Did Watching Your Parents Over The Years Help You Stay Away From Marriage?

[DoinMyOwnThing40Participant 1000]

Growing up, looking back, how did your Dad do with his life? Was he in a happy marriage with your Mom?

Whenever my Dad is real angry at Mom, I ask him if he is sorry he ever got married. He will usually say “Yes, but I know that the alternative is a lot worse of a woman than her. There are some horrible bitches out there.”

Real compelling reason to get married huh?

 

Women are parasites. Each and every last one of them.

[BeerParticipant 11832]

It cracks me up talking to my parents now.  Whenever its a conversation with my mom…”When are you going to get MARRIED and start having grand babies?”  I think she thinks I’m joking when I tell her maybe she’ll have a grand baby someday but I’m never getting married.  The way I look at it is child support is only going to f~~~ my finances up for 18 years max, where as child support + a divorce can potentially f~~~ my future finances up for life, and potentially even f~~~ up some investment I’ve already made in the past.

But my dad…in my early 20’s if I was like “Why did you ever marry her?” he would whip out the not all women are like that crap…that I just had to find a good one, not one like my mom.  Now that I’m in my early 30’s though…his lines have changed to “You know, you don’t have to get married if you want kids these days,” or “I don’t know why any young man would ever get married in today’s society.”

[MendokusaiParticipant 256]

Hell yeah! My mother running off when I was eight for some A-hole leaving my old man to raise me was a good start.

Even though he was a terrific father his taste in womin did not bear close examination lets just say.

My step mom had all the maternal qualities of a walking freezer unit although I bet she didn’t realize that was in the kitchen.

So in highschool  when my friends were banging anything fetard,I was hanging back,observing and waiting.

As such I’ve had a few relations~~~s but still smart enough to keep separate addresses and use protection even when they told me “I’m on the pill”.

 

[Anonymous 9]

My folks were married for 56 years. My mother passed away last year at this time. My dad still carries on. I never saw them argue in their relationship but I felt the tension when mom was upset. I believe she took a lot of her frustrations out on me, the first son and second oldest of 7 kids. She called me defiant but I stood up to her a lot. Got my share of beatings for it. From her, not my father. She told me I said I wish there were no mothers just fathers when I was a kid.

I was VERY cynical about marriage. My parents were both very devout Roman Catholics so there was no birth control. I’m certain mom got pregnant every time they had sex other than when she was already pregnant. 7 kids and 3 miscarriages in 9 years. Dad was a horny son of a gun. A virgin at 29 when they married. I believe once he got a taste of sex he was addicted and back in those days a wife wasn’t able to say no. It was her duty. Mom told me she hated sex because of the constant pregnancies. I understand now.

Mom had dad trained well. In the latter years of their relationship he would write her little notes if he went to the mailbox to pick up the mail. I used to joke he had to write her a love note if he left the room. He doted on her the last few years of her life. He confided to me that his purpose in life was to take care of her. I have tremendous respect for him and often tried to stand up for him when she would do her little manipulative complaints about him. He would just shake his head at me and say let it go. He always told me it took a bigger man to walk away from a fight. I’ve asked him about marriage and he has told me never make the same mistake ONCE. He is 86 years old and only been with 1 woman. He is as close to a saint as I would know.

Telling him that I had gotten my GF pregnant was probably the hardest thing I’ve ever had to do. Being Roman Catholic I did the “right thing” and married her. We fought, oh did we fight. Ironically my ex’s birthday was the day before my moms. They were both Geminis.

I would probably not have married if not for the pregnancy.

RIP mom.

[Puffin StuffParticipant 24979]

My parents stayed married. I think in some ways having your parents stay together is worse than if they split up. At least if they split up you have some frame of reference.

For me, the idea of getting divorced was unthinkable as it was with my parents entire generation, born around 1930.

So I was blind sided by the changes in our culture. Now with the rising single mother rate, men have to again deal with a new phenomenon, the Bastard and the Bride. I know it sounds harsh but not raising the harsh realities has gotten us where we are. F~~~ed up s~~~ creek without a canoe.

Single mothers are raising a generation of bastard children. Bastard children are well known though out history for the way they are treated by their family and their peers. They are known to be damaged goods. Because that’s what they are. They have two strikes against them from birth. A psycho-mom and complete absence of their father from their life. Of course the walking ATM makes payouts like clockwork.

No amount of money will turn a bastard child into a legitimate child. Feminists think we have overcome our basic nature because we are so progressive.

I tell you, men in college today are learning the true ways of women. No empathy for men. No due process of law. Men are officially second class citizens in our new anti-white hetero male apartheid.

Maybe seeing divorce from the inside will save some young men from making that fatal error and thinking that ticking time bomb in your bed is “not like that”.

#icethemout; Remember Thomas Ball. He died for your children.

[Smitty the Great OneParticipant 1535]

Hell no, my parents have a damn near perfect marriage, it’s a little disheartening to be honest. They each had their role and both did their share to make a good family. It left me with an unreasonably high expectation of how relationships actually worked. I’ve given up on trying to find anything like what my parents had, it’s just not happening.

Life is too long to play by someone elses rules....

[TaoTheMgtowWandererParticipant 263]

My mom and dad had fights over there child’s “future.” almost every single f~~~ing day for about 8 years.  soon as i finished college, my mom couldn’t take it anymore and divorced him, took him for as much as she could get, and is now feasting on him like a tic drinks the blood of its victim. (vaginamony, and anything else she could get as well.)

My parent Marriage was a destructive hellish soul  crushing crucible that ruined my childhood.

A few weeks ago, my mom and her boyfriend got drunk as a skunk, had a fight, and she “left” him.  On the plus side, she can no longer drink (or bring drugs) into my house, she can no longer feed into that addiction in my presence and within my house. (she is back f~~~ing him again, though they both have learned there lesson now, and im leaving, im done with her bulls~~~, and i wish i had found this site back before i had to make a choice for who to go with, and being upset at the time, i ran for the only person who stood up for me at the time.(Biggest f~~~ing mistake ever!)  My dad is an ass, but he was pretty rational.

However…soon as I move out, I don’t care if her f~~~ing house burns down around her ears, so long as it holds together long enough for me to leave.  I’m done with this bitch, im out of here.  Set off date is end of June at the latest, and i appreciate you guys for all the help you have given that i am making the right decision.

My peace of mind is worth more then your vagina...cunt.

[SnakeyXTParticipant 12]

Smitty the Great One wrote:

Hell no, my parents have a damn near perfect marriage, it’s a little disheartening to be honest. They each had their role and both did their share to make a good family. It left me with an unreasonably high expectation of how relationships actually worked. I’ve given up on trying to find anything like what my parents had, it’s just not happening.

snap.  same thing on my side.  we both have an excellent reference point to what a healthy relationship looks like and the personality required to pull it off.  like you, i fail to see any chance of that for myself, the social zeitgeist of the day makes this nearly impossible.  i just couldn’t be bothered

[FitzBonesParticipant 304]

Mine simply taught me no second chances. My parents split when I was 17, but Dad let her come back when I was 19. Theyre content with each other but definitely not happy. He shuts down n bottles it all up, she vents and escapes into her work. Not healthy, not productive and they were both happier seperated; they split for a reason and they forgot that reason..

"If you can fill the unforgiving minute with sixty seconds' worth of distance run,"

[Everything is all we’ve gotParticipant 233]

My mum and dad split when I was 6 so I can’t really remember that one. But when my mum remarried to the rebound she had he turned out to be an abusive asshole to me and my siblings which lasted 10 years too long.

On my dad’s side, he is the biggest blue pill mangina I know. He did a good deed for a woman who had just been kicked out of her house by her ex. My dad let her and her son stay and they ended up getting married and her ‘accidentally’ becoming pregnant.

He’s still married with the biggest narcissist obese bitch and my half sister is 8. He just looks like the most miserable person ever, even in his solid blue pill state he even told me “Don’t ever let a woman trap you”. She checks through his emails, mobile phone, made him cut contact with most of his friends and even recently I found her to have looked through MY facebook private messages.

I’ve decided I won’t go back to my dad’s house if she’s going to be there. My dad knows that if she divorces him it’ll ruin him financially so he’s stuck, I used to feel sorry for him but he lets her treat him this way so I just pity him now.

To answer the thread question, hell yes, my dad looks a broken man, but when I told him I have no desire to ever marry he came out with the “You’re only 21, you’re naive”

"You can suffer from a life experience, or you can learn, move on and thrive."

[experiencedParticipant]

My dad knows that if she divorces him it’ll ruin him financially  so    he’s     stuck

"It seems like there's times a body gets struck down so low, there ain't a power on earth that can ever bring him up again. Seems like something inside dies so he don't even want to get up again. But he does."

[Puffin StuffParticipant 24979]

No, your stuck because you think you’ll be ruined financially by divorce. Once you realize money is not that important and your kids will have the relationship with you that would probably happen anyway, you realize your stuck in a bad situation because you don’t have the b~~~~ for change.

Then you have to ask yourself. Is my life worth anything? Do you want to spend it unhappily with a woman that will likely dump you anyway, or are you a man of value and take care of yourself first and foremost.

Your wife certainly takes care of herself first and foremost.

#icethemout; Remember Thomas Ball. He died for your children.

[Everything is all we’ve gotParticipant 233]

Puffin Stuff wrote:

No, your stuck because you think you’ll be ruined financially by divorce. Once you realize money is not that important and your kids will have the relationship with you that would probably happen anyway, you realize your stuck in a bad situation because you don’t have the b~~~~ for change.

Then you have to ask yourself. Is my life worth anything? Do you want to spend it unhappily with a woman that will likely dump you anyway, or are you a man of value and take care of yourself first and foremost.

Your wife certainly takes care of herself first and foremost.

My sister is very close to breaking contact with him and after what he’s said recently, I’m very close to cuttimg contact with him too so his wife has made him lose 2 of his children.

And I’m fully aware he’d probably take the marriage over his kids because he’s too far into that bitch’s web

"You can suffer from a life experience, or you can learn, move on and thrive."

[EgoisteParticipant 53]

Best advice that my Dad ever gave me, ‘don’t get married because it’s not worth it, and don’t think about any sort of relationship until you’re in your late thirties’.

[VectorParticipant 178]

Absof~~~inlutely… great topic by the way.  Throughout my whole life my parents would argue.  Usually my mother would be the one yelling and screaming at my father, talking down to him like he was a piece of s~~~.  And if I were ever around during a fight, he would ALWAYS say…”don’t get MARRIED!”  If I could count how many times I heard that line.  Still to this day, my mother treats my father like s~~~, tells him what to do and what not to do.  Truth is, my father feeds into the bulls~~~ by letting a woman run his life.  He tries to stand up for himself and shows strength at times but ultimately resorts to weakness much more often by seeking approval.  What should I do, how do I do this, where do you want to eat, what do you want to watch, constantly letting my mother make the decisions.

I’ve never EVER seen my parents hug, kiss, hold hands, show emotion, confess their love or anything of the sort.  It’s not that they hate each other b/c they are still together (probably b/c I was born and they felt obligated to raise a child) they just got used to each other.

Point is, as the years went by, I just kept seeing my father become more bitter and miserable by the day.  They never laugh or ever have good times together from what I’ve seen.  My mom gets p~~~ed when I tell her that their marriage is one of the reasons I never want to get married.  I would NEVER EVER put up with a woman talking down to me the way she scolds my father and degrades him.  I feel soooooo bad for him.  What a depressing life to live having to deal with a nagging bitch wife day in and day out.  And he’s a very peaceful, respectful and intelligent man.  He didn’t deserve this life, but got sucked into the trap.

My goal is just to f~~~ women and use them for their sweet scented pussies, indulge in their asses and sexuality, then move on to the next one.  Stay in the honeymoon phase (6-8 months) enjoy it’s benefits, then move on, because we all know all relationships go to s~~~ after the first year.  Once women start getting too comfortable and loose with the mouth, it’s time to kick that bitch out of your life, because there’s always another brand new pussy waiting for you out there that can’t wait to suck you off every night just like the last one before they got too comfortable.

[Sam RavenParticipant 181]

Constant arguing and disagreements. Nothing like what they said in the fairy tales.

Confusion when confronting the difference in reality and fairy tales with a young kid’s developing brain become disillusionment into the teen years as the arguing carried on with no end.

My mother told me what she felt about my father while telling me not to tell him anything. Later I had a automatic repulsive feeling that kept me at the level where girls were not good for long term relationships, took me a long while before I realized my mother’s behavior and my reaction to the idea of relationships were connected. The childhood experiences stay inside oneself and run on autopilot.

 

[Canadian SportsFanParticipant 216]

Vector wrote:

Absof~~~inlutely… great topic by the way. Throughout my whole life my parents would argue. Usually my mother would be the one yelling and screaming at my father, talking down to him like he was a piece of s~~~. And if I were ever around during a fight, he would ALWAYS say…”don’t get MARRIED!” If I could count how many times I heard that line. Still to this day, my mother treats my father like s~~~, tells him what to do and what not to do. Truth is, my father feeds into the bulls~~~ by letting a woman run his life. He tries to stand up for himself and shows strength at times but ultimately resorts to weakness much more often by seeking approval. What should I do, how do I do this, where do you want to eat, what do you want to watch, constantly letting my mother make the decisions. I’ve never EVER seen my parents hug, kiss, hold hands, show emotion, confess their love or anything of the sort. It’s not that they hate each other b/c they are still together (probably b/c I was born and they felt obligated to raise a child) they just got used to each other. Point is, as the years went by, I just kept seeing my father become more bitter and miserable by the day. They never laugh or ever have good times together from what I’ve seen. My mom gets p~~~ed when I tell her that their marriage is one of the reasons I never want to get married. I would NEVER EVER put up with a woman talking down to me the way she scolds my father and degrades him. I feel soooooo bad for him. What a depressing life to live having to deal with a nagging bitch wife day in and day out. And he’s a very peaceful, respectful and intelligent man. He didn’t deserve this life, but got sucked into the trap. My goal is just to f~~~ women and use them for their sweet scented pussies, indulge in their asses and sexuality, then move on to the next one. Stay in the honeymoon phase (6-8 months) enjoy it’s benefits, then move on, because we all know all relationships go to s~~~ after the first year. Once women start getting too comfortable and loose with the mouth, it’s time to kick that bitch out of your life, because there’s always another brand new pussy waiting for you out there that can’t wait to suck you off every night just like the last one before they got too comfortable.

 

F~~~ me, we’re cut from the same cloth.  Over the years my mother has become a total control freak bitch to my father.  He’s so sad now, he just calls her “she who must be obeyed”.  It’s f~~~ing pathetic.  She cusses him out for simple s~~~ like falling asleep in front of the TV, or turning the TV up too loud.  Back in the day she never would have said s~~~ to him.  He was a primary income alhpa male at one point.  40 f~~~ing years later she’s broken him down to the pont where he’s nothing but her servant who gets an occasional “get out of jail free” card to watch a football game with me or something.

 

[IGMOW (I Go My Own Way)Participant 2572]

Considering the hell everything is/was, I wasn’t too big on wanting to get married.  I know what feelings I have towards my father, so I know my kids could end up not loving me.  In addition, as the oldest, I ended up getting a brunt of the garbage that happened, and what I saw.  I still see it here.  So, I am under no delusions marriage is an end all and be all.  I also had to adopt a lot of coping on my own skills with this, so I am used to being single/unmarried.

My two younger brothers did get married, with the youngest one having  divorce, and my other brother (the middle one) ending up marrying a woman that is hell.

 

"I am my own thang. Any questions?" - Davis S Pumpkins.

[RusskyParticipant 13503]

I grew up in a perfect family – this was my major detriment to understanding marriage. I never seen them scream, fight, cheat, or somehow be unloyal to each other. On the other hand – I never seen them kiss and never heard them have sex.  They never told me ANYTHING about sexes or relationships or anything else. No advice whatsoever. I thought this was how it works with everybody else. So naturally I couldn’t wait to have family of my own
It was extreme laissez faire upbringing. I had to figure it all out by myself I guess. I got all of my sex role education from adventure novels, movies and porn. I was really idealistic with women at first. But being married to a crazy and stupid slut got me a masters degree in women’s studies. And then I found MGTOW content and now going for a doctorate

proud carrier of the 'why?' chromosome

[QcummerParticipant 652]

Russky wrote:

I grew up in a perfect family – this was my major detriment to understanding marriage. I never seen them scream, fight, cheat, or somehow be unloyal to each other. On the other hand – I never seen them kiss and never heard them have sex. They never told me ANYTHING about sexes or relationships or anything else. No advice whatsoever. I thought this was how it works with everybody else. So naturally I couldn’t wait to have family of my own It was extreme laissez faire upbringing. I had to figure it all out by myself I guess. I got all of my sex role education from adventure novels, movies and porn. I was really idealistic with women at first. But being married to a crazy and stupid slut got me a masters degree in women’s studies. And then I found MGTOW content and now going for a doctorate

@RusskyKGB – same situation here…except I got my degree by watching others. I should feel lucky, but I don’t. On a side note, I spoke with my Turkish friend the other day and he said when he came to the U.S., he saw how women were, and just accepted it…since it was all foreign to him. It was like nothing…he just accepted it in the blink of an eye. Those of us raised within the culture can have severe reactions similar to nervous breakdowns and PTSD. ‘Say it ain’t so!’. Sorry, it is so. Acquiring peace of mind after the shell-shock is tricky. I try not to take too many red pills, one is enough, and the memory of it is all I need to move forward and forget about the past. The future is bright if I decide that it is. So I choose light. Buy some Soul Glow!

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