Does the ex get half?

[Prefer Peace to PieceParticipant 10809]

Question: Does the ex get half?

Answer: Depends. Sometimes the ex gets substantially more than half.

I had lunch with an attorney friend the other day and this topic came up.
Apparently, the courts often go with “equitable distribution”.

Equitable distribution means “fair” division of the property. That does not necessarily mean half or even equal.

Equitable distribution takes into account the financial situation of each spouse. Equitable distribution is more flexible, and in many jurisdictions judges exercise a great deal of discretion in dividing assets. Sometimes a judge feels it’s fair for the wife to maintain her standard of living.

In another example, the court may award the custodial mother the marital home and give her husband cash assets even when that distribution is not equal.

Courts can use equitable distribution to take into account the length of the marriage.

I know a few professional guys who got divorced and the majority of them did not walk away with half. A lot of them were “wiped out”.

My attorney friend also told me that you have to be careful with real estate if you are married. Even if the house is in your name only, if the house was acquired while you were married the judges sometimes consider the house marital property to be divided.

Our legal system is somewhat rigged against men. Obviously never get married. But if you have friends who are married, they may not walk away with half. Thanks.

[Blue SkiesParticipant 15665]

this guy from the uk whose ex wife did not work, he lost 80% of his assets!!! no joke.

MGTOW is not a movement, it is a way of life.

[BoarParticipant]

Looking at some of those divisions, I often wondered if it was proportional to the spouse who gained the most weight during the marriage…..

Untamed wrote: Quit complaining and Go Your Own Way in whatever manner suits you best.

[AttonParticipant]

I question why men even bother with courts.

A MGTOW is a man who is not a woman's bitch!

[BrainPilotParticipant 7640]

Is it starting to seem as though the women who’ve gone before and used marriage as a lottery ticket… are now making it more difficult for women coming after them to even get a chance to play? For every woman who brags about how much she scored in a divorce, and every man who reports how much he was robbed in one, there are how many other men who hear that and say, “‘Not worth the risk…”.

Every man who makes that observation and makes that decision, there is a woman somewhere who will never get the chance…

Look, it's not my fault that tornado dropped a house on your sister. Now get back on your broom and get your ass out of here... and take your monkeys with you

[LosPukeParticipant 514]

BrainPilot wrote:

For every woman who brags about how much she scored in a divorce, and every man who reports how much he was robbed in one, there are how many other men who hear that and say, “‘Not worth the risk…”.

Every man who makes that observation and makes that decision, there is a woman somewhere who will never get the chance…

And that’s as refreshing as a glass of ice water on a hot summer day!

[ShinyParticipant 2307]

I’ve never been through the sort of divorce-rape that many of the brothers have but I read up on it a lot to remind myself of how the game is stacked against us, and I have seen more than one lawyer say flat out that ‘half / half’ generally means more like 60-40 in the wife’s favour (or worse), presumably because the wife is getting her only shot at assets whereas the man can rebuild.

Which is a stupid way of thinking for reasons I don’t have to explain to you.

[BeerParticipant 11832]

Shiny wrote:

I’ve never been through the sort of divorce-rape that many of the brothers have but I read up on it a lot to remind myself of how the game is stacked against us, and I have seen more than one lawyer say flat out that ‘half / half’ generally means more like 60-40 in the wife’s favour (or worse), presumably because the wife is getting her only shot at assets whereas the man can rebuild.

Which is a stupid way of thinking for reasons I don’t have to explain to you.

Honestly…I wouldn’t mind this if I married a 19 year old virgin that hasn’t had time to accumulate any assets or debts, started popping kids out right away, she never had time to get an education or start her own career, and she made an actual attempt to honor her vows because society to provide such an easy cash out button on the marriage.

But apply that to today’s standards…I’m not marrying a 19 year old virgin…I’m marrying a 32 year old that has been around the block and has about a 98% chance of bringing debt with her, has had plenty of time to get an education and work on a career, its not my fault if she squandered that time or was ineffective in her pursuits, and with no fault divorces and women knowing how easy it is to cash out they have no incentive to put effort into the marriage the first time they feel like they are unhappy and want out.

The law wants to hammer men in divorce the same way it did 100 years ago, but women and society have obviously changed a lot in the last 100 years and its ridiculous the only thing that has changed with divorce laws is its become easier to get one. Marriage/divorce should automatically default these days to what is in your name is yours, what is put in both parties name is shared. Being a stay at home mom when you popped your first kid out in your 30s shouldn’t be considered a sacrifice, it should be considered what it is, a privilege, and divorces shouldn’t grant them more than half for that. If women who are lucky enough to be a stay at home don’t want to give that privilege up, maybe they should be a little more thankful and grateful towards their husbands instead of trying to divorce rape him.

If marriage is about love, let’s make it about love, and remove the financial risk just because you may happen to be the one going into it with more assets/less debt/higher income. But…we know how women would feel about that lol.

[Jan SobieskiParticipant 28791]

Old Bill Posted the divorce guidelines for various US States.

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