point of revenge if it make you become worst off? The best revenge is your ex see you better off without her. With option 2 you can cast away your ex like a bad habit, saving your mental and emotional health, not being reminded of her every alimony payment.

Be warned though. Since she tries to monkey branch back, she realize she f~~~ up and is better off with you. She may not allow you to break free so easily and may want alimony no other then the illogical feeling that she has still has some hold on you.

The person who ultimately decide is you, I just highlight certain risk, benefit and cost.

There is no magic in MGTOW, just recognition of the truth and logical decision how to avoid dangers. The red pill is but the truth, it is no magical potion. Do not think in this modern world men have no longer have natural enemies, men are prey to women and government.

[AttonParticipant]

I am pretty sure in the case of alimony moving around the country would kill her chances at alimony. Since moving state to state should would likely need to refile sending her backrupt. Else moving else where in the world might work. Since many countries don’t recognize alimony.

A MGTOW is a man who is not a woman's bitch!

[BarnstormerParticipant 190]

Gnostic wrote:

Be warned though. Since she tries to monkey branch back, she realize she f~~~ up and is better off with you. She may not allow you to break free so easily and may want alimony no other then the illogical feeling that she has still has some hold on you.

This is a very good point. With alimony, she would indeed think she still has some old on me. I am looking to break away completely and control my own destiny with no * attached.

If you're going through hell, keep going.

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