Did something stupid today.. Reactivated social media

[ForeverDoneParticipant 2928]

Did something stupid today.. Reactivated social media.. My “friends” that I lost with my ex-wife divorce are all hanging out and seem like they are having a good time. I needed to activate it to work on some stuff I let go by the waist side during the last year. Truth be told, my previous career was in web development. I let those sites run by themselves w/o my interaction. Amazingly, they are still very active. I had to login and access the social features of those sites. Meanwhile, I stupidly checked my personal page and all the recent pics of my ex-friends with my ex-wife were shown. I’ve disabled the account an moved the sites to a new account, but the healed wounds opened up again.

Still sucks. I don’t mind being by myself at all. But, I do miss those people; even though they selected her over me. Main reason, their wives/gfs told them too. I’ve been doing most of the activities myself. I really do not have the urge to go make “new friends”. Friends, in the traditional sense, are temporary. Especially these days. Seems more than a means to an end. It just seems I am getting to the point that I am just done with people on a social level. I feel I’ve been burned so many times, why risk it again? Others who know me, think it’s strange that I am more happy, or at least content, when I am just on my own.

It’s still a hard adjustment for me when I see then in public and they just freeze or pretend not to even see me. It’s like 10+ years, who cares. I just raise my eyebrow in disbelief and continue on to my destination.

[Anonymous 6]

Just do what i do. I don’t write anything on my social media, i just look around to see what folks are doing. You don’t have to interact

[ForeverDoneParticipant 2928]

I don’t interact, just brought back memories. I disabled the FB account again, and created a new one. Never thought I would lose my whole social base. Granted, it was obviously fake, as they had no problem picking the opposing side. Guess “friends” are a commodity these days, just like everything else. Sad state of affairs. Ironically, two of them are in open relationships. Hence, that is where my ex-wife got the genius idea to offer me one. My response was to file for divorce.

[NerdTunnelerParticipant]

Just remember that in social media, they are posting the best of themselves. They are not enjoying what they are doing. They are chasing the likes and envy of their friends. Dont fall for that trap. Most people on social media are depressed and studies have shown that. Just focus on yourself…Dont chase happiness to prove to other people that you are happy. Just live your life and you will be fine…They are in debt anyway trying to keep up with the joneses…

I stand with feet apart and let my balls hang free...Manginas dont have balls...See how they stand and sit at the whim of their masters...

[ForeverDoneParticipant 2928]

I know. I do not post anything but site oriented stuff on my sites. My old FB profile just had pics of me and the ex. I’ve removed them.. She did the same. Well, she kept all of my house pics w/o me in them; which I thought was weird.

It’s a process.. I know. Just sucks.. Didn’t think I’d allow myself to be in this position.

[BubParticipant 1405]

ForeverDone wrote:

It’s a process.. I know. Just sucks.. Didn’t think I’d allow myself to be in this position.

How would you feel if you were still captive on her plantation?
That’s what I thought. You’re in a better place! Onward brother, your best days are still ahead….

Just rolling down the road

[Heave-Ho MgtowParticipant 1797]

I wanted to ride with a local bike group who does a 30 mile rides on Wednesday nights. They meet at different locations and the group got large so it’s a farce book group site.

I almost re activated my account, that has been dormant for over a year, just to see where the ride started. I Could not do it. Like you, it would be like looking in the rear view mirror, or the ghost of Christmas past just to ride with a group.

F~~~ that. I know I would end up looking around to see what old friends were doing. Farce book is some evil s~~~, designed to suck you in. It’s like a direct link to Langley anyway. Soon it will be illegal not to have one.

skip the cavernous vag and go your own way

[KeymasterKeymaster]

Appreciated the part about little desire to carve a new social circle. But you can look at that as a good thing. It means you prefer your own company, and even other people have noticed you’re more content overall.

Some people can’t stand it. … because they don’t like themselves.
That’s not bulls~~~ either.

ForeverDone wrote:

I don’t mind being by myself at all. But, I do miss those people; even though they selected her over me. Main reason, their wives/gfs told them too.

RIGHT. Social manipulation is the preferred female weaponry of choice. That’s what they do. A social standing is EVERYTHING to them. The minute they enter a room they want to know where they stand and their radars start beeping as they silently compare themselves to other women.

Men use bombs, guns, fist and knives to neutralize a threat. Women use social manipulation, backstabbing, emotional terrorism and ostracizing from a group. WHY? Because that’s what hurts them more.

At one time I had a massive social circle too, but it didn’t mean jack s~~~.

I f~~~ed them off my facebook list myself and got the hell out of there in 2011. Fantastic move too.

Let them WONDER about you. Because they WILL.
And just enjoy your life.

If you keep doing what you've always done... you're gonna keep getting what you always got.

[Anonymous 42]

^^^What KM said, plus you don’t want friends so intelectually weak that they follow a woman’s lead to isolate you from that clan. I say GOOD F~~~ING RIDDINGS! Their little social circle of who’s important and who’s not, is one big bag of trash that fate has it YOU SHOULD THROW OUT!

Your spirit of independence head f~~~s them way worse than they can ever do to you!

F~~~ those heads dry!

[GregB0Participant]

ForeverDone wrote:

I don’t interact, just brought back memories.

Dealing with old memories is good as it allows you to validate decisions you made afterwards, as well as being cathartic for memories you just scabbed over and did not address. They just fester and rot, dealing with them allows you to forget them and move on.

​"​My father didn't tell me how to live; he lived, and let me watch him do it.​" - Clarence Buddinton Kelland

[Anonymous 6]

It also allows you to see that you made smart decisions as opposed to the decisions of your peers.

[joetechParticipant]

I got another text from the ex today. She just noticed yesterday that I wasn’t on Facebook anymore. Why don’t I block her? Simple. She seeks out attention from me. It does my heart good knowing that everytime she comes home from work there’s an empty spot in the driveway where my truck used to be. There’s an empty spot in the yard where the camper used to be. There’s an empty spot in her bedroom where my mom’s dresser used to be, and all those empty places in her house add up to one thing. I’m gone. I know that she knows my other two nieces are coming to visit soon. I’ll be gone. Gone guy is who I’ve become. I won’t reactivate social media because as an old school, technologically inept old guy, I have no new pictures to post and no new info to share with people I haven’t seen since high school. Mystery is more powerful than evidence. Remember the movie Jaws? It was what you didn’t see that was the most frightening. The mechanical shark not working properly actually worked to the director’s advantage. Let her wonder if I’m doing well. Let her wonder if I have a new girlfriend. Let her wonder. It drives them nuts. They hate not knowing.

"Don't follow in my footsteps...I stepped in something."

[Anonymous 18]

Social media portrays fake, superficial emotions.

Its meant to portray disproportionately positive emotions. However that comes at an expense. Friendships are based on sharing good times, to boast about events, and to compare notes. Keeping up with Joneses of sorts.

And it leaves people dealing with negative emotions alone. An image they do not want to be shown in public.

Social media causes feelings of unworthiness and depression.

I prefer to take a walk in a park. Narcissists and attention whores don’t go to the park.

[CarnageParticipant 22113]

I just remember that when I was in a group picture that looked Soo nice on Facebook, I was smiling while asking my selft “wtf I’m doing here”.

Yeah all you see is bulls~~~ on Facebook.

Let them be like that, they will pay the price in a couple years.

😀

To those following me, be careful, I just farted. Men those beans are killers.

[CarnageParticipant 22113]

Anonymous wrote:

Social media portrays fake, superficial emotions.

Its meant to portray disproportionately positive emotions. However that comes at an expense. Friendships are based on sharing good times, to boast about events, and to compare notes. Keeping up with Joneses of sorts.

And it leaves people dealing with negative emotions alone. An image they do not want to be shown in public.

Social media causes feelings of unworthiness and depression.

I prefer to take a walk in a park. Narcissists and attention whores don’t go to the park.

What this guy said.

Amén 🙏🏿

To those following me, be careful, I just farted. Men those beans are killers.

[ForeverDoneParticipant 2928]

Bub wrote:

ForeverDone wrote:

It’s a process.. I know. Just sucks.. Didn’t think I’d allow myself to be in this position.

How would you feel if you were still captive on her plantation?
That’s what I thought. You’re in a better place! Onward brother, your best days are still ahead….

I’d kill myself. Misery, to her, loves company.. It was a loveless, sexless, emotionless marriage. All-in-all, a sham marriage. Never again. I was blind until the real wife came out. Ironically, she even said, this is the real her and only comes out when necessary. Should had divorced her ass then.

Keymaster wrote:

Appreciated the part about little desire to carve a new social circle. But you can look at that as a good thing. It means you prefer your own company, and even other people have noticed you’re more content overall.

Some people can’t stand it. … because they don’t like themselves.
That’s not bulls~~~ either.

ForeverDone wrote:

I don’t mind being by myself at all. But, I do miss those people; even though they selected her over me. Main reason, their wives/gfs told them too.

RIGHT. Social manipulation is the preferred female weaponry of choice. That’s what they do. A social standing is EVERYTHING to them. The minute they enter a room they want to know where they stand and their radars start beeping as they silently compare themselves to other women.

Men use bombs, guns, fist and knives to neutralize a threat. Women use social manipulation, backstabbing, emotional terrorism and ostracizing from a group. WHY? Because that’s what hurts them more.

At one time I had a massive social circle too, but it didn’t mean jack s~~~.

I f~~~ed them off my facebook list myself and got the hell out of there in 2011. Fantastic move too.

Let them WONDER about you. Because they WILL.
And just enjoy your life.

I’ve always preferred my own company over others. Other’s tell me it’s strange. I say, how is it strange? I enjoy being in good company. There’s no better than myself. If you are not comfortable by yourself, it would seem you have the issue, not me. Crickets.

She did say to them that I would be crawling back to her begging for forgiveness for her to take me back. I said, yea, fat chance. You’d have a better chance of the world blowing up tomorrow than me beg anyone for anything. I never in my life begged a person for anything, let alone an scorned woman. Still amazed at the world she’s living in. I wonder if the sky is blue in her world.

Anonymous wrote:

^^^What KM said, plus you don’t want friends so intelectually weak that they follow a woman’s lead to isolate you from that clan. I say GOOD F~~~ING RIDDINGS! Their little social circle of who’s important and who’s not, is one big bag of trash that fate has it YOU SHOULD THROW OUT!

Your spirit of independence head f~~~s them way worse than they can ever do to you!

F~~~ those heads dry!

Perhaps. There is a hidden meaning to all these pictures. I guess it is to tell me look how much fake good times and fun we’re having. Yet, they have no idea I’ve been rebuilding myself from the ground up. It’s taken me a year, and I have more to do, but I will get to the Zenith of my abilities.

GregB0 wrote:

ForeverDone wrote:

I don’t interact, just brought back memories.

Dealing with old memories is good as it allows you to validate decisions you made afterwards, as well as being cathartic for memories you just scabbed over and did not address. They just fester and rot, dealing with them allows you to forget them and move on.

No doubt, I know I made the right decision. She even told her supervisor, who cannot stand her, that if she had the money, she would had fought me tooth and nail. I do not know why she’s so p~~~ed. She got what she wanted. Very illogical.

Anonymous wrote:

It also allows you to see that you made smart decisions as opposed to the decisions of your peers.

Apparently, my divorce filing may have had an effect on two of the other couples in the group of thieves. Though, it was the women who filed, not men. I still feel like a fool. I sent her those stupid gift baskets at work and such. I looked like such a simp and spineless man. This was until I VAR’d her car and bag. Since then, I look at women and relations~~~s a whole lot differently now. It’s a zero sum game.

joetech wrote:

I got another text from the ex today. She just noticed yesterday that I wasn’t on Facebook anymore. Why don’t I block her? Simple. She seeks out attention from me. It does my heart good knowing that everytime she comes home from work there’s an empty spot in the driveway where my truck used to be. There’s an empty spot in the yard where the camper used to be. There’s an empty spot in her bedroom where my mom’s dresser used to be, and all those empty places in her house add up to one thing. I’m gone. I know that she knows my other two nieces are coming to visit soon. I’ll be gone. Gone guy is who I’ve become. I won’t reactivate social media because as an old school, technologically inept old guy, I have no new pictures to post and no new info to share with people I haven’t seen since high school. Mystery is more powerful than evidence. Remember the movie Jaws? It was what you didn’t see that was the most frightening. The mechanical shark not working properly actually worked to the director’s advantage. Let her wonder if I’m doing well. Let her wonder if I have a new girlfriend. Let her wonder. It drives them nuts. They hate not knowing.

Yea, I’ve taken the same approach. Since we’re 30 mins away from each other, there is little she can do to take tabs on me. I really do not think she cares at all. I wouldn’t be surprised that she’s jumping from dick to dick since she moved out. I know she had a lot of meaningless sex after her first divorce. Rinse and repeat.

Anonymous wrote:

Social media portrays fake, superficial emotions.

Its meant to portray disproportionately positive emotions. However that comes at an expense. Friendships are based on sharing good times, to boast about events, and to compare notes. Keeping up with Joneses of sorts.

And it leaves people dealing with negative emotions alone. An image they do not want to be shown in public.

Social media causes feelings of unworthiness and depression.

I prefer to take a walk in a park. Narcissists and attention whores don’t go to the park.

Seems many are just trying to justify themselves in the world today. I mean, it seems they all feel semi-important because they have a few hundred or thousand followers. If followers are what make people feel like they’ve accomplished something, I fear for our future as a mankind.

Carnage wrote:

I just remember that when I was in a group picture that looked Soo nice on Facebook, I was smiling while asking my selft “wtf I’m doing here”.

Yeah all you see is bulls~~~ on Facebook.

Let them be like that, they will pay the price in a couple years.

Karma is a bitch. Though, some people are able to avoid it for years and decades. Only time will tell.

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