Dodged a bullet

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    Timsen
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    Hello and greetings from Denmark,

    To start of i apologize for any grammar mistakes since english is not my main language.  Sorry for the long one, i’m usually never write on any forums, but i felt like it was important to myself to write this.

    My current status: In relationship  for past 2½ years, and lived together with my gf for the last 2 years. I am 26 years old, and about ½ a year from finishing my masters degree in computer science. Currently i have a quite good paid student job.

    My journey to became MGTOW started approx. 1 year ago, where i started to see that my gf started to change and relax in the relationship. Everything started with the sex just dropped from 3-4 times a week to 1-2 times a week, with the same excuse: “She was tired”. Well i thought, fair enough you are tired, i will take care of more chores at the apartment, so you wouldn’t be as tired. As you well know it didn’t make any freaking difference. I made everything she asked for, and everything at the house until february this year, where i had enough. I started to focus a little more on myself, work out more, eat more clean, and started to experiment on her behaviour.

    My first experiment was to see how long would it take for her to take care of the dishes (previously it was me who took care of the dishes 90% of the time). It took 4 days and a huge pile of dishes before she did anything. But strangely enough afterwards every 2-3 days she took care of the dishes on her own.

    Next experiment was to see what would happen if i just ignored her being p~~~ed about something (i was always the one running to her and ask if something was wrong when she was p~~~ed about anything, and i always ended up excusing). Well it took a lot of self control to not to run to her and excuse, but after the “pain period” was over i just actually didn’t care. Pain period was about 1 week, where she was p~~~ed on and off, but suddenly, she could go to the bed p~~~ed, and the day after she was sweet like nothing had happened day before.

    My current experiment is to see how long will it take her to admit that there is a sex problem in our relationship or start initiating sex on her own. For the past 2 month i almost stopped initiating sex. As i can remember we had sex only 2 or 3 times since i stopped initiating and i can feel that she can feel that something is not how it should be. After i stopped initiating, she almost stopped nagging me, and telling me what i do wrong and so on.

    The “anti initiate of sex” experiment started after i read Dead Bedrooms subreddit, which pointed me to The Red Pill subreddit where i actually found out how deep the rabbit hole goes. My eyes got open on the true nature of women. Next time i got outside, it was like seeing a whole new world. My first realization and actual proof of the “red pill” was when i could see a great looking guy buying his gf 500$ present. Before the red pill i would think, thats nice of him, now i caught me thinking, – “damnit, that was me just 2 month ago where i actually tried to buy sex with gf with presents”.

    After i read quite a bit on The red pill subreddit i dig a bit deeper and found this website, which introduced me to MGTOW universe, and i was amazed. MGTOW is exactly what i felt like doing all my life (be in control of my life and relationship for that sake), but i just couldn’t because i was raised to be “nice”, now i understand that there is nothing wrong with me, i am a man and i can do exactly what the hell i like to do.

    At this moment i would define myself as a purplepill man, i know exactly what is going on, but i’m not ready to say that i take full control right here and right now, because i afraid it will tear me apart and maybe because i still believe that maybe, and i mean maybe i can “train” my gf to be NAWALT. I would like to finish my masters get a job, have some savings in case of something and then go out and became MGTOW.

    Funny fact just 1 week ago me and gf had a conversation, she suggested that when we gonna have kids, she want to be a stay at home mom because i would have great salary. I said that right now and right here, my answer is no, because i can’t see why our family economy should take a hit since her salary is good enough. Here come the strange part, before my experiments started she would get p~~~ed and tell me that she doesn’t understand me at all, but now she was relaxed like nothing was happened. The day after she took care of dinner, which she never does, i’m a bit confused right now. When i act like i don’t care, she wants more of me, when i do care about something, she want to tear me apart.

     

    #51543
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    MOWsince95
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    Hi Timsen, and welcome.  Your english is excellent, really.

    You sound like you have it pretty together and being purplepill is to be expected during the transition.  Just want to caution you to be careful about something – she brought up having kids and basically living off your income, which you naturally objected to.  Women are known for somehow magically getting pregnant soon after such things, so please be very careful during sex, and if she does get pregnant despite all the precautions you take then get a DNA test.  Don’t trust her to take the pill – you need to be proactive about everything.

    One other thing …

    When i act like i don’t care, she wants more of me, when i do care about something, she want to tear me apart.

    THAT should not leave you confused in any way at all.  It is extremely typical female behavior.  If you act like you don’t care, she lures you back by wanting more of you, making those nice dinners, being flirtatious as hell, or whatever.  And then once she is comfortable that you care and will not want to leave, she treats you like pure s~~~ (her true nature).  Remember, if you marry and/or have kids with her, she will know it would be difficult for you to leave (almost impossible if you have kids) and she will tear you apart from that point until those kids are 25.  So please keep this in mind.

    If you are MGTOW when you are young you have no heart.
    If you're not MGTOW when you are 20 you have no brain.

    #51552
    RoyDal
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    Welcome! Good job! Keep observing the world without the blue pill illusion.

    Society asks MGTOWs: Why are you not making more tax-slaves?

    #51578
    RedHeadedStranger
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    Greetings!  listen to MOWsince95.  that’s the best advice you’ll get anywhere on the planet.  be careful mang.  glad you’re here!

    #51624
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    K
    Hitman
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    dump that c~~~.. plenty of tail where you live..greetings from n.y. go YOUR own way brother.. ! ..

    #51630
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    Mover1799
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    Welcome to the group man, this is a great site for motivation from someone that just got out of a bad marriage/relationship, sometimes people do not understand and will shun you for it joining this site or call you a sexist.  Now while you always get bad apples in any group or organization, but usually this group does not enforce this, but rather educates individuals on keeping our wall reinforced.

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    GrotesqueRogue
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    Glad to see people from Denmark.
    As for her reaction when you said “no” to kids, I would recommend you to be extra-careful. She will not forget this “no”, and most likely she will take her revenge.

    Be careful and welcome.

    P.S. You haven’t really dodged the bullet yet. You are just awaken, but haven’t really taken good care about yourself and other things.

    Not trying to be mean.

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    GrotesqueRogue
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    And your GF can’t be a NAWALT. Otherwise why bring up the subject of having children and being a stay-at-home mom?
    Resources and disposability, man.

     

    Anyway, we all hope that everything will be okay with you and you know best what you do and why you do smth.

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    Dav
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    Welcome Timsen!

    Yeah you are at the 2 year mark of co-habitation. What is happening is fairly common with the less sex thing. And I didn’t even have to read the next line to know that when you said you did more chores that it would not make a difference. Sex seems like a big deal when you are in your 20s, but later on in life this will change. The urge will still be there but you will realise that you won’t put up with as much bulls~~~ to obtain it.

    As others have said, just be careful man. You are still young. Don’t get baby-trapped.

    Good luck!

     

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