Don’t look at people

[Anonymous 38]

MGTOW Expat made an interesting video on the importance of eye contact and why he thinks it’s bulls~~~. While I agree with him that steady eye contact / staring someone out doesn’t make you more dominant, I believe the eyes are the gateway to a lot of power within the social realm.

Have you noticed how people, especially women, can suss you at when you look into their eyes? I believe they are literally looking to see if you’re dominant or not. That’s why when you’re feeling low, weak, unconfident etc, you can easily notice their disgust and cold body language when they look into your eyes. As they say, the eyes are the windows to the soul.

On the other hand you’ll probably have noticed when you’ve been feeling extremely motivated, aggressive, or otherwise ‘badass’, their body language becomes more submissive. They smile more and become neotonous.

This is NOT a call to be ‘alpha’. Not at all. What I am trying to get across is that you can give away your low power/energy by looking into people’s eyes. And a way to retain your power then, is to not look at people.

Try it. When you don’t look at people you’re more focussed on yourself, and less bothered about others. I recall being a blue piller and always looking into people’s eyes for validation and it almost makes me sick to think about it. I wondered how I could feel so confident and powerful on my own, but around others I felt powerless.

I barely look at anyone these days, and it really helps you keep a free mind and healthy self-esteem. In the same way as not watching tv doesn’t distract me and pollute my mind, not looking at people achieves the same. I don’t need their validation, don’t even want it. I’m not desperately trying to cling to power with this strategy either, I’m disinterested in most people, rather I’m sharing this in case men are still stuck looking at others and being continually disappointed in them.

I’ll glance at someone who starts yabbering then look elsewhere if I respond. It simultaneously drives them nuts and they can’t help but respect it.

Just don’t look at skanks, don’t look at low-energy, low intelligence people. They are not deserving of your attention. Go about your business and reserve your steady eye contact for decent people. In the #MeToo age this is a good strategy anyway. Don’t waste your time looking at fake, unhealthy, mentally deranged C~~~S.

Decent people will not shrink or sneer when they see you’re suffering. Decent people will show compassion. Sadly this is rare these days and if you’re still going around looking for benevolence in the average person, you’re wasting your time.

But don’t be afraid to look at people squarely in the eye, either. If you walk around staring at the floor in fear of looking at someone, you’re being controlled.

My eye contact and expression can be so strong it makes people stutter. Or mostly silent. Good. I just came back from lunch and talking only resumed when I left. Also good. I no longer lose sleep over whether c~~~s like me or might be afraid of me.

Life made me this way. My kindness and naivety led me to being abused, and I came back ten times stronger.

[AwakenedParticipant 35200]

I use LESS eye contact when I want LESS Interaction.

Most of the time, I just Ghost along without paying much attention in general to the people around me, but the “special” people I go out of my way to avoid eye contact as well as mininizing conversations.

I don’t really know if it’s dominant, alpha, or whatever. I just KNOW that I DON’T WANT TO BE BOTHERED by THEM or THEIR CRAP.

In a World of Justin Beibers Be a Johnny Cash

[The Black ScorpionParticipant 2142]

I don’t like people so I don’t like looking at them.

I’m sort of like the OP in that being around people, talking to them and yes, even looking at them just seems to drain my energy.

When in public, in a mall or store or something, I walk as if I have blinders on.

I do though look at attractive women as I like my eye candy.

But other than that I am definitely not a people watcher.

The greatest tragedy in life is to spend your whole life fishing only to discover that it was not fish you were after. - Henry David Thoreau

[It’sallbsParticipant]

Perfect the 1000 yard stare look through and beyond people.

http://www.leavemeansleave.eu

[Anonymous 3]

Excellent,your points are well taken ( by me )
I learned a lot of things the hard way b/c I was a ( nice guy ) & one of them was who to give my attention ( life energy ) & that begins by eye contact.
My method is to look quickly to assess the situation in general & then generally keep to myself.
Ignore them, for the most part, but I do live among the people so ghosting works for me.
I just stay of the mix & keep my energy for myself.
I hope I made sense, I know reading your thoughts on eye contact was very helpful to me. You articulated pretty much how I try to carry myself among the general population.
Thank You

[MurineesParticipant 704]

Interesting that you bring this up. Nice post!

I wear a pair of glasses that is 1.0 below my proper correction, such that I can’t see things clearly 5 feet away. This is for my eye training. I just discovered an unintentional benefit: when I no longer bother to look at people (coz they are all blur to me), I get rid of noticeable amount of unnecessary social burden (self-inflicted), which probably the “energy drain” you mentioned, and feel much more at ease.

Intentionally not looking at people will inevitably give a vibe of avoidance and people will pick it up. I myself feel awkward too. When I made myself not seeing clearly, I unawarely get rid of this annoying awkwardness.

Off topic, men sexual urge are heavily visual-based. I often ponder what if I became blinded. Wouldn’t all the female attraction disappear? I started to think my eyes might have tricked me all these years.

[RhinoParticipant 3477]

Anyone else notice as you are walking along paying attention to surroundings and not to the women that are walking toward you they will sometimes pause mid step and look at you wondering why you are not looking at them? It is almost comical it happens all the time their hamster wheels must be going into overdrive.

[Secret Agent MGTOWParticipant 22502]

Its hard for me not to look at people because I am constantly reading people and assessing threats. The solution is mirrored\darkened glasses and they can’t tell where your gaze really is.

Women want everything, but want responsibility and accountability for nothing.

[JackinovParticipant 5229]

I only look at the eyes of people I’m about to talk to. Other than that, nope.

However, I do make sure to stay aware of my surroundings for potential threats and whatnot.

are you a chia pet in man drag

[Anonymous 18]

Anonymous wrote:

I believe the eyes are the gateway to a lot of power within the social realm.

When you consider the fact that your energy flows where your attention goes, and how important it is for women to get your attention – it makes that much more sense to preserve your energy and focus on what is important.

As a red piller looking at strangers to get some meaning is as moot as talking to a tree.

[sjt1975Participant 2536]

I generally don’t look at people, unless I am talking to them, and I generally don’t give women the attention that they crave. Like Jackinov, I assess where people are, in order to avoid actual/potential collisions/threats, and I walk around people now (which I used to think was dis-respectful, but is getting to be the only safe thing to do nowadays).

[Anonymous 38]

Secret Agent MGTOW wrote:

Its hard for me not to look at people because I am constantly reading people and assessing threats. The solution is mirrored\darkened glasses and they can’t tell where your gaze really is

Anonymous wrote:

My method is to look quickly to assess the situation in general & then generally keep to myself

I think Johnny has it spot on. Rapid assessment then ignore while maintaining a quiet situational awareness.

It’sallbs wrote:

Perfect the 1000 yard stare look through and beyond people.

That’s what I have. It looks a bit psychopathic but I don’t care. That’s what happens when you’ve been through the s~~~ and you don’t suffer fools.

Murinees wrote:

Intentionally not looking at people will inevitably give a vibe of avoidance and people will pick it up. I myself feel awkward too. When I made myself not seeing clearly, I unawarely get rid of this annoying awkwardness.

I think there’s nuance here. When you’re not looking but really conscious of that person, it does create awkwardness. But when you’re not looking and absorbed in your own mind, and simply don’t care about the other, there’s no awkwardness. When you get over your thirst for women it’s a lot easier to do. Sat on the bus this morning next to a very cute girl, my former blue pill body language would have had her all nervous but today I sat nonplussed and not giving an ounce of interest her way. Lo and behold, I notice her glancing towards me and her legs and arms point in my direction. You notice these little things. I could feel her eyeing me as I stood up and left, not giving her a single look back. She gets enough attention, I’m sure. And I no longer need to be made feel worthy of any woman.

Anonymous wrote:

When you consider the fact that your energy flows where your attention goes, and how important it is for women to get your attention – it makes that much more sense to preserve your energy and focus on what is important.
As a red piller looking at strangers to get some meaning is as moot as talking to a tree.

This is a very simple yet profound insight. I want to learn more about the flow of energy and how I can use that to my advantage when interacting with others – I still want to avoid people as much as possible but it’s unavoidable to get ahead in life.

sjt1975 wrote:

I generally don’t look at people, unless I am talking to them, and I generally don’t give women the attention that they crave. Like Jackinov, I assess where people are, in order to avoid actual/potential collisions/threats, and I walk around people now (which I used to think was dis-respectful, but is getting to be the only safe thing to do nowadays).

I noticed in myself a while back I’d be scanning so heavily that I’d be tensed up, and I’d literally move out of the way of people. F~~~! Why give away my frame like that? I’m not a mouse. I take extra delight in seeing a c*nt and staying rock solid now, they always move. If they don’t they get a shoulder barge and a look like they are something on my shoe.

[Anonymous 38]

Another thought-
There’s a lot of ignorant, dumb, neurotic people about. Looking at them absorbs this energy which is negative for you. I’m now fascinated about energy in this context, can anyone recommend a good book?

[Anonymous 54]

Eye contact has many functions.

Avoiding eye contact, prevents interaction.

Too long of a stare, can get you beat up.

Its trickey, if it doesnt come natueral to you.

[743 roadmasterParticipant]

In some areas it is cultural. NYC no one makes eye contact. Locally everyone, then a nod as a none verbal social greeting.

Gray man, avoiding interaction with the mob—-being observant but avoiding being noticed or eye contact. Something guy should learn to master.

mgtow is its own worst enemy- https://www.campusreform.org/

[SandalsParticipant 4253]

Excellent points.

I wear sunglasses.

Anonymous wrote:

Another thought-
There’s a lot of ignorant, dumb, neurotic people about. Looking at them absorbs this energy which is negative for you. I’m now fascinated about energy in this context, can anyone recommend a good book?

Also, the bible says that some chick grabbed Jesus’s hem of his garment, and literally stole his energy.

Even Jesus wasn’t safe from women stealing his energy.

[sjt1975Participant 2536]

Anonymous wrote:

sjt1975 wrote:
I generally don’t look at people, unless I am talking to them, and I generally don’t give women the attention that they crave. Like Jackinov, I assess where people are, in order to avoid actual/potential collisions/threats, and I walk around people now (which I used to think was dis-respectful, but is getting to be the only safe thing to do nowadays).

I noticed in myself, a while back, I’d be scanning so heavily, that I’d be tensed up, and I’d literally move out of the way of people. F~~~! Why give away my frame like that? I’m not a mouse. I take extra delight in seeing a c~~~ and staying rock solid, now; they always move. If they don’t, they get a shoulder barge and a look like they are something on my shoe.

Interesting. I don’t get tense about assessing people. I still think it may be risky ‘bumping in to’ a woman on the street, especially nowadays with all of this ‘street harrassment’ crap. Women think that they own the foot-paths and that it is up to men to give way to them (especially women who push prams); another part of female entitlement.

[crushhighlanderParticipant 239]

I personally dislike looking at peoples’ eyes. It always made me feel uncomfortable for some reason. I think it was for the better now, as it really makes me irritated to have to look at a person unnecessarily since it may give way for a harrassment accusation. I sometimes hate Western behavioral standards, I swear.

No more hassles, no more nonsense, no more drama. Long live MGTOW!

[SandalsParticipant 4253]

sjt1975 wrote:

Women think that they own the foot-paths and that it is up to men to give way to them

I’ve noticed this too. Flex muscles when a woman is going to assault you in such a manner.

[Anonymous 9]

This is an interesting thread and if you google this subject, just about every single article and post will say how important eye-contact is and that there must be something wrong with a person who avoids eye-contact etc.

However, women need eye-contact and attention in order to manipulate you. If you don’t pay any attention to her, she will not be able to manipulate you.

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