Divorce: A One-Way Street

[Knight of WandsParticipant 42]

[Disclaimer: I am not divorced myself, and the decision to never marry will ensure it never comes to that.]

Perhaps the most amount of anger I’ve felt in a long time is in regards to the majority of society’s view on divorce.

It bothers me that men are almost always seen as selfish or insensitive when they initiate divorce, but when women do the same, are commended for acknowledging their indepedence and taking action.

Moral favoritism in its most grotty form.

As Karen Strong put it: by the time a relationship matures, most women “…just aren’t feeling it anymore”. And if by chance they are feeling it, you can bet its coming from the guy down the street.

Its not a crime to get tired of someone, but the consequences are often very serious (especially when most soon-to-be ex-husbands are rarely made aware of their upcoming expiry date).

I’m well aware by now that I’m preaching to the converted; it just makes me so livid that society doesn’t bat an eye while most of this goes on.

I can only imagine what those who are suject to this have endured.

[Anonymous 42]

Gynocentrics 101: It’s ALL about the woman and whatever she wants, whenever she wants, and however she wants it.

MGTOW: ^^^^NONE OF THE ABOVE!

[Won'tGetFooledAgainParticipant 3293]

Women instigate divorce in 75% of cases, I would guess in the remaining 25% of cases the man was probably pushed to it. The only time I can see a man divorcing to go off with another woman is when he is rich enough so that it won’t have a massive impact on his lifestyle.

For the majority of men divorce is financial rape, they lose their house, 50% of their pension and have to pay alimony/child support for the foreseeable future. In the UK it is likely the judge will award the wife the house but the husband will have to stay on the mortgage as she cannot afford it on her own. Because of this the man will not be able to buy another house so he will be trapped renting or living with his parents for the rest of his life. The Wife keeps the house and will no doubt move her new Chad in as soon as possible who the ex husband will have to meet every time he goes to see the children

By the time he is financially free of her he will be too old to get a mortgage so can also look forward to being poor in his old age.

Trust me, as a man Divorce f~~~s over the rest of your life financially.

The reality is, a woman is quite happy to f~~~ over a man, happy for him to live in a bedsit and happy for him to have no money for the sake of feelings and gina tingles.

For women, everything eventually boils down to Alpha Fucks, Beta Bucks.

[OgreParticipant 5863]

Most men only think tactically. “What do I need to do today to keep her from being mad at me today?”

I have spent 7 years playing out the clock on child support. I way under-bought on my current house that she’ll get, and Congress set my losses before I was born. Everybody who raised their hand for USFSPA can blow me.

I could hop in my car and go. It wouldn’t hurt me. The last kid in the house is cool, wife’s tolerable and impotent to hurt me. All because of a long game strategy.

I failed to realize in my youth that I was the prize. I was going to work. I was going to earn. Little did I realize that due to feminism, that no longer meant I had to share. Road soon, Desert after.

[Secret Agent MGTOWParticipant 22514]

Have a friend who I helped file paperwork for divorce. She wanted it but in these cases it is always better to be plaintiff rather than defendant. Many lawyers will tell you it does nor matter, but it really does matter. You want to be the plaintiff, especially if you are the guy. The deck is already stacked against you, being plaintiff is a better situation than being a defendant.

Women want everything, but want responsibility and accountability for nothing.

[narwhalParticipant]

Knight of Wands wrote:

It bothers me that men are almost always seen as selfish or insensitive when they initiate divorce, but when women do the same, are commended for acknowledging their indepedence and taking action.

I don’t think that’s entirely true. My ex wanted the divorce and alienated several friends in the process. The felt like she was being selfish and putting her own needs in front of the needs her family. Maybe that’s the exception, I don’t know.

However, what I think is different between a man and woman is that a woman will have little issue dropping her disapproving friends and finding new friends she can play victim to. She’ll find other women who made the same choice she did. She’ll find men who want to white knight her.

That’s not to say that men aren’t similar in this regard, I just don’t think it’s as easily done. A divorced man will have trouble befriending a married man because the wife will not approve. A divorce man isn’t going to find a woman who wants to swoop in and save him from his depression.

I guess what I’m saying is, the people who know about the relationship are likely to treat the divorcing couple fairly I think. The difference is in how society in general, the resources available, are different between men and women.

Or maybe that’s me.

Ok. Then do it.

[ForeverDoneParticipant 2928]

I made the mistake in thinking marriage would bring us closer and make her happier, so I reluctantly did so. She was too busy to plan the majority of the wedding, so I did it. Heck, she was too busy for the damn tasting (should had seen the signs). I threw her an amazing wedding. Small problem.. She started to gain weight and could not fit into her dress comfortably. I, of course, wasn’t informed of this until after the wedding day. I planned a nice honeymoon at the Venetian in Las Vegas in a top level sweet and business class tickets on JetBlue. The honeymoon alone would had cost 5k – 7k. However, I was smart and I used my points from credit card signups to pay for the flight and week long hotel stay. Unfortunately, due to her weight gain and how tight her wedding dress was, she developed hemorrhoids. These were huge and blue/purple. It was advised for her not to fly. So, I lost 300,000 points and 70,000 miles. I tried to make it up and we drove to Atlantic City. She wasn’t liking it.

More issues arose. Lack of communication, sex stopped within a year, and we weren’t spending time with each other. I VAR’d her favorite places to find out what’s really going on. My sister thought she was cheating, I couldn’t prove it. Plus, I think she just didn’t like sex. She was planning on leaving, just couldn’t afford it. She needed a year or two to build up the strength to leave and $$$. One would think a woman who’s 42 would have some savings. Nope. She spent what she earned with no retirement aside from a pension from an intuition which has financial issues (like her. lol).

I filed for divorce as soon as she asked for an open marriage and kicked her out two weeks later. Of course, since I had an iffy feeling that the marriage wouldn’t last, I put in certain insurances that I’d be okay financially. I offered her a walk away no contest divorce, she threw the papers at me and said no. We both hired attorneys and she stalled the divorce for 1.5 years. Nearly as long as the marriage. In the end, I was ok financially, but she was hurt bad.

The lesson here… One, do NOT get married. It’s a sham. Two, in any relationship, YOU be the chameleon. Therefore, when s~~~ hits the fan, you can stay calm, carry on and handle your business. When something doesn’t work, you attempt to fix it and then if it doesn’t want to get fixe, you exit expeditiously.

What a racket. BTW, all family law attorneys should be hung, castrated and shot. They are the lowest form of attorneys out there…

[ForeverDoneParticipant 2928]

Oh, yea, by the way. I am considered an evil, heartless man who divorced an innocent woman by my former friends/family. Just remember, this evil heartless man tried to fix the marriage, the wifey just laughed. Gotta love the one sidedness of these things… After all, I gave her what she said she wanted… LOL.

[BeerParticipant 11832]

Won'tGetFooledAgain wrote:

For the majority of men divorce is financial rape, they lose their house, 50% of their pension and have to pay alimony/child support for the foreseeable future. In the UK it is likely the judge will award the wife the house but the husband will have to stay on the mortgage as she cannot afford it on her own. Because of this the man will not be able to buy another house so he will be trapped renting or living with his parents for the rest of his life. The Wife keeps the house and will no doubt move her new Chad in as soon as possible who the ex husband will have to meet every time he goes to see the children

By the time he is financially free of her he will be too old to get a mortgage so can also look forward to being poor in his old age.

I got a buddy in this exact situation…bought a house in a town that had a good school system, got spanked with divorce with the agreement that she would get the house but had a set amount of time to refinance and get him off the mortgage. When the time was up and she hadn’t done it, she claimed she claimed the bank wouldn’t allow her to refinance because she didn’t make enough, so if he pushed the issue she’d have to pull the kids out of their school…which was the entire reason he bought a house in that town, so in other words she pretty much put him in a lose lose situation as far as he’s concerned.

Now he’s stuck renting as his income – child support – alimony and having a mortgage with his name on it won’t allow him to qualify for another mortgage, and he’s stuck in that position until he’s in his early 50s…at which point…there really isn’t much point in taking out a mortgage since he just doesn’t have enough years left to live in a paid off place long enough to bother with the hassle…I mean…what’s he going to drag a 30 year loan into retirement and pay it off in his 80s? Kinda pointless and not really practical.

How would his life be different now if he never married the c~~~ and never lost his house? Assuming he bought it at 30 he’d have it paid off by 60, earlier than when most people retire, at which point he’d have the option of living there mortgage free which is much cheaper than renting, or selling it, downsizing, and using the difference to pad his retirement savings. Either one of those options would have been massively favorable compared to the situation he’s in now. Even if he still had his kids with her, but simply never married…he still would have been off the hook for alimony, so that would have been a nice chunk of money in his 401k instead of in her bank account. His divorce will probably set his retirement numbers back a million dollars when its all said and done…I can’t possibly imagine whatever pussy he got during that time was worth losing out on a million bucks.

[iMickey503Participant 12465]

Leaving the country and coming back in after you change your name sure seems to be a better idea.

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