Did she break the law?

[Governor Megachris%Participant 3584]

Start today. I didn’t sleep much the previous night and I slept in until about noon today. Invited a lady friend over. I wasn’t going to have to spend a dime on her. She just wanted someone to talk to, and in exchange she was going to cook me lunch and give me “other” favors as well. No money spent and she wasn’t going to be there that long? I didn’t see much harm in it.

My friend showed up about 12:30. I left the door unlocked for her to come in, just in case I was asleep when she came in.

Fast forward to about 12:45 PM.

We were in my bed, and she was giving me oral and I’ll admit it was awesome. It had been a while. I didn’t have to have sex with her, just let her tell me how her life’s going (which literally only was a 15 minute conversation).

As we were in the middle of the action, I had a YouTube video in my living room playing (something like Angry Video Game Nerd). I then suddenly heard MY MOTHER’S VOICE. “HELLO!?”, she shouts out to me. “WHAT ARE YOU WATCHING? This guy has a horribly dirty mouth!” I couldn’t believe it. My mom just barged her way into my apartment without knocking or calling (she sent ONE text but that’s it), all because she wanted to drop off a cup I left at her place when I attended my nephew’s birthday party the other day. She could have left it at my front door, but she QUIETLY let herself into my apartment as if she was sneaking in.

I’m in only my boxers and my friend is TOPLESS and she’s freaking out as I’m throwing on clothes and my mother comes into my room AS I’m throwing a shirt on. My mother proceeds to call me “disgusting” and “sleeping with a gold digger” and how I’m “having premarital sex” and also how “horrible I am.” The funniest thing was this friend and I weren’t planning on having sex anyway. She just wanted to talk to me and return the favor in a few ways.

(For anyone that remembers any stories on my mother in the past, she verbally and emotionally abused my sister and me and cheated on my father over 6 times in their 20 years of marriage. She then has married twice since then and not been completely faithful regardless. She even went as far as to invite my father to the Disney World trip she had planned at the end of the year! Unbelievable.

Anyway, back to the point of this story…)

Does anyone know the laws on apartments and people just barging their way in without an invite or without previous permission to do so? All she could do was tell me “I should have had my door locked.” I’ve NEVER had anyone come in uninvited in the over 2 years I’ve lived here, and didn’t expect her to come over.

Now she’s taking me off the list of going to the Disney trip at the end of the year (not that I care, really) and she’s canceling my phone (again, don’t care because I will get my own plan and then be 100% independent). She’s making all these stupid threats because I, a 28 year old man, had a woman over for only a couple of hours today.

She’s not a gold digger because she hasn’t asked for a cent from me and just asked to hang out for a bit and followed through with what she delivered.

Something about this isn’t right.

Was that movement illegal?

[Anonymous 54]

Not illegal if the doors open .lock it when your haveing sex.Strange mothers can be jealous of a sons lovers.

[Governor Megachris%Participant 3584]

Crap. I only had it unlocked for about 20 minutes and didn’t expect anyone. Friend’s not planning on coming back for a while anyway after that whole thing happened. Not because of me, but because of my mother and what she said.

[BlacqueJacqueShellacqueParticipant 6890]

Sorry to hear GM%. I think your mom is jealous too. Lock your doors bud.

[NerevarParticipant 8040]

Hmm, don’t think she broke the law. Your door was unlocked and all that. But she could’ve called first, or indeed leave the cup at the front door… but why go through all that trouble to bring a f~~~ing cup back?

My parents have a key to my place, but they always call first to see if it’s a good time for them to come by for coffee.

"One of the best things internet exposed is just how insane women are." - Freeman_K

[The_YoungParticipant 1073]

LOL WTF

Brother, we need to stick together.

[Governor Megachris%Participant 3584]

Thanks y’all. Something just didn’t feel right about her doing that. She’s NEVER done that before. I figured she’d know NOT to come into my place uninvited, and I’d have never expected her to have the gall to invite herself in.

[Anonymous 42]

Governor Megachris% wrote:

Something about this isn’t right.

Christopher! I own you! You’re not a person, you’re my PROPERTY!This isn’t your apartment! This is just another room IN MY DOMAIN!

WTF! Mickey f~~~ing mouse!

My mom has been in my house less times than I can count on both hands in 22 years, every time she had to be invited in, she would rather stand at the door in poring rain than EVER JUST BARGE RIGHT IN! She is an actual lady.

What your mom did is indicative of an attention whore that doesn’t know to treat her son like a man.

Lock your doors. She deserves it.

[Governor Megachris%Participant 3584]

What my dad said (who’s been apart from her since ’09) was pretty good:

“Son, you’re almost 30 years old. I’d not worry about what she thinks. What she said shouldn’t be a surprise to you in the slightest. Just keep doing you and taking care of yourself as you’re doing.”

Thing about it was not what she said, but what she DID.

I’m enjoying a day off work and she just welcomes herself into my apartment? C’mon now!

I didn’t let it ruin my day, though. My friend and I still enjoyed the next couple of hours and the rest of the day was wonderful…but good mercy that was one of the more…awkward moments in my life for sure.

[HitmanParticipant]

Dude. .
Be happy you can skip Disney. .
Disney SUCKS!
Oh, and lock the door. …

[Anonymous 54]

Nerevar makes a good point.All that trouble just to bring a cup by? She’s checking up on you.Shes jelous.I know that’s wierd,but my mother was the same way.Somesthings not right.A Man has a right to set his own boundrys. Even with his own Mother.

[Governor Megachris%Participant 3584]

Anonymous wrote:

Nerevar makes a good point.All that trouble just to bring a cup by? She’s checking up on you.Shes jelous.I know that’s wierd,but my mother was the same way.Somesthings not right.A Man has a right to set his own boundrys. Even with his own Mother.

That’s what I was thinking! I could have picked it up when I was in her area again (she’s only about 15 minutes away). She texted me not 10 minutes before she showed up, too. Go figure, I had my ringtone off though so I could sleep in peace.

It’s obvious that she didn’t have a moral right to just help herself into my place (unless she thought I’d died or something), but it’s even more annoying that my legal rights don’t prevent this kind of thing from happening. I felt incredibly intruded upon. :/

[Anonymous 42]

Hey Megachris, My father on the other hand did intrude on me once. To really drive the point home I asked him; ” what if you walked in on me and I was f~~~ing my boyfriend?”, silence.

I have a way of embellishing things to make a point…

[AttonParticipant]

She has far too much power over you if she is willing to pull something like that.

A MGTOW is a man who is not a woman's bitch!

[narwhalParticipant]

Chris, I think you’re looking at this wrong. Morality and the law are irrelevant. It’s your apartment, YOU decide what happens there, you decide who gets to be in your apartment, and you set the consequence for those who don’t follow your rules. That is it. End of story. No guilt trips, no negotiations.

Here’s what you do. Completely remove yourself from any sort of dependence on her. You then tell her she’s not allowed to enter your home without your permission. If it happens again, she will not be invited in again, much less be able to walk in uninvited.. Then you let her know that she doesn’t get to talk with you if she’s going to be judgmental of what you do in your own home on your own time. She will likely assume your bluffing, so you will need to follow through. You can give her another shot proper behavior, if you want to, if you reason to believe she will start behaving.

You will accomplish 4 things if you do this. You will raise confidence in yourself, you will improve (or remove) your relationship with mom, mom will respect you more, and that girl will likely come back to service you again.

Ok. Then do it.

[Silverstone the SecondParticipant]

The fact that you’re being lectured by your mother about appropriate sexual behavior is disgusting. Especially when they do s~~~ like cheat and all that. Come on, don’t pretend to be a saint, we know you’re not. So don’t preach at me.

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