Divorce can be very expensive…I know, I’ve been divorced twice.
Disclaimer: Use at your own risk. This is not legal advice…blah…blah…blah
That said, if you know it’s coming, here’s some tips that may be useful.
The Don’t List:
1. Do Not drink around your children.
2. Never say anything that anyone could misconstrue as a threat against your wife or child
3. When around others, do not argue with your wife…if she gets upset, stand silently and respond slowly and calmly.
4. Don’t alienate your children.
5. never raise your voice to your wife…especially not within earshot of the children (i.e. if the kids are home)
Before we get to the To Do list, there are some things to consider:
1. No Fault Divorce…evidence of the wife’s misconduct is inadmissible to determine fault in the divorce.
2. Most states have a “best interests of the child standard”
3. Most states have laws that allow limitations on parenting due to the existence of mental health issues, DV and related issues. This is especially important because while a father can’t bring up evidence of a wife’s infidelity as fault, her promiscuity is a common symptom of narcissistic disorder and manic/depressive bipolar disorders…something that is diagnosed in women.
4. If you discover your wife concealing money or expenditures…i.e. she has a paypal or google wallet account she stores cash in for example…this can be used to potentially lower child support, especially if she conceals it and you bring it out at trial.
5. Wife’s lies cannot not be used to demonstrate fault…however dishonesty goes to credibility of the witness as well as a potential symptom of a mental disorder.
With that in mind
The To Do List
1. Get your wife to talk about her insecurities. Be an active listener here…women love to talk
2. Document these times.
3. any time your wife blows up…has a break down…or acts erratically…record it in webmail…like gmail or yahoo. email it to yourself.. This allows you to timestamp her conduct
4. If she does damage to property…snap a phone pic and upload it to the net, again google has a pic storage app…this time stamps it for future.
5. Keep a journal and record in it times your wife tells you shes gonna be shopping, at the mall, with friends, etc. Reconcile your bank accounts once a month with this journal… look for transactions that don’t make sense or fail to match with what you recorded in your journal. This will demonstrate time and location as well as highlight any transactions that look suspicious.
6. Focus on your children…ensure the relationship is strong, spend time with them. This will ensure they defend you and tell the truth if anyone asks.
7. Find a healthy outlet…exercise is very good for this. Keep your friends in the loop for support…but don’t be whiny…it pushes them away…don’t go to a counselor or mental health therapist unless you absolutely need it.
8. Keeping your diet healthy will also help keep your emotions in check.
Once the divorce is filed.
1. Use the recorded erratic behavior, admissions by your wife…the infidelity…lies to argue she has mental health issues and request the court order a mental health exam…this is typically done by a PHD. Most Masters Degrees in Sociology and Social Work are hacks and you should stay away from them.
2. show evidence of your wife’s dishonesty to the court to demonstrate she’s not a credible witness…when your attorney cross examines her witnesses he should ALWAYS ask them what your wife told them…so that he can demonstrate they relied on her lies. This reduces their credibility.
3. If you find hidden accounts request she disclose them and provide a full accounting…bitches always have secrets, but there’s almost always clues… once you bring this to the court’s attention, it goes to asset split and child support.
4. Money she gets from family can be considered income for purposes of child support if it’s a gift…if you get custody. her child support may go up…if she gets custody, her child support can go down.
5. Always reread court documents at least 4 times on 4 separate days…in them you may often find discrepancies you can point out to your attorney.
6. Regarding attorneys… make sure your attorney has trial experience and goes to trial at least once a year. Former JAG attorneys and criminal prosecutors are good…they go to trial more often than other attorneys, so they’re better on evidence.
7. Avoid any attorney who used to work for a child support enforcement agency, was a Guardian Ad Litem, Child Support Services, or the prosecutor’s civil division. These attorneys are often feminazis and won’t give fair representation.
8. When your attorney tells you something…make sure that attorney can explain the why of what he/she’s saying…if they can’t that’s a clue they may not be right for you.
Good Luck.
Every woman is a slut, if you catch her on the right day.
Robert Hallam 4 years, 4 months ago.
