Difficulty getting over bullying in HS

[traditionalist11Participant 1]

An online forum isn’t my first choice for posting this, but I’ll do it anyway because I need some feedback at this point and I am literally going insane. I’ve been out of high school now for some time but lately I am finding it very difficult getting over bad memories of being pushed around half a dozen times in HS. What makes it worse is that it happened when I was 17-18. Not anything too extreme, typical immature high school garbage where I got humiliated by a bigger kid a few times mixed in with one fight where I got destroyed.  Actually, after I got beat up things pretty much ended with the punk, other than him telling a few guys my punches felt like feathers which still bothers me. But the worse memories come from everything prior that. I just made my introduction a few days ago, but I went to a very typical rich suburban high school and as a new kid, I was extremely shy and that can be pretty hard for a more introverted person to adjust to (this also caused me to “pedestal” women later on). I literally had panic attacks just walking through the halls all the way up until graduation. I ate lunch in my car sometimes, I just couldn’t connect with anybody in that environment, too much immaturity from guys who had the IQ of a monkey and I just didn’t fit in.

Anyways, for the last year and a half I have re-lived these bullying incidents like literally 100 times a day in my head, from the time I wake up to the time I go to bed. I see this punk’s face in my mind perfectly, and I hate it. My breathing speeds up and there is even slight chest pain at times when I think about it. I keep re-playing in my head what a punk he was, and how I should have acted like a man and got physical early on, and I am disgusted with myself for letting this punk getting under my skin both then and now. This mental prison that I am in is breaking me down, and it needs to change soon.

[a bananaParticipant 288]

Ok, first things first, the past is the past you cant change it.

Saying that it would appear this stems from insecurity based on societal standards i.e. as a man you have to be strong etc.

I would suggest you work on your ego, a healty ego will never be broken, do that through training your mind and body.

Read books to stimulate your mind, work out to stimulate your body, your wasting time thinking about the past, force yourself into the future and you’ll forget the past, because in all honesty, it doesnt mean s~~~.

It should not and will not define you, you define you. Good luck

[RoyDalParticipant]

Have you considered getting into boxing classes, or some other martial art? Krav maga maybe?

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[Anonymous 1]

Hey there Traditionalist,

I’ve been through some similar experiences. In the end, all you can do is endure for now. It sounds harsh, but really, there is nothing you can (or should) do. Success is the best revenge, so keep that in mind. Work on yourself and on your goals and let these assholes behind. By remembering these acts, you are carrying them on your back. They don’t deserve even that. There is an ancient Chinese proverb that a friend of mine used to tell me: “Wait on the shore, and let the river bring the bodies of you enemies”. Or something like that. The message was, usually these people are not assholes just with you, they are assholes with everybody. It is just a matter of time when they will put their foot on their mouths and get themselves into a situation that they will have no other choice then suffer the consequences. Karma, in a way, works. It doesn’t prevent people from taking s~~~ty decisions, however sooner or later those decisions will bite them in the ass (that’s what I like to believe anyway). The only thing is, you will not be able to see it, but it will happen. So, although memories can be difficult to deal sometimes, try not to be consumed by them.

I had some pretty rough life in High School as well, and took me a long time to get over it. But when I look at my life now and the life the so called “popular kids” are probably having nowadays, I feel pretty lucky. Despite not being the most athletic, “smart”, articulated by any means, the hardships I’ve been through made me stubborn as hell. And THAT is what makes you succeed. Learn to grow from your difficulties. Those that are used to success, give up at the first sign of trouble. Be glad you are not of them, you are most likely to prevail no matter what s~~~ life throws at you.

Be safe brother.

Cheers

P.S.: You know, I really don’t like traditionalism, why did you had to get this nickname…. whyyyyy?!!? 🙂

[MgtowWaveParticipant 4352]

How badly is it affecting you? Do you think you need some professional counseling ?

Bullies are just part of life.There are bad people,very bad people all over the world.

There are terrorists and murderers ,criminals and thugs, insane  military commanders and rape gangs,corrupt politicians and police and corrupt politicians who cater to feminism .

You need to decide and evaluate your situation and decide what measures are necessary to deal with it.

Professional help for example.

frankly my dear i don't give a damn

[peterfaParticipant 833]

Just go to Charles Les Schwab and get your tired rotated. You’ll your bullies there, because that’s where they go.

[John DoeParticipant 743]

Learn to fight or die trying.  You are going to have to overcome yourself before you overcome anyone else.  A lot of histories bad asses had very similar circumstances to yours.  You are going to have to view this as an opportunity.  Not to many people receive the gift of anger.

[DoinMyOwnThing40Participant 1000]

Although you can not change the past, like another poster said, you can change yourself NOW. I strongly suggest you enroll in a good MMA school.

If you only want to pick one or two things to learn, go with Muay Thai Kickboxing and Brazilian Jiu Jitsu. To be a complete fighter you need both stand up and ground skills. You also need skills in the clinch and both arts that I mentioned will also touch on that (if you are in a good school).

Learning the martial arts will NOT change the past. But it will make you more confident so that you know that you will never get bullied again.

As an adult, you really don’t need to know how to fight like you should have when you were in middle school and high school. But like I said, the past is over and there is nothing you can do about that now.

Take  my advice, it will do your mind and your body a world of good. I absolutely guarantee it.

Women are parasites. Each and every last one of them.

[traditionalist11Participant 1]

Thanks for the responses, I already feel a lot better. I actually did get an MMA lesson last month and it felt really good. But I don’t know if I will go back because of the cost and also because I am limited with a radial head injury on my elbow years ago which limits me. I have talked to my father about this, and he has said I’m making a bigger deal out of this then it is. But I feel very inadequate measured against him, he is a real tough guy retired city cop and his life has been so much harder than mine.

And I chose the name traditionalism because I believe in a traditional gender roles supported by laws against feminism. If a woman is committing adultery with a co-worker and wants to leave her husband of 20 years she should be leaving barefoot with nothing, not gaining a house/custody of children/and alimony. I also believe women should be officially paid less and encouraged to stay home so wages will improve for men.

[MithrilParticipant 17]

a banana wrote:

Ok, first things first, the past is the past you cant change it. 

Actually that’s not true.  While you may not be able to change whether or not the event took place, you can change the meaning of the event and that’s enough to free you.

Find a life coach who understands Anchoring and a technique called “Change Personal History.”  S/he’ll be able to get you past this in under an hour.  Works best face to face.

Mithril

[J.D SilvernailParticipant 383]

I had worse problems in middleschool. The best way to get over it is to focus on the present and only the present. The past doesnt matter.

I'm married to the game,but she broke her vows.

[BigDParticipant 3024]

The dirty little secret is everyone has been bullied and everyone has bullied.  I’m pretty sure you are a bit mentally superior to those that have tormented you.  The best way to get back people like that is to become personally successful.

I am not going to lie to you.  If you p~~~ me off, especially this day and age, I will bully you with nothing more than facts and logic.  I have made grown men cry by just throwing up the mirror and making them see the failure that they are.  However, I do not do this based on any HS interactions I have had.

Let me tell you what HS is good for.  Teaching you exactly what you don’t want to be.  Most HS teachers are there because they are failures in life.  Most of the folks that succeed in HS will be in their 30s wearing their letter jacket on their way to some bulls~~~ job.  The students that studied their asses off and made straight As throwing up the same bulls~~~ they ate down make great cogs in the wheel to make someone else rich.

I remember when I was in HS.  There was this f~~~ed up poster on the wall that said, “Enjoy these years.  They will be the best years of your life.”  I hated that poster.  I knew it was the truth for some, but it wasn’t going to be the truth for me.  Do you know what the best year of my life is?  This year.  Do you know what the best year of my life is next year?  It will be next year.

I am not going to lie.  I work my ass off.  I work more hours a week than most CEOs.  But the work I do is extremely important.  I love it.  When people literally cheer for you when you do your job, you know you have the right job.

My life is awesome.  I have been all over the world and have had more than my fair share of physical labors with the ladies.  I wouldn’t trade my life for anyone else’s.

Did HS suck?  Yes it did.  I was fortunate enough to realize early HS was BS and just something I had to get past in order to get life rolling proper.  I do believe this is one of the many shortfalls of having just women raising children.  Especially boys.  No one is there to tell you, “HS is a lie.  These are not the best days of your life.  Your accomplishments here will be forgotten right after you graduate.  HS is established to brainwash you into being a good slave.  Pursue your own wants and needs.  Do not let a bunch of window lickers dictate who you will be when you get older.”

HS is a woman and leeches paradise.  It is what society will become if we keep voting away our freedoms and rights.

I could keep going but I have more awesomeness to attend to.

Don't stick your dick into anyone you aren't willing to put up with for eighteen years and nine months.

[John DoeParticipant 743]

BigD wrote:

There was this f~~~ed up poster on the wall that said, “Enjoy these years. They will be the best years of your life.”

+1

This is bulls~~~, I am more “content” (if one can be truly content in this life) now than I was in highschool.  Even with the different issues I have now, I would not trade these years to go back.  I am still young, but one thing I have learned quickly is that age does help clear up certain priorities and that in itself is liberating.  Assuming I stay healthy, I look forward to growing old because the more I understand (in a general sense) the more uphill life becomes.

Let’s face it, highschool kids (even the smart ones) are naïve and stupid.  What do they know about happiness or prosperity?

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