Divorce Mediation

[Two Time WinnerParticipant 1090]

I have my first divorce mediation session this afternoon. My soon to be ex-wife wants everything we have and all my future earnings. Married 23 years so it will be a bit complicated. She is bitter, angry and vindictive so I don’t expect a lot of compromise. Both our attorneys will be present.

I think I will let my attorney do most of the talking. And also let my soon to be ex-wife show her ass with her constant interruptions and angry comments. Would like some advice from men who have been through the process.

TTW

I ain't got a wife to spend my money, I have to do that all by myself.

[BoarParticipant]

Good luck. Perhaps you could sit there with a Red Pill dispenser and take one each time the ex opens her mouth….

Untamed wrote: Quit complaining and Go Your Own Way in whatever manner suits you best.

[WarfishParticipant 408]

Not sure if your state is different but here in FL, the parties sit in separate rooms and a 3rd “mediating” atty runs back and forth. eliminates the argumentative BS, intimidation, manipulation, etc. you get sitting face to face

[Daryll55Participant 2950]

Be quiet,respectful.and tolerant. ESPECIALLY toward the judge. First impressions are lasting,and these judges see 3-6 cases per day/5days. Win the judge and 1/2 the battle is won. If you have a man-hater judge, its gonna be a tough time.

Marry again, Hell NO ! ( Even JESUS was hung on a cross just once)

[TaxGuyParticipant]

Just keep it professional. It’s a division of assets and future earnings, that’s all. It doesn’t matter whose fault it is. My ex was constantly bringing up how she quit work to be home with the kids. The mediator doesn’t or shouldn’t care. What assets do you have now, and how do you split them fairly. What are your future earnings and how should those be divided going forward.

It’s a business transaction at this point. Keep it that way.

Good luck.

Order the good wine

[GrumpyParticipant]

Mediation didn’t work in my case.

(1st divorce) no contest, I got all debts, she got nothing.

(2nd divorce)She and her lawyer presented a list of demands in which I got all debt, I relinquish custody and visitation, pay an outlandish amount of alimony and child support for 20 years, all assets, and 3/4 of my pensions.
I presented 12 lbs of paperwork detailing everything, including 3 reports from “social services” recommending limited supervised visitation for her.
I walked away with sole custody, no payments to her or from her, all my pensions, all my assets, and all the debt.

Good luck on yours.

There was a time in my life when I gave a fuck. Now you have to pay ME for it

[bstoffParticipant 4865]

Leave it up to your lawyer, assuming you trust him/her. If you don’t trust your attorney to act in your best interest, you should insist on a new meeting date with a new attorney.
Otherwise sit calmly and quietly and hope your future ex shoots herself in the foot with her big mouth. Judges usually don’t like it when people try to steer the judge around or don’t have the self-control to sit quietly. She is definitely going to be a bit edgy with so much riding on this meeting. Maybe offer to buy her a couple of cups of coffee before the meeting. 😉

[Two Time WinnerParticipant 1090]

We had the mediation yesterday. The bitch wouldn’t take the deal so I guess we go to court in Nov. I kept giving in to the point she had $50,000 more in assets that I did. She was holding for more so I punted.
It was the back and forth. Lasted for 2 1/2 hours and mediator spent about 30 minutes with us and the rest with her. His comments were:
“That is one angry woman”
“She says I am on your side and her attorney suggested me”
On the last comeback from my wife he said” She won’t even take her attorneys advice that this is a good deal and she should do it.
Her goals were to punish me and to win in the negotiation, now we will both spend $15,000 in attorney fees and take five more months.

TTW

I ain't got a wife to spend my money, I have to do that all by myself.

[NoMoreParticipant 1233]

TTW, I wish you the best of luck!

My divorce should be headed towards mediation in the next couple of months. My STBxW is also vindictive and greedy. Thankfully, we’ve been married less than 5 years. For some reason she thinks she’s going to get a golden parachute. I’m sure our mediation will fail and we’ll end up in front of a judge.

Take my advice for what it’s worth, as we’re about the same distance in this process. Follow your attorney’s advice as long as you trust him/her. Decide what you think is a fair and equitable distribution of assets and then add just a little more. This demonstrates to the judge that you were more than willing to be fair, but that she is being completely unreasonable. You offer 60% and she demands 300%, guess who is going to look like a turd in front of the judge.

This also depends on your judge’s temperment. Some have it out for fathers and some don’t. Talk to your attorney about how your assigned judge typically regards men in divorce proceedings.

Again, best of luck and keep us updated!

A co-worker recently told me, "If you want to see who someone really is, divorce them." I have found out how true this is. When your wife drops the façade of being the caring partner, you will witness all of the greed, hate, and spite that she has masked. It is truly breathtaking!

[AttonParticipant]

If it works in your case buy a plane ticket and get permanent citizenship.

A MGTOW is a man who is not a woman's bitch!

[AstroParticipant 2045]

Bro, my phone number has been cut off (my wife handled that bill but she quit her job) but you can still reach me on Facebook Messenger if you wish to call or meet. You know I stand with you and we can get together anytime you like. You showed me I was not alone in Knoxville and that means you are not alone either.

[Two Time WinnerParticipant 1090]

Astro wrote:

Bro, my phone number has been cut off (my wife handled that bill but she quit her job) but you can still reach me on Facebook Messenger if you wish to call or meet. You know I stand with you and we can get together anytime you like. You showed me I was not alone in Knoxville and that means you are not alone either.

Sparky:

I don’t do the Facebook thing, too intrusive. Do you still have my phone number? If not, does this site have personal messages?

TTW

I ain't got a wife to spend my money, I have to do that all by myself.

[AstroParticipant 2045]

Two Time Winner wrote:

Do you still have my phone number? If not, does this site have personal messages?

I still have your number but cannot make or receive calls. My wife and I are still married to share the bills and she paid the phone bill. Unfortunately, she quit her job and since AT&T was in my name, it just put me another $500 in the hole. Perhaps we can meetup again after tomorrow, if you wish. Your call as to where unless you want to go back to Gus’s. The site has personal messages but at least one person needs to be a paying member.

It sounds like your uneasy truce is over. While I cannot fully relate to your mess, I can at least be someone to bounce off of. I think you had some good ideas.

[Two Time WinnerParticipant 1090]

Astro wrote:

Bro, my phone number has been cut off (my wife handled that bill but she quit her job) but you can still reach me on Facebook Messenger if you wish to call or meet.

Sparky: I reactivated my Facebook account to send you a message and my personal email address.

TTW

I ain't got a wife to spend my money, I have to do that all by myself.

[AstroParticipant 2045]

Two Time Winner wrote:

Sparky: I reactivated my Facebook account to send you a message and my personal email address.

Thanks for sending this. Your name was different and I was getting ready to decline because I didn’t know who you was.

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