Hello gents,
I’m new to this site, and the entire idea of MGTOW, and MRM. For a long time now, since my first deployment to Iraq, I’ve known something was wrong with male-female relationships. I just couldn’t understand what it was. I couldn’t put my finger on it.
I started noticing relationships weren’t quite the things that Hollywood portrayed them to be when I was in the Marines, and my battalion deployed in January of 2003 to Kuwait, to stage for the invasion of Iraq that March. Several of my brothers in my company received Dear John letters from their wives or girlfriends in that first month. We hadn’t even invaded yet, we’d been deployed maybe a month at most, and my fellow Marine’s women were already abandoning their men, while they were half a world away waiting for the word that would send them to war. I remember the absolute astonishment and confusion I had about this phenomenon.
How could anybody do that to another person? That was certainly not the time, or the place for such a thing. Had these women waited until their apparently not-so-significant others were deployed and unable to interfere before they sprung a trap that they had pre-meditated? Had these women simply found out that life without their boyfriends or husbands was too much to bear all of a sudden? Were they running from the possibility that their boyfriends or husbands could be killed or crippled? I just couldn’t fathom that kind of selfishness, disloyalty or deceit coming from any of the men who got those kinds of letters.
Fast forward a decade, and after a few days reading this site and shrink4men.com and I’ve come to the conclusion that those kinds of letters should have been expected. They were inevitable. The man’s absence wasn’t benefiting the woman enough, even with the extra combat & hazardous duty pay, so the dependapotami were jumping ship left and right. My girlfriend was pregnant with my child while I was deployed, and others receiving those letters only increased my anxiety. She didn’t leave me though.
It never even crossed her mind, according to her. We are still together. I guess in some ways I got lucky and found a woman who hasn’t been completely corrupted by modern feminism. She’s far from perfect though, and our relationship is rocky at times. What I’m learning here, and what I’ve learned in the past couple days, particularly about the baser thought processes of women is opening my eyes to what it is that makes our relationship as rocky as it is. She doesn’t appreciate what I do to support our family nearly enough, and she doesn’t pull enough of her own weight in this relationship.
Even though I’ve known this truth for a long time, I didn’t think that version of the truth was being fair to her. Now I’m learning that I’m being overly generous. We’ve never married, mostly because of my libertarian streak. I didn’t marry her because I never felt that I should have to seek, nor obtain, the written consent of the State in order to form my own family. So, while I don’t have plans to leave her, and in the process destroy the lives of my children, at the present, that option is open to me should things progress to that point.
Anyway, I think I’ll stick around a while and see what more can be learned.
I’m glad to find I’m not alone in seeing that something is very wrong with not just relationships and families, but the whole of male-female relations these days. I’m also greatly relieved to learn that my expectations for my girlfriend to do more to benefit our family aren’t misplaced, or wrong.
ja391045 5 years, 1 month ago.
