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So your girlfriend wants you to pop the question. You’ve dated a while and things are pretty good. You’re happy. Not party with the guys happy, but content. Still, you have lingering doubts. Women call it cold feet. To you it’s uncertainty.
Welcome to the defining moment of your life.
In your mind you see her positives. She’s cute, you have similar interests she agrees with your politics. Maybe you already live together and share finances so marriage doesn’t seem like such a leap.
Sir. Take a step back. It’s not a leap. It’s the abyss. STEP BACK AND THINK. No harm done to just think this through.
I was in the exact position I just described.
Should you go against your gut…
The first thing that will happen is she’ll post the engagement. She’ll bathe in the attention. Her hive will congratulate her and the wedding day plans start.
Soon your married and you realize you don’t see your friends much. Just part of growing up you tell yourself. You also seem to be working more hours and she has set the priorities on purchases.
You find yourself asking to buy something. She sometimes allows it. But, reminds you of other important things that could be bought with it. She seems pushier than when you dated.
The holidays roll around. She makes the plans and tells you what they are. Her family is where you’ll be going. You go thinking next year you’ll go to yours. The women are all overweight. The men all look like they have given up. They look at you with pity.
You’ve worked hard at your job and they noticed. You’ve been given an opportunity to advance. There’s a little more risk and you’ll need to relocate. It’s still close and to good to pass up. It’s what you’ve always wanted to do. You go home excited. Can’t wait to tell her… She’s upset.
She likes her job. She likes the neighborhood. She likes safe. You don’t give your boss an answer in time and they give it to the next person up. They don’t forget either.
Months later you get the news. Congratulations you beat the pill! She’s decided she doesn’t want to work anymore and stays home.
You’re powerless to stop it
Years tick by like the drip of a faucet. Slow, boring, predictable. You find yourself thinking about the times you used to spend with friends. Having fun, carefree. The one night you guys were hammered around a campfire talking about your future plans. Now you hardly remember them. Even thinking about them hurts a little. Your friends are gone and your dreams are done for.
You are powerless to change it
Your cutie never really lost the weight from having the child. She hit a bit of depression the last year or so. Things are a bit cold at home. Lately it’s been best to sleep on the couch.
Your kid is now 10. Your wife decided to go back to work and seems to enjoy it. She goes to yoga twice a week and her mood has improved. Things are looking up. Which is good because you purchased a new house and your career is back on track. You don’t have any of your old friends but get along with her friends husbands okay.
It’s not a glorious life but your 401k is looking good and your house has equity.
Then it happens.
She tells you she’s not happy. You’re confused. She asks you to leave the house. She needs time and space. You’re caught completely off guard.
You comply.
A few days go by and you swing by to talk. There’s a strange vehicle in your driveway. Your gut sinks. You realize why she’s been happy.
She files the paperwork.
You’re powerless to stop her
She keeps the house, takes majority custody of the kid. Your 401k is split. The judge says you need to pay monthly support for her and HER kid.
You are powerless to stop it.
You think back. You realize you didn’t beat the pill, she quit taking it and made the decision for you. You passed on opportunities for her only to have her quit hers anyway. You supported her when she quit working. You put up with her mood swings and family. You lost contact with your friends. You lost.
You think back to when she announced the engagement and her friends all congratulated her. They knew she had just entered a win win situation. They also KNEW what you entered.
You HAD the power to stop it.
Women are dream killers. Master manipulators and takers.
I don’t say that as a bitter man who’s been burned. I stopped it and walked away.
I bring this up because a coworker, married for 19 years with 3 kids just discovered his wife has been cheating on him. He’s absolutely destroyed. He’s not taking our calls and I don’t know if he’s coming back. We work remote and I heard he got flown out on the first flight available. His dad caught her with another man when he stopped by.
My last conversation with him was about how happy he was. Just paid of his house in Alabama. Saving for his kids college was next. I’m sure that’s all changed.
Won’t happen to you?
Your girls not like that?
Neither was his
Women don’t know what they want next week, or month, certainly not next year…
You really expect her to take a lifelong oath seriously? Especially when you assume all the liability and she gets rewarded for breaking it?
Wise up
I sure can’t stop you. I can’t stop you from chasing your dreams either or starting a business or growing your wealth or traveling wherever you want whenever you want. I can’t stop any of that. But she can. All you need to do is pop the question.
Anonymous42In the end he does lip lock on a .357 and takes the easy way out…
In the end he does lip lock on a .357 and takes the easy way out…
Happens to often…
You really expect her to take a lifelong oath seriously?
I mentioned it once, but it’s worth repeating: a married woman once told me that the marriage oath is just words.
I mentioned it once, but it’s worth repeating: a married woman once told me that the marriage oath is just words.
Had a married coworker tell me “Marriage is just a piece of paper.”
Yup…one that can cost you a f~~~ ton of money…so why sign it when you have a lot more to lose than gain?
I mentioned it once, but it’s worth repeating: a married woman once told me that the marriage oath is just words.
Had a married coworker tell me “Marriage is just a piece of paper.”
Yup…one that can cost you a f~~~ ton of money…so why sign it when you have a lot more to lose than gain?
Yup
To those following me, be careful, I just farted. Men those beans are killers.
Anonymous7In the end he does lip lock on a .357 and takes the easy way out…
Dollars to Donuts this is what happened to Anthony Bourdain.
A rich, famous, successful man does not take a swan dive to destiny unless a wymut drove him to it.
You forgot to add that she’ll have you hauled off to jail for false allegations of domestic violence when you get home. They have all the cards.
Your 20's are for learning, your 30's are for earning.
This is exactly how it goes down. It’s very rare that it takes 19 years to get there, but it ALWAYS plays out similar to this.
The answer, is no.
So your girlfriend wants you to pop the question. You’ve dated a while and things are pretty good. You’re happy. Not party with the guys happy, but content. Still, you have lingering doubts. Women call it cold feet. To you it’s uncertainty.
Welcome to the defining moment of your life.
In your mind you see her positives. She’s cute, you have similar interests she agrees with your politics. Maybe you already live together and share finances so marriage doesn’t seem like such a leap.
Sir. Take a step back. It’s not a leap. It’s the abyss. STEP BACK AND THINK. No harm done to just think this through.
I was in the exact position I just described.
Should you go against your gut…
The first thing that will happen is she’ll post the engagement. She’ll bathe in the attention. Her hive will congratulate her and the wedding day plans start.
Soon your married and you realize you don’t see your friends much. Just part of growing up you tell yourself. You also seem to be working more hours and she has set the priorities on purchases.
You find yourself asking to buy something. She sometimes allows it. But, reminds you of other important things that could be bought with it. She seems pushier than when you dated.
The holidays roll around. She makes the plans and tells you what they are. Her family is where you’ll be going. You go thinking next year you’ll go to yours. The women are all overweight. The men all look like they have given up. They look at you with pity.
You’ve worked hard at your job and they noticed. You’ve been given an opportunity to advance. There’s a little more risk and you’ll need to relocate. It’s still close and to good to pass up. It’s what you’ve always wanted to do. You go home excited. Can’t wait to tell her… She’s upset.
She likes her job. She likes the neighborhood. She likes safe. You don’t give your boss an answer in time and they give it to the next person up. They don’t forget either.
Months later you get the news. Congratulations you beat the pill! She’s decided she doesn’t want to work anymore and stays home.
You’re powerless to stop it
Years tick by like the drip of a faucet. Slow, boring, predictable. You find yourself thinking about the times you used to spend with friends. Having fun, carefree. The one night you guys were hammered around a campfire talking about your future plans. Now you hardly remember them. Even thinking about them hurts a little. Your friends are gone and your dreams are done for.
You are powerless to change it
Your cutie never really lost the weight from having the child. She hit a bit of depression the last year or so. Things are a bit cold at home. Lately it’s been best to sleep on the couch.
Your kid is now 10. Your wife decided to go back to work and seems to enjoy it. She goes to yoga twice a week and her mood has improved. Things are looking up. Which is good because you purchased a new house and your career is back on track. You don’t have any of your old friends but get along with her friends husbands okay.
It’s not a glorious life but your 401k is looking good and your house has equity.
Then it happens.
She tells you she’s not happy. You’re confused. She asks you to leave the house. She needs time and space. You’re caught completely off guard.
You comply.
A few days go by and you swing by to talk. There’s a strange vehicle in your driveway. Your gut sinks. You realize why she’s been happy.
She files the paperwork.
You’re powerless to stop her
She keeps the house, takes majority custody of the kid. Your 401k is split. The judge says you need to pay monthly support for her and HER kid.
You are powerless to stop it.
You think back. You realize you didn’t beat the pill, she quit taking it and made the decision for you. You passed on opportunities for her only to have her quit hers anyway. You supported her when she quit working. You put up with her mood swings and family. You lost contact with your friends. You lost.
You think back to when she announced the engagement and her friends all congratulated her. They knew she had just entered a win win situation. They also KNEW what you entered.
You HAD the power to stop it.
Women are dream killers. Master manipulators and takers.
I don’t say that as a bitter man who’s been burned. I stopped it and walked away.
I bring this up because a coworker, married for 19 years with 3 kids just discovered his wife has been cheating on him. He’s absolutely destroyed. He’s not taking our calls and I don’t know if he’s coming back. We work remote and I heard he got flown out on the first flight available. His dad caught her with another man when he stopped by.
My last conversation with him was about how happy he was. Just paid of his house in Alabama. Saving for his kids college was next. I’m sure that’s all changed.
Won’t happen to you?
Your girls not like that?
Neither was his
Women don’t know what they want next week, or month, certainly not next year…
You really expect her to take a lifelong oath seriously? Especially when you assume all the liability and she gets rewarded for breaking it?
Wise up
I sure can’t stop you. I can’t stop you from chasing your dreams either or starting a business or growing your wealth or traveling wherever you want whenever you want. I can’t stop any of that. But she can. All you need to do is pop the question.
Just a great post. Thank you.
A picture of Hell on Earth, to be avoided at all gains (the costs come if you don’t avoid it).
A lot of those things happened to me…Its a downward spiral that just wouldnt stop…Im glad I was able to find this site and allowed me a breather…A chance to clear my head…To take control and responsibility of my own life…Yes, things may still be rough but I am no longer sinking…I am patching my life, one day at a time and I will overcome this hurdle…
I stand with feet apart and let my balls hang free...Manginas dont have balls...See how they stand and sit at the whim of their masters...
And now defacto means you have signed a virtual piece of paper…
Don’t cohabiate, be happy.Afinogyny.. from the Greek Afino {to abandon/ to set down/ to leave /to allow/ to let } + Gyny {Women} MGHOW’s philosophy to not engage women without “hating them”. Narcorca =Narcissistic Orca typically spouting to a bathroom mirror taking an arms length selfie ; Wallinate describes post wall females whose SMV is terminally negligible New Years resolution "To not make women happy" . Instadestitue: yet another Neologism for Men that cohabit with women that decide to pull the handle of intervention orders.
You really expect her to take a lifelong oath seriously?
I mentioned it once, but it’s worth repeating: a married woman once told me that the marriage oath is just words.
A woman will be held more accountable for a phone bill contract.
And now defacto means you have signed a virtual piece of paper…
Don’t cohabiate, be happy.The defacto system is literally nothing more than the ultimate form of predation.
A MGTOW is a man who is not a woman's bitch!
There was a young guy where I worked, good looking, friendly, a nice decent young man. He had a really nice Nissan 4wd, a beautiful ski boat with big powerful motor, worked hard and enjoyed himself.
One day a few of us older guys and he were sitting having lunch, when he announced he was getting married, we all just looked at him and shook our heads.
I said to him, ‘how much do you want for it?’
For what?
The boat.
I’m not selling the boat.
Yes you are.
I have no intention of selling it.
I didn’t say you intended to sell it, I just said you are, didn’t you just say you are getting married?
Just because I’m getting married doesn’t mean I will give up having fun.
And we all just laughed.I mentioned it once, but it’s worth repeating: a married woman once told me that the marriage oath is just words.
Had a married coworker tell me “Marriage is just a piece of paper.”
Yup…one that can cost you a f~~~ ton of money…so why sign it when you have a lot more to lose than gain?
It;s simply amazing how marriage can be the biggest thrill of a young woman;s life; then when older, it is “just a piece of paper.”
If that isn’t a blue-pill,”RED FLAG,” I don’t know what else would be one….
Did you ever notice the hardest things to get out of, were the easiest things to get into ??
Marry again, Hell NO ! ( Even JESUS was hung on a cross just once)
Makes no difference. Men are stupid f~~~ing assholes who do not listen. I haven’t had one nephew or friend listen to and heed my warnings about women. One knocked up a 19 year old and f~~~ed his life. Married her and is in the Navy headed for divorce rape and child support.
I’m done. I still drop red pills deadpan at all times but won’t try to convince anyone anymore.
Be professional be polite but always have a plan to kill everyone you meet.
OP post is basically the MGTOW mission statement.
Do not marry, do not get destroyed.I think I said it to a girl I was with who talked about marriage.
“I’ve shagged too many married women in the past to take it seriously.”"Have you ever thought about any real freedoms? Freedom from the opinions of others...even from the opinions of yourself?"
Makes no difference. Men are stupid f~~~ing assholes who do not listen. I haven’t had one nephew or friend listen to and heed my warnings about women. One knocked up a 19 year old and f~~~ed his life. Married her and is in the Navy headed for divorce rape and child support.
I’m done. I still drop red pills deadpan at all times but won’t try to convince anyone anymore.
I think you’re right. Most men think they’re different. Bullet proof or something equally stupid. They also think they’ll never get old. Then it happens
You forgot to add that she’ll have you hauled off to jail for false allegations of domestic violence when you get home. They have all the cards.
Definitely another way it can go!
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