Don't Even Trust Family to Pay You Back

[Governor Megachris%Participant 3584]

So I’m sitting here wandering around this site and reading old posts as I always enjoy doing and no joke, the song “Go Your Own Way” has started playing at the restaurant I’m seated at as I began typing this.

Anyway, on to the topic

Now I’m back to delivering for Uber. Brought me in $100 today, can’t complain. This week total, nearly $300. Enough to pay my bills. I’m in between projects and trying to find more data management work until the next natural disaster strikes and I’m sent out to another state again. My job pays me pretty dang well when I’m out. I’ve nearly paid off all of my debts and my credit score is finally above 600 (doesn’t sound like much, but when I was tip-toeing 520 and under since 2015 before, this is a huge thing for me).

While I was out working projects, there was a time period where my mother was without work because she was attending nursing school. She desperately needed some money for gas and uniforms, and was too ashamed to ask her husband. She asked me. During the time I was in North Carolina to the time I left Alabama (around 7 months total), I believe I’ve counted that she borrowed about $500 total. In the big picture, not bad, but she’s only paid me back half of it and I guess she forgot she owes another $250 (that I could DEFINITELY use now). She asked what I was doing today because she wanted to go out for dinner, and I told her I’m doing Uber deliveries to cover my bills (which literally only total to $300 a month tops).

Her advice? Sell my guns that I bought because the local gun show is in town. Now, yes they ARE valuable, but I didn’t obtain my CHL license last year just to sell what I use to keep me and others around me safe. My safety matters to me, and I did NOT waste my time and money to earn that license. I have a couple of people that owe me, and an incoming last check/per diem pay from my Alabama project. A few hundred can last me well over a month, which is what I’d have if people would pay me back on time!

So, lesson learned for me, don’t lend money to friends (well, female ones at least, or anyone but close guy friends), and same rule with your FAMILY members.

[Duke TogoParticipant 2664]

Don’t be a pussy and put it to everyone that owes you that you need the money back now. F~~~ them for not paying you back without having to be reminded of what they owe you.

[MonkParticipant 16994]

Your mother sees herself as being entitled. She owes money but wants to go out to dinner. Priorities. Financial irresponsibility. No moral imperative.

AWALT, so no surprises there.

[AutoliteParticipant]

Family will phuck you over just as quick (or quicker) than strangers. Just sayin’…

[Mr. SpockParticipant 10911]

In my experiences I have found that family will borrow money and never pay it back and it’s usually the women who do that. The hive mentality tells them it’s OK because we are “family” which means the family does what’s best for the family as a whole. Since she is a part of that whole, it’s expected that the family helps her without expecting anything (even payment) in return. The same women who subscribe to that way of thinking will totally abandon it whenever it doesn’t benefit them. My sister owes everyone in my family various amounts of money. Everyone but me. She never asks me because she knows that I won’t give it to her. My sister is always available when she needs to borrow money but she is unavailable to help take care of mom, help with moving and generally anything that supports the “family”.
AWALT

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[StealthParticipant 5339]

Yes, this is practically rule #1.
Doing business with family is nearly as dodgy. Better to avoid mixing the two if you can.

"Once you’ve taken care of the basics, there’s very little in this world for which your life is worth deferring." -David Hansson. "It’s not when women are mean or nasty that anything is out of the ordinary. It’s when they are NICE to you that you have to be on high alert..." -Jackinov.

[AwakenedParticipant 35202]

I have a tendency to help family until they F~~~ Me and then I have the same tendency of ghosting their asses.

Maybe, that’s why I haven’t talked to any siblings in 15 plus years, and I can’t say that I miss any of them….

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[Governor Megachris%Participant 3584]

That’s the thing with my family, particularly my mother.

Tell her what to do or remind her she forgot to do something for you and she takes it as a personal attack.

Instead, ghosting is very well my best option. If anything, I know where I want to live and work (which is a good enough distance away), I just need to gather the means to make it happen.

As for now, I’m just looking for work in my field anywhere in the country. Anywhere to get me away from here. I just scored almost $300 this weekend on Uber alone and paid my insurance without her help and without having to sell my firearms.

I’ll drive every day if I have to, but hopefully some work will come along soon…or, like last year, disaster will strike somewhere and I’ll be working for another 4+ months straight everyday and raking in the dough (debt-free this time).

[HermitParticipant]

Governor Megachris% wrote:

Her advice? Sell my guns that I bought because the local gun show is in town. Now, yes they ARE valuable, but I didn’t obtain my CHL license last year just to sell what I use to keep me and others around me safe. My safety matters to me, and I did NOT waste my time and money to earn that license.

Man, talk about AWALT. My x used to tell me that sh!t all the time. I’d tell her to stop wasting my money and she’d say, “If you need money, sell those guns.” How fukking stupid is that? Sell my belongings so she can waste my money…….. If it wasn’t my guns, she’d tell me to sell my motorcycle.

Since I’ve stopped wasting time with women, I have more money in the bank than I’ve ever had……………and I have more guns and more ammunition and a motorcycle. Looks like I proved her wrong. It wasn’t the guns or the bike I needed to get rid of. It was her useless ass.

The evil in women’s hearts leaves them no moral bounds as to inhibit them from descending to the lowest levels of darkness to acquire their self entitled desires.

[CrowbarParticipant 192]

Excellent advice. My wife “loaned” several thousand dollars to her sister due to her sister’s sob stories (getting divorced for not the first time, losing her job, etc) and despite promises to repay it, it’s still outstanding years later. I just keep my mouth shut because there’s no point in arguing with someone who has the mental maturity of a middle-schooler and who has the financial sense of a six year old (my wife).

[bstoffParticipant 4864]

You never “loan” money to friends and family.
You should assume you will not see it again and say so to whoever is “borrowing”.

[ResidentEvil7Participant 9548]

bstoff wrote:

You never “loan” money to friends and family.You should assume you will not see it again and say so to whoever is “borrowing”.

Now you tell me. September 2017, I loaned $600+ to a friend who said he needs it to pay for a lawyer because he’s suing his former job for not paying him. He promised it was going to be paid back in 3 months, and so far it’s been 21 months and he’s only paid back $70. Now he owes me $560, but making every excuse why he can’t pay it back. He works and can’t pay a $600 loan in almost 2 years, but I don’t work (I live on SSI) and was able to give him this money once. We’ve had fights about this, because what is a working guy doing taking money from an autistic guy who lives on government assistance in the first place? I am so p~~~ed at him. The only reason why I gave him the money was to shut him up; he was whining, begging, won’t take no for an answer, argued with me, hung up the phone then blasted my cell phone with a series of whinny text messages. I told him to never again ask (or beg like a toddler) me for a favor, because he proved to me these past 2 years, he’s bad with money and he’s bad with trust.

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