Divorced because of unreasoning jealousy

[Anonymous 1]

In 1994 I got divorced because she was driving me nuts. If I was not in her sight she assumed I was banging some other girl. I tried and tried to get her to understand that I was faithful and I wanted to live together literally, “Till death do us part”. She said many girls wanted to steal me away from her. I told her, “Honey, listen. I am NOT Tom Cruise no other girl is chasing after me. She wasn’t buying any of that.

Well, I had a stressful job and with a 3-day weekend coming up, I really needed to get into the mountains. I asked her to go with me but she said that she needed to help her adult son with a problem and she could not go.
I told her that I really, really wanted her to go with me BUT if she couldn’t go, I was going by myself. She said ok and I thought everything was cool.

Away I went, into the High Sierra’s. 3 days of fishing, reading and relaxing, The nearest human must have been 20 miles away.

All too soon it was time to get back to work. I bounced down the old forest fire-road and got back on the 2-lane blacktop. When I came to a small gas station I called her and said, “Hi, baby. I’m on the way back.”
Her reply ? “Don’t bother coming home you son of a bitch. I know you’ve been f~~~ing some girl. I know it”
I was absolutely floored. But I, of course went home anyway.

When I got home she was not there and for 3-days I did not hear from her and I also called her work place. They didn’t know where she was either. They said she took some vacation time.
Well, finally after 3 days she showed up. I asked her where in the hell she had been ? I told her I was worried sick.
With a sarcastic look on her face, she smiled at me and said, “You had a girl. I had a man”.
I felt like I’d been kicked in the stomach. We argued back and forth for the next several weeks, but finally I couldn’t take it any more and I left. I abandoned everything and fled for my life, never to see her again.

[Anonymous 54]

Ive dealt with jealous women.
A level of crazy thats unmacthed.
Dangerous crazy.

[XSDBSParticipant 3598]

Projection/Redirection:

If/when she accuses you of cheating on her, she’s already been cheating on you.

She needs a (made up) excuse/reason/justification to blame you for her cheating.

[ForeverDoneParticipant 2928]

Isn’t it amazing what women conjure up in their minds? It’s like a little kid sometimes. Maybe that is why Disney is so popular with women and children alike.

[Anonymous 1]

Yeah, I think, but don’t know for sure, that she had guy on the side.
Too many lies that just didn’t make sense.

[ArcturisParticipant 2819]

Anonymous wrote:

but finally I couldn’t take it any more and I left. I abandoned everything and fled for my life, never to see her again.

Fair F~~~ING play mate.

Well done.

Protect Your Sovereignty. Women WILL TRY To Manipulate You. #NOCONTACT #ICETHEMOUT

[ArcturisParticipant 2819]

Once AGAIN women are always the victims. They’re not capable of commitment so they s~~~ on nice guys and fabricate stories to lie and cheat.

Protect Your Sovereignty. Women WILL TRY To Manipulate You. #NOCONTACT #ICETHEMOUT

[Anonymous 1]

It’s ironic that she was afraid of losing me but because of her insane jealousy that’s exactly what happened. But I’ve got to be honest here, I really loved her and never would have cheated on her. Except for that damn jealousy she was one very hot and special girl.

[PistolPeteParticipant 27143]

Anonymous wrote:

Yeah, I think, but don’t know for sure, that she had guy on the side.
Too many lies that just didn’t make sense.

Exactly; she was accusing you of doing exactly what SHE WAS IN FACT Doing in order to justify her actions in her own mind. So you can be sure the point she started f~~~ing around on you was the day she started accusing you.

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PistolPete wrote:

Bakerman wrote:

Yeah, I think, but don’t know for sure, that she had guy on the side.
Too many lies that just didn’t make sense.

Exactly; she was accusing you of doing exactly what SHE WAS IN FACT Doing in order to justify her actions in her own mind. So you can be sure the point she started f~~~ing around on you was the day she started accusing you.

Damn right at this level of crazy. She was trying to get you so angry you would cheat. then she’d be “right”.

Women want everything, but want responsibility and accountability for nothing.

[Anonymous 1]

Many years later, I had a therapist who told me that he thought she was trying to get me to subdue her and probably to even beat her. Jesus, is that possible?

[ArcturisParticipant 2819]

Anonymous wrote:

But I’ve got to be honest here, I really loved her and never would have cheated on her.

It’s a cold trap mate. I understand this.

Unfortunately, they see ‘relationships’ different ways.

Protect Your Sovereignty. Women WILL TRY To Manipulate You. #NOCONTACT #ICETHEMOUT

[PistolPeteParticipant 27143]

Anonymous wrote:

Many years later, I had a therapist who told me that he thought she was trying to get me to subdue her and probably to even beat her. Jesus, is that possible?

NO—therapists, counselors, shrinks, social workers don’t know s~~~—its all psycho-babble…OK except for Brother DocDJ.

[Anonymous 54]

Anonymous wrote:

Many years later, I had a therapist who told me that he thought she was trying to get me to subdue her and probably to even beat her. Jesus, is that possible?

Yes.

[Anonymous 1]

“Cold Trap” , that’s a new expression to me. What does it mean?

[Anonymous 1]

“There is no doubt that all women are crazy; it only a question of degree.” W.C. Fields

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Getting Divorced is Inevitable for Most, and a Living Hell for the Rest.

In a World of Justin Beibers Be a Johnny Cash

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Anonymous wrote:

It’s ironic that she was afraid of losing me but because of her insane jealousy that’s exactly what happened. But I’ve got to be honest here, I really loved her and never would have cheated on her. Except for that damn jealousy she was one very hot and special girl.

I guess the old adage rings true for some. If you truly want and wish for something, it will happen. That’s what happened to your little cutie.

[TheSpiceParticipant 2644]

Anonymous wrote:

It’s ironic that she was afraid of losing me but because of her insane jealousy that’s exactly what happened. But I’ve got to be honest here, I really loved her and never would have cheated on her. Except for that damn jealousy she was one very hot and special girl.

As many others have said here… the jealousy is a tell-tale sign she’s already cheating on you. It has nothing to do with jealousy and everything with her justifying her actions by projecting her cheating on you.

If you’re a cheater, then it makes her being a cheater an ok thing. Tit for tat. If you’re not a cheater and she is, then that would make her a bad person, but she CAN’T be a bad person in her mind, so clearly you must be cheating. This is how a female brain works.

Glad you got out, brother. Beware the “jealous” girl.

"I've been thinking about what it would be like if we got back together."
"You know it's too late for that."

[Anonymous 12]

the jealousy is a tell-tale sign she’s already cheating on you. It has nothing to do with jealousy and everything with her justifying her actions by projecting her cheating on you.

This.
Been at the receiving end of jealousy.
But in retrospect i know she had a “party girl” past… so yea. confirmed.
Not jealousy, just a front to excuse her own bad behavior.

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