Hello and greetings from Denmark,
To start of i apologize for any grammar mistakes since english is not my main language. Sorry for the long one, i’m usually never write on any forums, but i felt like it was important to myself to write this.
My current status: In relationship for past 2½ years, and lived together with my gf for the last 2 years. I am 26 years old, and about ½ a year from finishing my masters degree in computer science. Currently i have a quite good paid student job.
My journey to became MGTOW started approx. 1 year ago, where i started to see that my gf started to change and relax in the relationship. Everything started with the sex just dropped from 3-4 times a week to 1-2 times a week, with the same excuse: “She was tired”. Well i thought, fair enough you are tired, i will take care of more chores at the apartment, so you wouldn’t be as tired. As you well know it didn’t make any freaking difference. I made everything she asked for, and everything at the house until february this year, where i had enough. I started to focus a little more on myself, work out more, eat more clean, and started to experiment on her behaviour.
My first experiment was to see how long would it take for her to take care of the dishes (previously it was me who took care of the dishes 90% of the time). It took 4 days and a huge pile of dishes before she did anything. But strangely enough afterwards every 2-3 days she took care of the dishes on her own.
Next experiment was to see what would happen if i just ignored her being p~~~ed about something (i was always the one running to her and ask if something was wrong when she was p~~~ed about anything, and i always ended up excusing). Well it took a lot of self control to not to run to her and excuse, but after the “pain period” was over i just actually didn’t care. Pain period was about 1 week, where she was p~~~ed on and off, but suddenly, she could go to the bed p~~~ed, and the day after she was sweet like nothing had happened day before.
My current experiment is to see how long will it take her to admit that there is a sex problem in our relationship or start initiating sex on her own. For the past 2 month i almost stopped initiating sex. As i can remember we had sex only 2 or 3 times since i stopped initiating and i can feel that she can feel that something is not how it should be. After i stopped initiating, she almost stopped nagging me, and telling me what i do wrong and so on.
The “anti initiate of sex” experiment started after i read Dead Bedrooms subreddit, which pointed me to The Red Pill subreddit where i actually found out how deep the rabbit hole goes. My eyes got open on the true nature of women. Next time i got outside, it was like seeing a whole new world. My first realization and actual proof of the “red pill” was when i could see a great looking guy buying his gf 500$ present. Before the red pill i would think, thats nice of him, now i caught me thinking, – “damnit, that was me just 2 month ago where i actually tried to buy sex with gf with presents”.
After i read quite a bit on The red pill subreddit i dig a bit deeper and found this website, which introduced me to MGTOW universe, and i was amazed. MGTOW is exactly what i felt like doing all my life (be in control of my life and relationship for that sake), but i just couldn’t because i was raised to be “nice”, now i understand that there is nothing wrong with me, i am a man and i can do exactly what the hell i like to do.
At this moment i would define myself as a purplepill man, i know exactly what is going on, but i’m not ready to say that i take full control right here and right now, because i afraid it will tear me apart and maybe because i still believe that maybe, and i mean maybe i can “train” my gf to be NAWALT. I would like to finish my masters get a job, have some savings in case of something and then go out and became MGTOW.
Funny fact just 1 week ago me and gf had a conversation, she suggested that when we gonna have kids, she want to be a stay at home mom because i would have great salary. I said that right now and right here, my answer is no, because i can’t see why our family economy should take a hit since her salary is good enough. Here come the strange part, before my experiments started she would get p~~~ed and tell me that she doesn’t understand me at all, but now she was relaxed like nothing was happened. The day after she took care of dinner, which she never does, i’m a bit confused right now. When i act like i don’t care, she wants more of me, when i do care about something, she want to tear me apart.
dav 4 years, 8 months ago.
